How To Use Thai Friendly To Get Laid For Free

A question some of my readers ask me is how to find a Thai girlfriend or how to get sex in Thailand  without having to pay for it? In this post I will talk to you about Thai Friendly, and how you can have hundreds of real Thai girls messaging you within 24 hours who want meet up (and sleep with you).

If you’re a white male, keep on reading.

Finding a Thai girlfriend on Thai friendly

The number one sure way to find a Thai girlfriend sometimes before even landing in Thailand is to visit the Thai Friendly dating site. From talking with all my friends, we all agree this is by far the best dating website in Thailand and a good choice to find a Thai girlfriend, or to find a girl who’s up for no strings attached fun, without any exchange of money.

Thai friendly

The west is still coming to grips with “online dating”, some people still consider these websites as taboo, while in Thailand it’s the complete opposite. Many girls are working long hours so they don’t have the time to socialize, they find using Thai Friendly a great way to find relationships of all kinds.

The average work day can last as long as 10-12 hours for a Thai girl, then using public transport to get back home, that’s another 1-2 hours.If you have ever been to Thailand, you know how bad public transport is, so 10-12 hours work with another 1-2 hours of commuting to work and you see why most Thai girls use online dating sites to find partners and casual one night stands.

Only the rich Thai girls have time to socialize most nights, and even then, its hard for them to do that.

Using Thai friendly to find yourself a Thai Girlfriend!

You must also remember that the average Thai doesn’t have much disposable income, so visiting bars and clubs won’t be on the agenda for them every week. There is a whole un-tapped market currently on these dating sites, Thai friendly being the most popular and successful.

Thai friendly dating site has all types of girls, and they do offer an option to block messages from certain people such as ladyboys if they are not your cup of tea. I also know (and my friends agree) that out of all the Thai dating sites, Thai friendly has the lowest amount of prostitutes and most amount of genuine Thai girls to chat with.

If you are ever unsure you can always ask the girl you’re chatting with, but don’t just come right out and and ask them if they are a Thai bar girl, because that will annoy them greatly. Say something along the lines of :

I am sorry to ask this, because I think you’re not, but are you a Bar girl? I only ask because the last person didn’t tell me, until we met in person. I am new to Thailand so I am still trying to understand everything, sorry for asking you like this.

But like I said 99% of the girls on Thai friendly are just your average Thai girl, its not even worth worrying about, but I thought I would mention it in case anybody was wondering.

This website is by far the easiest place to find a Thai girlfriend or get laid without even having to leave your laptop. This is talking from my own personal experience and 8 western friends who all have found a Thai Girlfriend using this site. You just need white skin or be from a western speaking country.

Pro tip: You need to be careful when browsing girls pictures, as some will be filtered using Instagram or taken at funny angles to hide how fat/spotty/dark they are. It is not uncommon for people to meet up for a date only to find the girl 10lbs overweight and nothing like she was in the pictures.

When this happens you just got “Thai friendly’d”, and what you do is laugh it off and chalk it up as experience, or maybe send me a read submission of the story! This is quite rare but you should always ask the girl for more pictures or have a quick chat on Skype video to see if she is hiding something.

How do I know if my Thai girlfriend really likes me or is after something?

This question has too many variables to give you any kind of answer, but if you are after a serious Thai girlfriend who you want a future with, don’t ever bring up the topic of money. Don’t say how much money you have, how much you earn, I would even go as far to say don’t spend money around her on anything but cheap food for the first few weeks. From this guess how she is viewing it all, does she care? Or is she just happy to be with you?

You must remember that the average Thai earns around $250-$350 a month, so that’s why many look for a western guy to get them out of this situation, you just need to play your hand with caution. Several of my friends in Bangkok have Thai girlfriends, who I can tell are not after their money, don’t believe all the stereotypes on the Internet, Thai girls are not always after your money.


Either way, life is a game, going to Thailand is no different, all you can do is role the dice and see what the outcome is. So good luck on finding your Thai Girlfriend in Bangkok or no-strings attached fun using the Thai friendly dating site, I know for a fact you won’t be disappointed!

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99 thoughts on “How To Use Thai Friendly To Get Laid For Free

  1. 18 December, 2013 at 8:35 am

    Good hint. I managed to get two girls to come straight to my room pretty easily.

