Dating Vietnamese Girls – Everything You Need To Know

A battle ground, that’s what dating Vietnamese girl is like. And if you are not here for the sexy Vietnamese girls, you will be very soon as they soon take over your senses and focus onto them. In no other place on the planet have I felt such intense lust and sexual tension with the women. And it’s no surprise that people (even in modern countries) are impressed when you score with a Vietnamese chick.

If you want to meet Vietnamese girls easily, check out my personal experience of their biggest online dating site.

This is a guest post by Cyclone, a long term expat living in Vietnam.

Where to meet Vietnam girls?

If you’re already in Vietnam, then you only need to leave your hotel room. If you’re not, then Vietnam Cupid is probably your best bet. It’s the site I always use when I fly in, I setup dates with around 6-7 girls a few weeks before hand, and end up sleeping with at least half.

Around 99% of are regular Vietnamese girls, and 1% are hookers. They are pretty easy to spot though. Just setup a profile with 3-4 pictures, be friendly and just casually ask if they would like to meet up for a coffee or dinner when you land. Around 90% will agree. You can check the site out by clicking here.

Do keep in min that some girls will flake (perhaps 10-20%), but that’s normal. Just set up a number of dates and you will be fine.

Transparency in Vietnam girls

Don’t fall into the trap. Even though Vietnam is considered South East Asia, and thought of in the same boat with the likes of Thailand or Indonesia, the country has far more in common with China than those regions. This is due to 1) high population 2) language 3) it’s closed-off society and should approach the country with the same idea.

The one great thing I find about Vietnamese girls (which is also frustrating for every guy out there) is their blatant transparency. This is displayed in their emotions, body language, and voice. In modern regions such as North America, Europe, or Singapore, women have learned to put up “shields” over their true personalities as they grow to be an adult.

Vietnamese girls

When talking to a western chick, a guy has to cut through shield after shield just to get at the root of a girl’s true feminine side before being able to take control. In Vietnam, the barriers are all down. Vietnamese girls will attempt to lie or hide feelings you will always know where you stand with her, giving you an upper hand. The frustration lies in trying to shake them out of their state and acknowledging that you can see right through them.

The friend à lover curve

One of my favorite things that me and my interns would become familiar with is the “friend-lover curve,”. Which at first is frustrating but becomes a source of amusement over time. It means that right upon meeting a sexy Vietnamese girl(s), they are spiked with wonder and give you instant affection. This gives you the idea that they want to get romantic with you very soon just after a couple hours of meeting up.

It is flirtation of the highest degree. But, then it stops. The curve flattens – once you’ve got a good connection they refuse to let you grab them, take them home, put their arms around you on their bike. It is revealed that they very desperately just want to be your friend. Now obviously, that’s only how it appears to us, and what they really want is for you to ask them to be your girl friend (they always want it to be formal).

If you want to meet Vietnamese girls easily, check out my personal experience of their biggest online dating site.

But for a player like myself this is an absolutely no no proposal. It is also bit of a culture shock to see them put up a wall right when things could have gotten interesting. But hey, I have met some very sexy Vietnamese girls that I almost thought about having a serious relationship with.

A slap in the face

Vietnamese girls are stern, and I mean that in the best way possible. in the romanticized, classic sense of the word, when they start acting like the classic 1950’s uptight jealous wife, giving you a slap in the face for even seeing you walking (or riding motorbike with) another girl. Either that or an emotion fueled shouting battle, turning up some much-needed intensity in relationships.

VG 2

Which is great because that’s how you know Vietnamese girls are in love with you and can do whatever you want with them. Ensuring things stay simple and makes it a massive turn on. While it is trippy to experience dynamics as they were in the 50’s, the girl will not hesitate to get vicious, and that includes sleeping with other men or seriously fucking your shit up at home. It makes shaking the “player persona” a tempting route but the dynamic does make you into more of a man regardless of your approach.

Relentless testing and being the white night

It’s pretty obvious at this point in the article that cold approach pickup is non-existent here (other than the handful of clubs at Saigon). This is because it’s so easy to meet Vietnamese girls through social circles and Vietnamese dating sites (as long as it’s not your girlfriend’s social circle). Relationship game undergoes a lot of testing here, as are a man’s true commitment to his girl.

Now, I have had various experiences as have my friends, but there are two ways to react when a girl “tests” you. This includes ignoring you completely for 2+ days, flaking on a major date or commitment, or even claiming you stole something of theirs just to see how you react. One is that you ignore her back and dominate, taking on the player role; the other is to “fall in” to her trap of drama willingly and be on your knees for her, begging.

The first will prove that you are not clingy, the second would prove that you really are committed. The choice you make to get the bang depends entirely on how conservative or slutty the Vietnamese girl is. Of course, your true goal are always your own and you shouldn’t feel like acting like a white night if you don’t want too.

