La guía negra e india para salir con tailandesas
What’s it like for Black and Indians in Thailand, and do Thai girls like us, have been the most emailed questions to me in 2018.
Disclaimer: the rest of this article is going to be intentionally offensive, uncomfortably racist and triggering all in the name of dark humor. Please leave now if you’re offended easily.
Literally, my inbox has been bombarded with questions like this from brothers all over the world asking me:
- if Thai girls dislike you
- if Thai girls like tanned skin
- if Thai girls will like me because I’m an Indian born in Australia or a black guy from the United States
- if Thai girls like Arabs
- if everything they read online about blacks and Indians being the scum of Thailand is true?
If you’re black, Indian or any skin tone that is not white or yellow, I’m going just going to tell you the truth through my eyes.
I’m going to break down everything a black or Indian guy needs to know when interacting with Chicas tailandesas or coming to Thailand, because the rules of the game are different for you.
This might also be a good time to tell you that I am not white, white people aren’t this funny.
Are Thai Girls Racist?
Are all Thai girls racist? No.
Are some Thai girls racist? Of course, Asia is probably the most racist continent in the world.
And by some, I mean a very small percentage, based on my 6 years of living here I would say the percentage is in single digits. I live in Bangkok which is a very modern city, if you choose to live in other areas of Thailand, I can see that number rising as big cities embrace change.
Why is it that Thai chicks don’t like Indians? They are generally rude, smelly, cheap and abusive to women…including black women. My experience is that black guys like you understand the culture and follow customs and are polite and courteous. Drop the racism bag man! it is not the end-all for every complains that brothers have.
Peace out
Hey Bill,
I think the latest generation of Indian men are better (the ones that live in the west). They tend to dress better and not be so rude, but your comments are correct in how Asian people view them. It doesn’t help that lots of Indians from India come to Bangkok every year and compound the stereotypes even more.
I’m Indian and sadly, I approve this message. I love Thailand and not just for the sex tourism. Motorcycles is my passion and after the whole Maehonsong loop I go to Pattaya to relax and play with the tigers (literally).
But everytime it saddens my heart to see my Indian brothers behave non-chalantly towards girls(not just Thai) and all service jobs in general. They feel that they got money to throw around and every girl is a working girl.
I’ve made my attempt to even learn Thai … And I’ll continue to always come to Thailand every year(10th visit this time)
I’m not smelly or rude or cheap or abusive … I actually smell of Jasmine and lilac. And as much as I agree, your statement is the one that is racist.
I’ve loved Harvie’ blogs and keep up the good work man !!!
And yes … Asians are the most rascist and Indians are the most !!!
Thanks, I love my blog too.
This is great and proves the problem Indians have. You say you’re not like them but your comment is more arrogant than typical Indian, and to make things worse you start explaining your body odor, that’s too sleezy. You’re 100% Indian stereotype but cannot see it yourself.
We have an Indian friend of the family in Europe, real nice guy, all his colleagues like him, in most ways he is a hell of a nice guy. But sleezy, oh yes, like his comments to married coworkers on facebook are just insane and completely inappropriate. 2 decades in the west hasn’t changed him at all but no one care, they just ignore it with a hidden smile but unfortunately you cant expect that from Asian girls you just met.
You would be shocked how many wealthy indian businessman come to thailand giving out 500 baht tips and 20K baht tips to their girls not uncommon LOL.
You won’t see these types of people in NANA / Cowboy lol
Great one again dude. And quite surprised you didn’t raise the dick size argument that actually does exist in Thai girls stereotypes about black men. Or maybe they just like it fine?
That’s a good point, I’ll add it now.
Quite possibly your finest blog to date Harvie for accuracy. I expect some readers will be butt hurt but your statements are bang on. Being an British gentleman of light tan, height and a brother of Iron I can most definitely relate to your experiences.
A few observations I made during my stints in Thailand :
The facial hair thing : I usually sport stubble or a lightly trimed beard whilst in the UK. I go full clean shaven when in Thailand for reasons you have mentioned in the blog. Contrary to this I did receive some comments from girls that had seen me both clean shaven and with 3-4 days worth of stubble saying that they preferred the latter!.