  2. Jonathan
    22 December, 2013 at 4:48 am

    I’m glad I came across this blog, I did sign up and it worked just like a treat. I find having pictures in well dressed clothes helps greatly. My first profile picture was me in a vest and shorts, but when I changed it to me in a suit, I got way more attention.

    keep up the good work!

  3. Matt
    15 July, 2014 at 6:18 pm

    what do you mean by thai friendly’d

    1. 15 July, 2014 at 6:31 pm

      Hey Matt,

      It means when you meet a date and she looks much worse than the actual pictures, it happens once every 7 or so dates.

  4. Thai Dating Review
    27 July, 2014 at 5:03 pm

    I like that Tf’d reference lol

    But ya, u must ask to see a person on cam first, before meeting in real, this is a must!

  5. mtl_t
    28 July, 2014 at 3:46 pm

    Hey. I’m moving to Bangkok in October and I appreciate all the tips and guides on your blog – many thanks!

    On the topic of Thai women/girlfriends, how do they generally perceive dark-skinned men? Is there some prejudice or stigma around dating a black or brown man?

    1. 28 July, 2014 at 4:06 pm

      Yes there is, I will write a blog post about it this week or next so you can learn more about it.

  6. Jonathan
    28 August, 2014 at 11:44 am

    My experience with Thai Friendly has been mixed. The general rule is if a woman shows any cleavage she is fairly to very loose. If a woman comes to your apartment on the first or second date she is also loose. A “good” Thai woman won’t put out for at least a few months of serious dating. That being said a nice dinner can yield a hot night or several, which is cheaper than a message parlor for 90 minutes. Ultimately it’s pretty much the same equation. You just need to decide how much time, heart, and soul you want to invest.

  7. Breena
    27 September, 2014 at 11:08 am

    What do u think about living togheter with your thai gf? something to avoid? I used Thai Friendly and I setup 8 days in 1 week. Managed to get 5 of them back to my room the goal is to meet them up for dates at night had me the best success.

    1. 27 September, 2014 at 11:27 am

      Depends on how you feel about her. I would avoid, as its easy to get them to move in, much harder to get them to move out.

  8. Alessandro
    9 December, 2014 at 11:33 pm

    I must say that I’ve found my gf on Thaifriendly in just 3days . I am eternal gratefull for this opportunity TF gave us .Sometimes you just need a bunch of luck and a lot of experience . Grtz

  9. Steve
    21 December, 2014 at 8:56 pm

    I see many girls visit my profile but only a few messages. Is this because they’re not interested or lack the upgrade to send message? If a girl doesn’t have the upgraded subscription how should I get in touch with her? Can she reply to my messages or do you have to use the instant chat feature? I can’t find any info about this on the site.


    1. 22 December, 2014 at 3:21 am

      Hi Steve, you only get a lack of messages if you yourself have not upgraded. If you upgrade your membership your account gets shown on the first-page ahead of non-paid members. You should see 20-30x more messages if you upgrade.


  10. LG
    15 January, 2015 at 12:56 am

    I’m almost giving up on TF to be honest. Not sure if the gals there r only interested in dating farang BF (I’m a Singaporean Chinese) or maybe it’s me not gd looking enough & appealing to them. Or maybe I juz dunno how to chat wif Thai chicks! i haven’t had gd result so far after more than 3weeks trying out TF. I sent more than 60 msg so far but only got less than 10 genuine replies. Outta these less than 10 genuine replies, I only managed to get the Line no. of abt 6 ladies. And outta these 6 ladies, only 1 or 2 of them actively chat wif me. The rest r juz like talking to a 3 yo toddler, they’ll only reply as & when they like (& they usually dun make alotta sense) I personally find it hard to hold a decent conversation wif a Thai lady. I had a Thai GF in the past, thru my fren’s recommendation & had a few flings in Bkk. I could speak & understand conversational Thai too, although I can’t read Thai script. But I juz couldn’t comprehend y it’s juz tougher when it comes to dating gals in TF. Dun get me wrong, I’m really trying to find a decent Thai lady to be long term companion or GF in the future. I dun hav much difficulties in finding flings in Thailand. In fact, I’m beginning to lose my respect for Thai ladies in the process of using TF. Some of them r juz pretentious & insincere. They all claims that they’re looking for guys who r polite & honest & stuff. But when u try to be honest & polite wif them, they’re juz uninterested @ all. The other problem I face is that most of them juz couldn’t understand basic English. I tried writing long polite interesting msg & profile to get them interested but it’s juz seems futile. Maybe I juz hav no luck in TF, I dunno. Whaddya think, fellas? Appreciate all feedbacks…

    1. 15 January, 2015 at 9:43 am

      Hey LG, I think you addressed it in your first line, you are Singaporean- Chinese. If you look at the database of guys on Thai friendly they are either Thai men or Farangs. I have a Australian born Chinese friend says he got the same thing as you. He said he moved to Thai Cupid and found much better results there.

