Dating Vietnamese Girls – Everything You Need To Know

A battle ground, that’s what dating Vietnamese girl is like. And if you are not here for the sexy Vietnamese girls, you will be very soon as they soon take over your senses and focus onto them. In no other place on the planet have I felt such intense lust and sexual tension with the women. And it’s no surprise that people (even in modern countries) are impressed when you score with a Vietnamese chick.

If you want to meet Vietnamese girls easily, check out my personal experience of their biggest online dating site.

This is a guest post by Cyclone, a long term expat living in Vietnam.

Where to meet Vietnam girls?

If you’re already in Vietnam, then you only need to leave your hotel room. If you’re not, then Vietnam Cupid is probably your best bet. It’s the site I always use when I fly in, I setup dates with around 6-7 girls a few weeks before hand, and end up sleeping with at least half.

Around 99% of are regular Vietnamese girls, and 1% are hookers. They are pretty easy to spot though. Just setup a profile with 3-4 pictures, be friendly and just casually ask if they would like to meet up for a coffee or dinner when you land. Around 90% will agree. You can check the site out by clicking here.

Do keep in min that some girls will flake (perhaps 10-20%), but that’s normal. Just set up a number of dates and you will be fine.

Transparency in Vietnam girls

Don’t fall into the trap. Even though Vietnam is considered South East Asia, and thought of in the same boat with the likes of Thailand or Indonesia, the country has far more in common with China than those regions. This is due to 1) high population 2) language 3) it’s closed-off society and should approach the country with the same idea.

The one great thing I find about Vietnamese girls (which is also frustrating for every guy out there) is their blatant transparency. This is displayed in their emotions, body language, and voice. In modern regions such as North America, Europe, or Singapore, women have learned to put up “shields” over their true personalities as they grow to be an adult.

Vietnamese girls

When talking to a western chick, a guy has to cut through shield after shield just to get at the root of a girl’s true feminine side before being able to take control. In Vietnam, the barriers are all down. Vietnamese girls will attempt to lie or hide feelings you will always know where you stand with her, giving you an upper hand. The frustration lies in trying to shake them out of their state and acknowledging that you can see right through them.

The friend à lover curve

One of my favorite things that me and my interns would become familiar with is the “friend-lover curve,”. Which at first is frustrating but becomes a source of amusement over time. It means that right upon meeting a sexy Vietnamese girl(s), they are spiked with wonder and give you instant affection. This gives you the idea that they want to get romantic with you very soon just after a couple hours of meeting up.

It is flirtation of the highest degree. But, then it stops. The curve flattens – once you’ve got a good connection they refuse to let you grab them, take them home, put their arms around you on their bike. It is revealed that they very desperately just want to be your friend. Now obviously, that’s only how it appears to us, and what they really want is for you to ask them to be your girl friend (they always want it to be formal).

If you want to meet Vietnamese girls easily, check out my personal experience of their biggest online dating site.

But for a player like myself this is an absolutely no no proposal. It is also bit of a culture shock to see them put up a wall right when things could have gotten interesting. But hey, I have met some very sexy Vietnamese girls that I almost thought about having a serious relationship with.

A slap in the face

Vietnamese girls are stern, and I mean that in the best way possible. in the romanticized, classic sense of the word, when they start acting like the classic 1950’s uptight jealous wife, giving you a slap in the face for even seeing you walking (or riding motorbike with) another girl. Either that or an emotion fueled shouting battle, turning up some much-needed intensity in relationships.

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Which is great because that’s how you know Vietnamese girls are in love with you and can do whatever you want with them. Ensuring things stay simple and makes it a massive turn on. While it is trippy to experience dynamics as they were in the 50’s, the girl will not hesitate to get vicious, and that includes sleeping with other men or seriously fucking your shit up at home. It makes shaking the “player persona” a tempting route but the dynamic does make you into more of a man regardless of your approach.

Relentless testing and being the white night

It’s pretty obvious at this point in the article that cold approach pickup is non-existent here (other than the handful of clubs at Saigon). This is because it’s so easy to meet Vietnamese girls through social circles and Vietnamese dating sites (as long as it’s not your girlfriend’s social circle). Relationship game undergoes a lot of testing here, as are a man’s true commitment to his girl.

Now, I have had various experiences as have my friends, but there are two ways to react when a girl “tests” you. This includes ignoring you completely for 2+ days, flaking on a major date or commitment, or even claiming you stole something of theirs just to see how you react. One is that you ignore her back and dominate, taking on the player role; the other is to “fall in” to her trap of drama willingly and be on your knees for her, begging.

The first will prove that you are not clingy, the second would prove that you really are committed. The choice you make to get the bang depends entirely on how conservative or slutty the Vietnamese girl is. Of course, your true goal are always your own and you shouldn’t feel like acting like a white night if you don’t want too.

Saigon vs. Hanoi Vietnamese girls

This difference between political city vs. business city is common throughout much of Asia. It is the Beijing vs. Shanghai, the Delhi vs. Mumbai; and the Hanoi vs. Saigon is not much different. In the more communistic north, which is where I spent 9 months of my time, getting laid is *hard*.

This is due to how close they are with China both in terms of location and contract-like relationship culture. Although it does spike your exotic senses, it’s probably going to be a lot more dating and romance, and a lot less real action. In the south the women are equally beautiful. But while Hanoi girls strive for a “perfect” pure, model look, Saigon girls value and exhibit far more diverse, with colorful and fashionable clothes, and revealing attire.

They speak more English and are more down to fuck. Their core still feature the same values and you can find a wide range of conservative and liberal Vietnamese girls down here. Also, they tend to use online dating sites such as Vietnam Cupid, check it out.

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