Dick Size & Henchness Stereotype : First off I used to get called out a lot by Ladyboys when frequenting the shady areas. More then once I would get a “hey bodybuilder! come here!” when walking around. Not once did a cute thai girl say that to me. Conclusion : Thai girls are scared of hench and think that they will get smashed and killed. Ladyboys love the meat and want to be manhandled by a hench I guess. As for the dick size thing, well during a 4 month stint in BKK I had a few friends come over from the UK and they wanted to visit DR BJ’s. 2 of us went in and we sat down whilst a line up of about a dozen girls were brought in. A lot of them were giggling, the mamasan said they want to know if you are big? to humour them I said I am pum poi but medium, referring to my fat little sausage in a comical manner. I was then told that 3 out of the line up were interested in gobbling my meat. Again more stereotyping because I am a big guy they assumed I would be packing a weapon and afraid of being destroyed. My white friend whom was quite small in stature had his pick out of the entire line up.
Being a brother and crewing up with dem wiggaz. This also works well, I met up with 2 white Norwegian guys whom were on holiday and we had a lot of success on nights out in clubs and generally Thai girls were very receptive. I didn’t used to frequent clubs solo (find it boring) Unless I was spending a week or so in Pattaya and taking the P4P option.
Dressing up : Generally in the day times I struggled with the heat, hence I would always be in my gym gear. Trainers, Shorts and usually a vest, not that I was looking out for it but I expect as I wandered around BKK I was being given a wide berth as in their eyes I looked like a scruffy kunt. I didn’t care, I did not want to sweat to death! In the evenings always made the effort, shoes, chinos and usually a shirt or polo shirt. Found it easier to make eye contact and exchange a smile when walking around. This would not happen during the day when I was in my lifting gear! I always dressed to impress when meeting dates from thai friendly although during april it was quite uncomfortable wearing trousers!
A final observation, as my grandfather is Portuguese I have the ability to literally go from a light shade of brown to full on dark mediterranean tanned after just 1 day of sunshine! my first visit to Thailand was in 2014 and was literally 2 weeks partying in Pattaya, I barely saw sunshine and hence did not Tan. The 2nd time when I spent 4 months in BKK and did some travelling I did tan and go really dark. I am not sure if it’s all in my head but I got the feeling that I was getting a lot less attention once I had developed a dark tan, even from the P4P girls.
Cultural differences can be crazy, tanning injections are super popular here in the UK at the moment. I know so many kunts using them, not just women but plenty of guys. then over there in Thailand you have people going to clinics for skin whitening!
Very good points. Your comment will be helping out many others in the future I think.
I get the same with LBs, I think they crave attention from all men because they want positive validation that they are women and sexy, and they don’t mind the size.
In the day I too sometimes wear shorts, but if I do I have no intention of talking to girls, just to do my day to day chores.
My skin tone is like yours, if I spend two days in the sun I’m blacker than coal.
I agree with Harvie. Racism is normal in Asia and not a big deal. If you are uncomfortable getting stared at, having people ask you questions about your race, and the occasional racist encounter don’t go to Asia. But if you’re just a chill dude who understands that people that look like you cause a lot of fucking trouble worldwide, and that if you “act white” most people will treat you well then you’ll have a great time. In fact, I think in some ways you have an advantage because you are fetish/niche. While your success rate will be lower with day-to-day girls there are plenty of girls of love that BBC.
tl;dr Asia is harder for browns than white guys, but just act white and you’ll have a great time. Or get rich because at the end of the day the most important color is green nigga
Pretty much.
“The first step is to admit that being black and Indian is not okay and that you need to make a change.”
Oh man this cracked me up
Glad someone saw it.
Yeah, me too. LOL
The article is more an opinion than fact and only a fool would take those tips, I have black friends banging Thai and Vietnamese girls daily and this cum skin wanst you to be more whitelike to be liked or get laid. What a joke.lol
I would doubt that unless they are paying for sex in which case, in which case I do believe you. Or if they do, they would be the exception rather than the rule. This article is not opinion, it’s a proven method that works very well. This advice is not for fools, it’s for people who know how the real world works.
No its assumption on your part without consideration other variables, these are not backpackers and not English teacher kind of guys, they are there for business and some teach at the universities there, they dont pay for sex and no man should pay for sex anywhere in the world. There are other qualities women are attracted to beyond looks.