      Also do you have a paid account or free account? As the paid account gives you a further reach. As I said, I think the problem is that you are Asian yourself and not Thai or Farang. I spoke to a guy only this week who said he had over 60 girls message him (paid member).


      1. Roger Johnson
        27 January, 2015 at 2:08 pm

        Writing in correct English would be a good start!

        1. Pat
          3 May, 2016 at 5:58 am

          I chose those four from about 45 potentials I had at the start…you soon can separate the quality from the shit. I’m particular and fussy.
          Skype was also useful, but no video calling, that’s a bit tacky. Many girls told me that farang men would expose their bollocks to them within an hour of their first chat…and ask them to expose themselves.
          The kind of sad bastards who are best suited to Nana or Cowboy

          I also had a ”’Thai girl”’ suddenly tell me she was in Ghana. Don’t fall for that shit, man.

      2. Somebody
        13 February, 2015 at 9:40 am

        I’m not farang, nor Thai, nor Chinese, but from one of Asean countries. I’m 50yrs, not handsome but also not that ugly too. Not a sugar daddy-typed but ordinary local small businessman.
        Use free TF for 2 weeks, then upgrade for 2 consecutive months. Put only one photo with a clear description that I seek for friendship; clearly state that I’m not interested to money-motive based relationship.
        During that period i got agreed meeting with 380 women of 25-42 years. I never be pushy in asking their numbers but to date there are 90 phone numbers with me.
        Note: I refuse to use line or skype since I have regular works, and don’t want to spend the whole day just to entertain online chat. If I accept this media, believe the number above will increase significantly. So I use only TF’s messaging system. Conversation is always in friendship-wise, not flirting nor seductive wise.
        Am I good or bad?

        1. 13 February, 2015 at 3:53 pm

          380? Yes it makes a huge difference when you pay to when you don’t in the amount of girls that message you.

      3. tce001
        13 February, 2015 at 11:16 pm

        Hey LG. Don’t take it so personally. The truth is, no matter how good a certain flavor of “ice cream” is, if THATS all you’re given everyday, you’re bound to get tired of it. It’s human nature to desire that which is unavailable ( generally speaking). So give the girl a break……. OH and BTW Roger J……Have you read some of those posts? Most of those “beauties” wouldn’t know proper English from “pig latin”

      4. Ross
        12 June, 2015 at 6:18 pm

        Yep it’s probably because YOU are Asian. life A BITCH!

  11. Mark
    17 March, 2015 at 3:43 am

    If these girls are too busy to find a partner because of long working hours, how will they have time for meeting up for dates?

    1. 17 March, 2015 at 9:25 am

      I meant they are too busy or don’t have the money to visit social places that westerns go to due to lack of time, money or both.

      I would also say many of them are shy to put themselves in these spots so opt for online dating.

    20 March, 2015 at 6:53 am

    I will be visiting Bangkok in Mid April, 2015 and wish to meet some nice fit girl and Thai friendly seems to be the best place online at least.

    1. 20 March, 2015 at 9:14 am

      Start here and you should do well my friend.

  13. Jawdog
    1 May, 2016 at 4:35 am

    I owe you a beer Harvie, I joined up a few weeks ago because of this article and the amount of girls who want to meet me is unreal. After sorting them out on looks I ended up meeting half a dozen.

    I’ll message you the next time I’m in town and get you that beer.

  14. Pat
    3 May, 2016 at 5:52 am

    I’ve just set up four from both Thai Friendly and ThaiCupid.