Saigon vs. Hanoi Vietnamese girls

This difference between political city vs. business city is common throughout much of Asia. It is the Beijing vs. Shanghai, the Delhi vs. Mumbai; and the Hanoi vs. Saigon is not much different. In the more communistic north, which is where I spent 9 months of my time, getting laid is *hard*.

This is due to how close they are with China both in terms of location and contract-like relationship culture. Although it does spike your exotic senses, it’s probably going to be a lot more dating and romance, and a lot less real action. In the south the women are equally beautiful. But while Hanoi girls strive for a “perfect” pure, model look, Saigon girls value and exhibit far more diverse, with colorful and fashionable clothes, and revealing attire.

They speak more English and are more down to fuck. Their core still feature the same values and you can find a wide range of conservative and liberal Vietnamese girls down here. Also, they tend to use online dating sites such as Vietnam Cupid, check it out.

22 thoughts on “Dating Vietnamese Girls – Everything You Need To Know

  1. Tommy
    27 July, 2016 at 5:56 am

    Hey…What about Da Nang ??? Does it really cost more there and more expensive to fly there? Why Saigon and not Da Nang ?

  2. Ron
    27 July, 2016 at 8:26 pm

    Hi, I went to Da Nang one month ago, and met a very attractive, smart girl. She speak English very well. So, I took a midnight ride by motorcycle with her, 10 pm – 2 am. She is very cute and nice. Once I got back to my country, our relationship continue by online chat in Facebook. Now, I think I really want to have a romantic casual “night game” with her. Will it be enough if I come back and meet her for 5 days?

    1. 27 July, 2016 at 11:15 pm

      Only one way to find out Ron. Best to be honest with her.

    2. opa61
      6 November, 2016 at 11:21 pm

      Hi RonNang and meet her. She will be very impressed and happy to stay with you a couple of days. Let you show the city, go with hher for dinner, make small gifts and she will eat out of your hand

  3. david
    3 October, 2016 at 12:04 am

    I have met a much much youngergirl on dating site she insists that i must meet her mother and have her approval bfoe she can date me. if things go well she says she will stay with me in hotel sometimes.i have heard it is illegal to take a girl to hotel if not married,Should i check her in as my wife.I have booked hotel for 2

    1. 3 October, 2016 at 2:31 am

      in HCM you should be fine, otherwise I suggest getting an Airbnb rental as the host will not be there.

    2. Thi bich ngoc NGUYEN
      11 May, 2017 at 8:55 am

      Its illegal if girl is under 18 year old.

  4. Poit
    31 January, 2017 at 7:06 am

    I’ve been in hanoi 1 month now. I thought i would post my own comments / experience.

    Firstly, I agree Vietnam Cupid is a good place to start. I initially thought this whole blog was just advertising that site, but on seeing it wasn’t that expensive I bit the bullet and joined as a paying member (which means you can send messages). Just make sure the ‘auto-renew’ feature is turned off in account settings if you don’t wanna be billed forever.

    On arrival in Hanoi I had struck up rapport with five or six very pretty girls, one of which actually met me at the airport with transport to my hotel.

    The girls are, as the article says, refreshingly honest and transparent. But they are also crafty. They might say things like ‘just friends’ or ‘I’m not looking for a boyfriend ‘, but in reality they all have their eye on one prize: a husband. They will bend over backward to win the prize.

    Some are more conservative than others, and how much they are willing to play to gain your affection will differ. Broach the subject of sex in your online chats to gauge if the girl is ok with the subject. I have found they are much less prudish when it comes to sex than western women, and kept chatting happily after I said something about my sex life being boring, or western penis being bigger than Asians. Western women would run a mile!

    And yes, it is all a rather amusing game. The girls are sweet, up front, and very affectionate, but also very VERY quick to test your resolve, and claim you as ‘their property’. And a fuck on a first meeting is unlikely. Whether you want to fuck and run, when a girl does agree to see your place, is entirely up to your own moral compass. But, despite multiple opportunities, i have found myself unable to move on from the one girl I’ve been with (yep, the one who met me at the airport). It might be easier if you aren’t living here, and only visiting, but the prospect of more than one girl messaging me with her tests and games is a little tiring.

    1. 31 January, 2017 at 8:01 am

      Thanks for the report Poit. Vietnam Cupid is a very underrated site. Girls in the north are much more conservative, if you head to HCM or south of Hanoi they are way more relaxed. Glad my website helped you out.

      1. Poit
        1 February, 2017 at 2:06 pm

        Thanks Harvey. Yes it was good read, and quite accurate. Actually, i went out with a new girl last night (i invited her in to see my place, but she said next time). Her major complaint about guys on cupid was that they promise travel and money, like she is a pauper. Tip for new entrants: these people aren’t savages. They’re well educated and intelligent. Don’t speak to them like they’re desperate. Be kind and charming, ask them what they do, show interest, tell them they’re pretty. Western chivalry is very appreciated by vn girls.