The point is you only wrote on what you know don’t generalize, I am offering you to see them in action as they laughed and agreed to enlighten you when i shared your article with them, dont take my word for it, take me up on the offer.
There is racism no doubt but only bigger fools pay attention to that, I mean you told you or promised you that you would be liked anywhere in the word? You take what you find and work with it.
If you say it is so, then I believe you. If they are portraying all or many of the usual black stereotypes and getting girls, then that’s amazing and I’m happy for them. But they are the exception, not the rule.
Nice post buddy, shows how you crawled into the Thais mind & cultures
This is a hilarious post and very true. All the tips are also good for indians/blacks in thailand, western or not.
Personally I use all of the tips myself but a few (I leave tightly trimed beard, but dress sharp no shorts lol.)
I LOLd hard at the pickup a white guy b4 you pickup a thai girl, so true. Personally I would never do that myself out of fear of having to hang out with some lame white guy.
These two groups(black/indian) have to work 2X as hard to get half the respect of whitey/women everywhere in the world why different in thailand?
Reality is racism in asia is just more blatant, dont act like everything is great for black people in america, or indians on a plane/border or whatever in the US.
Ahmen.
Nice post. How would you say this applies if you were to do online dating? The advice you gave seems to mostly matter to meeting girls in social situations.
I would apply the tips to online dating as much as possible too.
Bro, there’s no doubt in my mind that you are white. There’s not a black dude on earth that would have so little self dignity to write the self deprecating jokes/comments that you made under the false guise of “honesty”. Most if not all of them had little if anything to do with making the point you were conveying at the time. I call bullshit.
You’re the first commenter to disagree with what I’ve said, have you had another experience in Thailand being black, would love to hear it if so.
Just read this article.
This was yet a another great post! and I can say what you are saying is true too about here in Central Asia. I am black. But I dress like those Korean metrosexual dudes in that picture you have above, and I get lots of positive feed backs. I would like to say that Asians are far less racists than what blacks and colored people think! I get alot of attention from girls here and many of them would date me if I was intrested in them. Asians are not afriad of me or even discriminate, most espcially since I act civil and go against the sterotypes in American media like you mentioned on your post.
Most asians do not see blacks or have never seen one and the only representative they see are those rap videos. That is not Asians or white people’s falut. that is blacks fault for allowing themselves to be represented in this manner! Most blacks would rather die than dress or represent themselves in the way that would get them to be precieved in a positive light. and I say this as a black guy! None of them would ever respect other people’s spaces and want’s everyone to kiss their asses!
Please IGNORE any butt hurt black/indian/arabs! they are just snowflakes or they have entitlement problems and expect everyone to kiss up to them without them integrating or respecting other’s ettieques!
Good point in your second paragraph, go to China and everyone will stare because half of them have never seen a coloured person before.
I’m a brown guy too. I have the accent which is close to American accent. actually that helped me a little to get some Thai girls.
Black guys don’t need to get Thai girls. They can go to different Islands to get White girls.
Which places in Bangkok do you recommend for cheap dates? I went to some bars and a glass of beer was 200 baht. Some food in some regular restaurant was about 400 baht.
These price may cheap for you but I look for cheaper one for my next trip.
Bangkok is a big place, do some googling around your location and you’ll find lots of options.
Great blog post Harvie and very informative. It’s not racist just because it’s true. Many people refuse to face reality and rather sugar coat things. Too many people miss the point.
The whole purpose of this post is to help Indian men and Black men score and get laid while visiting Thailand.
You’re spot on when you say Thai ladies are afraid to have sex with black guys. It’s not just the black stereotypes about the thug life. They also hear all the stories about black guys having big fat 12 inch dicks and they’re afraid their tight little snappers will get honed out and stretched. I’ve seen many black guys at Nana Plaza and Soi Cowboy, etc. get double charged by Thai hoes because of this. I guess they consider it the big black meat surcharge. Lol …..But even so, many white guys also get charged extra at some soapy massage parlors and GoGo’s. Many have a farang surcharge and also hear some Thai girls complain about white men’s larger prick size and having to ride some white guys big fat white buffalo…
As far as Indian guys go, I don’t think most Thai women are scared of Indian men. Many of them just try to avoid them due to stereotypes that they’re cheap charlies and have bad hygiene. But like you point out, these stereotypes usually don’t apply to Indian men raised in the west.
