The Single Vs Thai Girlfriend life – Which is best?

Upon reading this blog title, the players up in this bitch be like:

“Fuck bitches, get money.”

While updating their Twitter feed with the hashtag #MOB (money over bitches).

The white knights in here be like:

“You should be faithful to one girl and treat her like a queen”

Is it better to be single or have a Thai girlfriend?

In this article I discuss all the types of relationships you can have in Thailand and the pros and cons of each.

I will cover the:

  • Single life
  • Girlfriend life
  • Hybrid girlfriend life
  • Spinning plates life

The single life in Thailand

The single life in Thailand is literally the best thing ever…. until you get old.

After that, for most people (or maybe just me?) it goes downhill.

When I say old I don’t mean 50 or 60 years of age, some people find the single life boring at 25, 30, 35, 40 or 70.

The age is a variable based on the individual.

The biggest upside to being single in Thailand is that you can meet lots of girls and have insane amounts of fun.

You can also bring girls back to your room without issues.

If you have a Thai girlfriend living with you or she visits often then this is not possible as the security or receptionist WILL tell your girlfriend.

Haters gonna hate, snitches gonna snitch.


I advise every male to live a single life for at least the first 6 months of their stay in Thailand (read my article The Dangers of Getting a Thai Girlfriend too Fast for why).

But after a period of 6 months to a few years (time-frame varies for each person), if you’re living alone it does negatively impact other areas of your life.

For example, instead of working on your business idea to grow your income, you’ll be spending hours each day on Thai Cupid setting up dates or messaging friends to get rekt by heading out to a Bangkok nightclub.

If you’re building an income online or living off savings, being single can get in the way of these goals and eat your money fast.

That’s why after the honey moon period of 6 months to a few years you should move to either the hybrid or spinning plates method (discussed below).

Another benefit to being single is that you don’t have a crazy woman telling you what to do.

We can all list at least 5 people we know who are in bad/abusive relationships with girlfriends who make their life hell, or control them to the point where they aren’t truly free to do what they want.

The single life in Thailand is something every guy MUST experience, but I think after a few years it starts to become unfulfilling and negatively impacts other areas of your life.

People who are not good at saying no to going out will end up partyingway too often and burn through their money, I’ve seen this happen many times in the last 5 years.

The girlfriend life in Thailand

Having a girlfriend in Thailand can be really fucking good…. or really fucking bad.

I know friends who have girlfriends that let them do whatever they want. They go on holiday without them on a whim, we go Soi Cowboy, Nana Plaza and drink while the girlfriend stays at home (as they should).

Then I have friends who have their phones checked daily by their Thai girlfriend, or they aren’t allowed to see certain friends without her there because she doesn’t trust them.

One of my friends needed to ask his Thai girlfriend permission to stay out another hour (it was 6pm), she ends up Facetiming him to see where he was and who is he with.


The biggest benefit to having a Thai girlfriend who is chill AF is:

1. You focus on your work and make more money

2. You build a meaningful relationship

You don’t feel the need to go out as much and drink or find girls because you have someone at home you can talk to. This means you spend less money on drinking, fewer hangovers and focus the time on working to increase your income.

However, after a year or two it can sometimes get boring and people look for an exit strategy.

There are only so many restaurants you can visit together, only so many positions can you try.

I mean once she ties you up, gags your mouth with a lemon and shoves a black strap on deep into my bumhole, you quickly start to run out of options to improve action under the sheets ( talking from experience).

As for a meaningful relationship, you can learn what it is like to be in a long-term relationship, and get a better idea of the pros and cons to being in a relationship opposed to single.

You create more life experiences, allowing you to grow as a person.

This isn’t to say you should be with her for ever, but by being single and then having a girlfriend you can decide for yourself whether the grass is really greener on the other side.

The hybrid relationship

What if I told you that you could have a girlfriend BUT still be single…

you had my atention meme

This method is very risky and not everybody can pull it off, but if you can it’s the best thing ever.

The hybrid relationship is a simple concoction of one part non-crazy girlfriend and several parts random hookers and girls at timed intervals.

Ingredient one: the non-crazy girlfriend.

She can’t be the one who is looking at your phone, Skype logs, questioning your movements, calling you every few hours and so on.

She can’t be telling you where you can and cannot go on holiday, that you cannot drink or whatever.

If your girlfriend is doing this then you will not be able to execute the hybrid relationship effectively and she needs to be dropped faster than a fat kid at a cake buffet.

The second part is the best part: dozens of crazy hookers and girls.

The key with the second part is discretion and timing.

You don’t add these girls on Facebook, you don’t let them get too close into your life, you don’t meet them where you live.

For example, if you’re living in Bangkok limit your self to hookers and massage shops in the local area.

If you’re going on a trip to Vietnam or Phuket, it’s fine to use sites like Thai Friendly to meet non-hookers and have short-term relationships, aka the girlfriend experience.

I advise you to meet other girls only during visas runs, so you can focus on work while in Thailand, then every 90 days you can let your hair down and relax.

This is optimal as you are almost never going to get caught and during the 90 days in Thailand you can stack up your cash and grow your business.

In this relationship, you have your girlfriend but when things get boring you can deviate and have some fun.

This keeps everything fresh, allows you to focus on your work and have mini holidays where you meet new girls during visa runs.

I know a few people who are in this type of relationship and their girlfriend knows and is 100% fine with it.

If you cannot tell your girlfriend you’re doing this, there’s  a third part of this mix: plausibility deniability.

The Rock

If your non-crazy girlfriend ever suspects anything, you deny deny deny!

If she can’t prove it, it never happened and even if she can prove it you still deny.

Remember – If the glove does not fit, you must acquit.

Spinning plates method

The spinning plates method (coined from the Rational Male) is when you have several girls you’re dating but none of them are your girlfriend, the girls you meet are often doing the same.

I’m a big fan of this method because you never get lonely and get to experience new girls.

When one plate smashes to the floor, you go to a bar or online dating and replace it with another one.

Depending on how you play this, it can work well but I find it takes a lot of effort to maintain, which isn’t ideal if you’re trying to build wealth.

I like the spinning plates method when someone first comes to Thailand, but after a while it feels like you’re chasing the dragon as you never get to have any meaningful connections with these girls, or when you do they want to girlfriend up which to me isn’t a bad idea depending on your life goals.

Which one are you?

Which of these 4 styles best represents you? Which one do you think is optimal for living in Thailand or should we continually jump from all 4?

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