    I’m flying this week, and it’s looking fabulous.We all know what’s gonna happen which cuts costs wining dining and all that bollocks. Youngest is 21, oldest is a sophisticaed lawyer of 39 (I love these older sexpots, they do it all)

    I’ll be in residence at Ibis Riverside for a month, then it’s Koh Lanta with another hunny
    Helps to be good looking and not to smother them with sexual innuendo on your first few chats

    The paid sites worth the cost, as you have Platinum member status and can browse without restriction

  15. carlos sims
    12 May, 2016 at 5:36 am

    This info so true but i must say i’m having lots of success with Thai woman. Oh by the way. I’m a black man hehe. Well brown skin type black man.

  16. Rj
    10 July, 2016 at 5:59 pm

    Met several had plenty success, it’s worth joining up a few weeks before you fly out to setup dates and nights out with groups of girls.

  17. DeeJay
    18 July, 2016 at 7:56 am

    Use Thaifriendly each time I go to Thailand (Going back to BKK end of this year)

    The hardest part I’m finding is trying to meet older women. I’m 33 myself but I look quite young for my age and pass off easily as someone in their mid to late 20s. I have no problem getting casual dates with women in their 20s, both from TF and from random bars/club pickups but I’m at a complete standstill when it comes to someone 40+ (I have a bit of a milf complex)

    Usually I stay around RCA or Soi 11, I have a couple of Thai friends I go out with when I’m there but they’re a part of the younger crowd so we don’t go anywhere other then nightclubs, or rooftop bars if we’re feeling a bit fancy.

    Anyone have any advice?

    1. 18 July, 2016 at 8:57 am

      Thai girls as they get older don’t venture to night clubs as much as they feel they are ‘too old’ usually. This is not always the case as you will see older women there, but not many. Look into night markets if you want MILFs and set your filters on Thai Friendly to show older women.

      1. DeeJay
        18 July, 2016 at 12:44 pm

        Yeah I didn’t think that would be the case. Talked to a few on TF but it seems like they’re either extremely standoffish or too long term orientated, although I have chatted to a few before.. Never tried to pick up from a night market though. Guess I’ll have to give it a shot end of year

        Thanks mate.

      2. Sachin
        27 February, 2017 at 2:36 am

        Hi, this is my first time in khonkaen. I m looking for beautiful girl in my room

  18. Luis
    29 July, 2016 at 7:39 pm

    Where should you take a Thai girl for sex if your are only a tourist there. Regardless if you pay for sex or get it for free

    1. 29 July, 2016 at 8:12 pm

      Hi Luis, there are hundreds of restaurants all over the city. If you go into any number of malls either on the top floor or ground floor they have dozens of restaurants. After messaging the girls on Thai Friendly, just ask them if they would like to meet up for dinner or drinks near your hotel, most will agree if they like you.

  19. joelafrite
    19 August, 2016 at 5:16 am

    I’m kind of a beginner when it comes to those dating sites. But meet up a girl and get laid has never been that easy.
    Let me tell you about Ming.

    Ming is in her early 20s, student, parents got money, wonderful shape and she loves Japan.

    She accepted to meet up with me in a night market to ‘improve her English’ as she said. Well after a pad Thai and a coca cola, we headed out.

    She said she had to go back home early (before 12pm) cause her old auntie would ask her where she’d been. I insisted to go to her place as she lived near, but she said her auntie wouldn’t accept as she is old-thinking.

    It was still 10:30pm, so she send me back to my place, came up to my room, and after a few music listening, I banged her for 1 hour, she thought she was going to die. I was her first farang and she said: “I never had such a good time, now I know why Thai girls love farangs”.

    During my stay, we met up again several times. She usually came to my hotel at noon after her class for some fun. Once she took me in her car to a restaurant, it was a bad idea as the traffic was horrible. As compensation she blowed me in her car, right in the traffic jam (windows were tinted). Wonderful time in Thailand…

    1. 19 August, 2016 at 8:50 am

      Got to love Thai friendly!

      1. joelafrite
        21 August, 2016 at 8:47 am

        Man, that’s the best thing ever made on the Internet!

  20. Craig
    25 August, 2016 at 8:20 am

    I’ve had a few girls send me there id number can you tell me what this is and how it works. Am I acting a bit thick here as I cant see anything on the site about it.
    Ps premium member.

    1. 25 August, 2016 at 9:17 am

      That’s their Line ID, so you can take to them on their phones. This is allowed with premium membership.

  21. herpess
    5 September, 2016 at 7:42 pm

    what about meeting farang girls in bkk?where? how? when u miss the white puss.. too much hehhe

    1. 6 September, 2016 at 4:27 am

      Try Koh San Road.