My best mate from London is of Jamaican origin. When he came over for a month he had just as much success as the white guys.
I saw no faces of disgust or disapproval and many girls enjoyed his conversation.
I can understand thais disdain for the uncouth Africans and lndians, and they do themselves no favours with their awful personal hygeine.
And oh yeah l almost forgot….his penis is huge
I know of a white guy who said he was South African, he was cut off by some bargirls who had been very exited to meet him just a little earlier when they thought he was western. At the end of the night itts not so much about skin color as its about how rich country they think youre from.
How their view to other Asian people, such as people from Singapore/Malay/Indonesia?
It’s much better.
It’s not always easy to be white in Asia, we too get bad excuses like the big dick one from girls. I’m 6’1 and thats already enough to make some girls cautious, but often its just something they say, and I’m sure the same is very often true for black guys.
The last bargirl who tried TOO hard to ignore me said I was big and looked like I was going to hurt someone, not sure what that meant but ok. Anyway, she was actually quite into me and already the next day i boned her for “free”, no barfine, and for someone who did her best to not talk to me the night before she was now too talkative, thankfully she was smart enough to almost make it interesting.
Girls never tell the true truth but to them that is the truth, it’s their truth, they don’t even know that they lie because to girls reality and truth are not the same, truth is reality adjusted to make them look better.
I don’t know what they really think of black guys but I know it aint what they say. A lot of the time they will say The Right Thing, what they think their friends would want them to say, whats socially correct in their eyes, and then they come up with some or all of the excuses Harvey mentions.
You are FUCKING LIAR more precisely a MOTHER FUCKING PIECE OF WHYTIE SHIT!!! You can tell a LIE a million times but that isn’t going to turn a LIE into TRUTH!!
Why don’t you WHYTIES GO BACK to England or Ireland and FUCK your WHYTIE pink pussy whores instead of cumming to Thailand and fucking Asian women for 1000 bhats…..hahaha….you fucking WHYTIE suckers….Thai women like WHYTIES people not because you are WHYTIES but because you they can a SUCKER when they SEE ONE….hahahahaha
I also saw lots of WHYTIE LADYBOYS (or katoes) who are getting fucked by Niggers….and dirty smelly Indians…hahahaha
I SAY FUCK OFF BACK TO YOUR OWN COUNTRY MOTHE FUCKING WHYTIE SHIT USELESS PIECE OF SHIT!!!!
🙁
Exhibit 101 of how not to behave in Thailand..or in any other country.
I am a Srilankan guy and i look like an Indian. But man, your words are so true. I have been to Bangkok last month for 3 weeks, and i always dresses sharp and shaved off my beard. Guess what?
I banged 12 normal Thai girls within 21 days of my stay without paying a single dime. They never worried about my race as i wore my clothes sharp, and treated them with respect.
You are 100% correct in this article. Its all about your game, your look, your confidence level
I think its all about your confidence, energy, grooming and approach. whenever i went into any club, all the girls were curious like anything and i always have difficulty to (nicely) tell them I am not interested. in this sense i could always choose and get the most attractive ones. btw I am an islander and am from Mauritius 😉
Holy Shit!
This is the funniest (and one of the most honest and accurate) thing I’ve read on the internet. No fake-bullshit feel good fluff, just pure truth wrapped in beautiful sarcasm.
And I say this as an Indian dude, although I did spend the majority of my life in Europe/US.
I guess you must live a sheltered life in Bangkok and don’t really understand Thai women and the culture. I’m marred to a Thai woman and we have a 9 year old daughter. we live in a town of about 25,000 in northern Thailand. I’m one of three faring so must of my friends are Thai’s.
Most young Thai men are lazy, they drink and gamble. the woman is the bread winner, and then they divorce and have a better life. Most Thai women can only dream of have a white farang husband. also most of them are not interested in a young faring their own age, they want a man at least 15 years old. their thinking is he will be happy with a round wife and not wander, and provide a good life for her and the children. she will also be a dream come true of a wife for her husband, meeting all of his needs before he know he has the need. after having a Thai wife. I would not let my dog have a relationship with a western woman.
now for Blacks. most asians are scared to death of Black people. just look at black people in the movies or rap music. need I say more. The bar girls don’t want to do business with black men because they think all black men are hung like a horse and are afraid they will hurt them. both with their dick and beat them.