  5. Francis
    2 April, 2017 at 11:36 pm

    Hi Beautiful Creatures of Vietnam . honestly I admire you guys and I also like your country

  6. Lawrie
    15 April, 2017 at 8:16 pm

    Hi Folks, I’m a Brit 70 yrs old, pensioner (£2K) per month. Friends in Thailand say go to Vietnam to retire and live out your life. I’m going to start in HCMC and would like a motor bike transport, girlfriend or wife and a condo. What and where would you boys and girls recommend??

    1. 16 April, 2017 at 4:19 am

      District 7 is where all the expats stay so you might want to check out that area first. Me personally, I like District 1 for short-time stays as it’s close to everything, but for long-term stays look at D3 or D7. Might be an idea to stay in each area for a week or two to get the feel for it.

      1. Mohd Vakeel
        28 April, 2017 at 6:40 am


        Few months before I met a girl from Vietnam in social media.
        From the starting she always said to me that she likes me very much and after sometimes likes turned into love…
        But I told her truth everything about me that neither I’m a rich person not I had job that time…
        But she still say that she loves only me not my money.
        After sometimes she told me that she is more older than me and also she had husband but in real she don’t wants to live with him and she wants to live with me because she loves me and
        She also sent me my ticket and visa for Vietnam..
        She’s from dong thap.

        Now I’m confused because I don’t know how people are there…and if I go there then may be there will be some serious problem for me…

        And for this I wants to get your suggestion please…

        She shared her everything with me
        She is ready to support me in Vietnam

        And she also said that she wants to marry me..
        Once I get job there then she will move on and come to me…

        I wants to know that it’s all real or its a kind of fake…
        And is it safe for me if I come there to meet her?

        1. 28 April, 2017 at 9:27 am

          Man, that sounds like a messy situation. Honestly, my advice would be to just walk away and not talk to her again. If she has been dating you and has a husband at home, she is not trustworthy. She could also be lying to you in hope you marry her and provide her a better life.

          Again, my advice is to just walk away.

          1. Mohd Vakeel
            28 April, 2017 at 12:49 pm

            Thank you bro

            But what if I also use her…
            Like she’s using me to get a better life…
            And what if I also use her to get a good job in Ho Chi Minh city?

            I wants to know the chances of job there…
            Because she already sent me visa and ticket..
            Please reply me

          2. 29 April, 2017 at 3:52 am

            It’s never a good idea to use anyone, it’s just not nice.

            I would cut contact with her and end it.

        2. Thi bich ngoc NGUYEN
          11 May, 2017 at 8:50 am

          Viet Nam is safe. But personally, i think its bettter to be far away from married-girls.

  7. Scott Williams
    23 April, 2017 at 5:27 am

    I loved the article and it helped me understand what I was doing and gave me the resolve to push on. I’m traveling with a girl I met at my Brothers wedding last Nov. She’s my sister in-law’s friend… so beautiful and also almost exactly like you say in your article.

    I went home from the wedding and promised her that I’d come back and take her traveling with me. I was really nervous about the experience but now with two days to go of an epic adventure 2 week adventure I’m just so glad that I did it.

    The opening line in the article says dating VN girls is a battlefield…. haha I love that..!! It’s so true, after two weeks I feel like I’ve gone 10 rounds with Muhammad Ali.

    I may have taken on a larger than normal task as my GF is from the a very small village in the North and is from the Thai ethnic community, I went to her village and met her family which was one of the most unreal experiences I’ve ever had.

    But if you can hang in there it’s definitely worth It. Just make sure you’re willing to take on her, her immediate family and her extended family….

    It’s definitely not for the faint hearted.

  8. Chris
    4 May, 2017 at 2:25 am

    I am ‘seeing’ a Ho Chi Minh city woman.. When we met, she seemed nervous but very outgoing with me… after it was obvious we ‘like’ each other, she turned very bossy and seemingly rude as well. I thought this was it and I was going to stop seeing her because she seemed just to angry-like and doesn’t like me to call her pretty names like beautiful, etc… But then I realised she is actually like that and her attitude was not a reflection of her opinion of me… She is just weird to me and still playing some sort of game… She seems to like me a lot but would not be caught holding hands with me, specially in front of her friends… I know she likes me but it is just too weird…

    Is there anything specific to know about Ho Chi Minh women? What are they like?

    1. 4 May, 2017 at 4:28 am

      Sounds like a crazy to me without more info, perhaps she has had some mental trauma in her youth that is making her act this way. Not holding hands in public is normal they are a pretty conservative culture, she might also feel shy embarrassed for having a white boyfriend because of culture etc.

    2. Thi bich ngoc NGUYEN
      11 May, 2017 at 8:44 am

      The girl who you are mentioning definitely is Vietnamese girl.

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