      1. herpess
        6 September, 2016 at 12:09 pm

        I never been there thanks to you saying koh san is shit. But Will do !!

    2. BKayKay
      6 March, 2017 at 8:45 am

      Def Khao San!

  22. Jim
    19 September, 2016 at 5:18 am

    Thai friendly is the best !
    Girls are so easy I flew every week a fresh girl in from Bangkok .
    Because I don’t want them to knock on my door if it doesn’t work out .( I live in Chiangmai )
    +/- Baht 2200,- for an airplane ticket of Nok air is a bargain compare to what a bar charge you.
    I picked them up Friday night and put them back on the plane Monday morning .
    For 99% of the time I had a normal working girl with a decent day job .
    Most of the girls were great and could be trusted never had a bad experience .
    Only once I had a problem that girl had a very bad breath it made me dizzy (difficult to check on line )
    The worst part was “the girl was really into kissing !!” it almost killed me .

    1. 19 September, 2016 at 5:32 am

      Haha, yeah you’ll be surprised at how many guys fly a girl over for the weekend, you can get internal return flights for under $50 sometimes.

  23. Tony
    4 October, 2016 at 7:51 am

    I’m an African American guy heading to Thailand in about 10 days. I got on TF about a day or two ago and haven’t had much luck. Are they not into black guys or am I doing something wrong? Haha

    1. 4 October, 2016 at 10:41 am

      They are less into black guys and you have to make them feel comfortable around you. for example, they think black dudes are scary and have big dicks (no, really they do). I suggest having a profile picture with some white guys around to increase social proof. I know you think this might sound ridiculous, but it will help a lot.

  24. Farang Frank
    7 October, 2016 at 11:37 am

    I’ve been a member of TF for about 5 years, and I have to admit that site has been good to me even at my current age of 65! Now, I’m going to acquire a new membership to freshen my image up a bit. Things are getting a bit stale. Going Premium doesn’t do one any harm either. I’ve lost count of the number of acquaintances I’ve made. Being smart and well mannered helps too.

    Just so the nice people know; there’s rather a lot of disgusting perverts infesting TF (same as on most dating sites, I know) which gives the rest of us a bad name. Read the girls’ profiles – many of them tell the creepazoids to stay away. Be polite, and treat them with respect even if you’re really only looking to bang them. Manners don’t cost anything. If you come across anything distasteful, report. In the final analysis, it’s to your advantage to sweep the garbage off the site.

    1. 7 October, 2016 at 11:58 am

      Perfectly summed up Frank. Be nice and normal, that’s all you have to do on TF to meet girls.

  25. Rickman
    14 October, 2016 at 12:46 pm

    Hi guys can anyone give me any advice on how to identify the girls that are most likelyto be up for a date on TF because i dont want to offend them by asking to meet up for dinner (and the obvious later on) .Do i just come out with it and ask her if shes interested in meeting me when i land in Bangkok or do i look for certain girls profiles, im not sure which ones to ask as i dont want no over rated bar girls or go go bar girls, i just want a gf for a few days at a time, i dont mind spoiling them and taking her places, i dont read signals very well as im to oblivious to assume the obvious. Any suggestions would be greatful. im travelling to bangkok end of november but going to udon thani first, would love to get a short time date there if anyone has been before and can suggest anything.

    1. 14 October, 2016 at 12:50 pm

      Hey Rick,

      After a few days (or hours if you’ve been messaging her a lot) it’s okay to say something like:

      “Hey, would you be up for lunch/dinner when I’m in Bangkok? Do you know any good places to eat?”

      If you can’t read signs to well, then you might want to press further and ask if after she wants to visit your hotel to watch a movie, “we can grab a DVD and watch it at the hotel”.

      1. Rickman
        15 October, 2016 at 8:58 pm

        Thanks Harvie
        I am meeting a few potentials already but obviously keeping a few in reserve in case they change their minds like they
        often do, my point is one girl in nongkhai is willing to share double bed but wants nothing else by the sounds but to enjoy
        been spoilt, so ive sacked her off, now this other girl ( a school teacher age 39 ) as offered to pick me up from udon airport even
        though its a 3 hour drive for her to do this, but she is saying she dont mind, she lives out in the sticks in Nakhon Ratchasima
        ive seen enough proof to say shes genuine and stuff and shes aware im not staying more than 2 weeks with her, she
        did hint that she had no money to go dutch which i never expected anyway, her words were YOU WILL HAVE TO TAKE
        OF ME.( sorry i cant find the inverted commas) to which i replied ill take care of you as long as you take care of me, and
        she replied I UNDERSTAND now call me thick and i never take anything for granted but what do ya reckon !!! Am i to
        assume if there willing to come to your hotel then the odds are they pretty much know what to expect.

        1. 16 October, 2016 at 4:32 am

          Hi Rick,

          Yes it sure does, you’ve got the green flag with the girl from Nakhon Ratchasima.

          I also want to point out that even if a girl says “we can share bed but nothing else”, sometimes the girl says this so you do not think she is ‘easy’ but will go all the way anyway.

          1. Rickman
            16 October, 2016 at 9:44 am

            Hi Harvie,

            Thanks for your useful advice i will now look for a few more now as back ups, Last time I went to Thailand (2009) i visited Pattaya went to walking street and there was no such thing as signals down there, more like a pick and choose option, but my wallet was suffering in the end and my trip was going off schedule (like it does). So this time I’m going for holiday romance with a couple of ladies and seeing some more of their beautiful country, I have noticed one thing with the girls on TC you can be talking to them one minute just getting to know them and them BOSH they have gone, no warning just drop of a hat and gone, this I assume is because they are very busy and have to go at the snap of someones fingers by the looks of things. I know work and money are their priorities over there and I fully understand, It just goes to show how busy some of these ladies reall are, im wondering if their as busy when I arrive or do they arrange time off ? i don’t want to be stuck in the middle of the sticks if she’s going to be working or even busy for most of the day.

          2. 16 October, 2016 at 3:19 pm

            Some leave because they have found a boyfriend on Thai Friendly and then close their account. Others might do it because they have been hurt by someone so leave…and come back once the pain is gone (usually about a week or two).

            You should ask her how busy she is going to be. Worst case you can always fly to another part of Bangkok for less than 700b the same day.

  26. Marky Mark
    15 October, 2016 at 7:37 pm

    I’ve been to Thailand many times, and have had a couple of Thai GF’s but nothing serious and of course roamed about and partied with the ladies at the gogo’s and beer bars and such.
    Just a few months ago I opened a profile on Thai Friendly. I have met a lot of Thai ladies on there. Have acquired a lot of contacts on the LINE app and had a lot of chats, on cam and off. I have not been to Thailand since opening my profile on Thai Friendly. The ladies I talk to are interested in meeting me, but of course the interest is lukewarm because I’m not there and I understand why. They are not looking for long distance games.
    My question is this, and is for any of the guys out there that have had a similar experience with Thai Friendly. When you arrive in Thailand and let the ladies on there know you are there, do they react differently? Is their interest increased. Lukewarm to hot?
    I’m asking that because I should be going there soon. One lady (very hot) wants to pick me up at the airport. Is that advisable? Like I said, I’ve been to the LOS many times and know the score, but still looking for advice/opinions.
    thanks guys

    1. 16 October, 2016 at 4:29 am

      The interest will rise when you’re here for sure, . As for picking up at the airport, it’s quite common and many of my friends have been picked up by a girl and dropped off at their hotel room/apartment.

      1. Marky Mark
        16 October, 2016 at 3:25 pm

        Thanks for the reply.
        Yeah, I figured the ladies will be more interested upon arrival. They always ask when am I coming to Thailand and to contact them ASAP upon arrival. It’s actually quite easy to make too many contacts on there, and would have to do some creative moving around to visit more than one of the ladies. I know how Thai chicks can get and they don’t always accept the old butterfly behavior.
        I’m concerned about spending too much time with the one that wants to pick me up at the airport. She is quite attractive and like so many of the ladies there in her age group that are interested in farang men, she has an ex-husband that’s a farang, etc. I’m sure at some point I will want to shake her off and chase other honeys I met on Thai Friendly.

        1. 16 October, 2016 at 3:30 pm

          Haha, as the say goes “you can’t have your cake and eat it”.

          Good luck Mark, I’m sure you’ll have a cracker of a time and save a lot more money on this holiday using Thai Friendly.

  27. Pat Taya
    23 October, 2016 at 6:42 am

    Thai Friendly is a winner. Just make sure she’s not a ladyboy!

    1. 23 October, 2016 at 6:51 am

      Set your filters to hide ladyboys and you’re golden.

  28. Kevin
    31 October, 2016 at 8:50 pm

    For meeting Thai girls with a “No Strings Attached” understanding, do you spell it out in your profile so not to lead the girls on to thinking that you might be looking to marry them, as many of them are looking for someone to marry? Or is it enough to just say your intention is dating and you’re open to all possibilities?

    Furthermore, if I had to chose one site to go with, should I choose Thai Friendly or Thai Cupid? Without paying for either site, I find I’m getting a lot more interest on Thai cupid. I’ve got 3 emails on Thai Friendly and 98 on Thai Cupid… in just 2 days. So, I guess I better pay for at least one as I’m traveling to Bangkok in 4 weeks. Has anyone else had better luck on Thai Cupid?

    1. 1 November, 2016 at 1:47 am

      You can go with both, I’d go ahead and write something like “I’m just here for a few weeks, looking for cool and fun girls” the message that you’re here for a few weeks should tell them you’re not looking for girls. Writing no strings attached could scare a few of them away thinking you’re a playboy.

      Both are fine to use, I always suggest getting a month on both and then canceling the one you don’t like. Thai Friendly only boosts your account when you’re a premium member so your numbers will increase when you upgrade that’s for sure.

  29. Kevin
    1 November, 2016 at 8:15 pm

    Thanks for your response Harvie. That’s great advice. Also, I’m going to be traveling to Phuket and Samui. Is there one that might be better suited for those locations?

    I think both will be good in Phuket.

    1. 2 November, 2016 at 2:20 am

      I’ve never been to Samui so I’ve not tried it. Just be sure to change your location on your profile to Phuket or Samui when you get there, this will ensure you get matched to people near you.

  30. Kevin
    2 November, 2016 at 10:25 am

    Thanks Harvie. Good advice again. Do you know if either site has a good phone app. I see that Thai Friendly has an app but I can’t find the Thaicupid app. I have an Android phone.

    1. 2 November, 2016 at 12:54 pm

      I’m not sure if Thai Cupid have an app mate, you should visit their website in your browser and see if it’s mobile friendly or not, I’m guessing it will be as they are pretty huge.

  31. Sean
    11 November, 2016 at 12:29 am

    I met a girl at Thaifriendly and she says she lives 6 hrs away from Bangkok. I will be traveling to phuket and I asked he if she can come. She said she can come if you pay for the tickets etc. She wanted me to transfer money to her account. I said no and said I can reimburse if she comes. She said she will but you have to buy me air tickets etc. I agreed.
    Now I’m just worried if she is an scam or she has lime who will harras me later with fake pregnancy, medical issues etcetera.
    AnY advices?

    1. 11 November, 2016 at 2:46 am

      I never advise sending money to a Thai girl’s account, I would get her to buy the ticket and then you pay her back when she comes, or I would buy the ticket myself from Air Asia and then email it to her. A one-way ticket is going to be around 1,000b.

      Less chance of being scammed than sending her money to her account.

      1. Sean
        11 November, 2016 at 3:41 am

        Thanks Harvie, are there any other kind of scams that I need to be aware of. Also, she has mailed me her Id. I am just being too much worried because it’s very easy to meet and I feel it’s too good to be true

        1. 11 November, 2016 at 4:13 am

          Nothing too much really, she prob just wants to get out of her town and be able to see/eat things she cannot afford. Do keep in mind that you’re expected to pay for her food/travel too. If she cannot afford a plane ticket (many can’t) then she cannot afford to pay for a hotel or eat out 3-4 times a day.

          Thailand has a bad rep for scams with girls, very few (never heard of it in 5 years of living in Thailand) will steal all your possessions from a hotel if you met them from online. Without knowing more to your story my guess is she will be right as rain, she might go past a market and be like “oh that is very nice” and hope you buy it, but can you blame her? It’s 300b and you’ve paid for her to come and visit.

          If she starts asking for 5,000b watches or bags, then you just laugh it off and say “I not that rich na”. 😀

          It’s not too good to be true, it’s just good! My friend often flys girls from Udon for the weekend, costs him little under 1,500b and he reckons he saves because two nights out in Bangkok can easily set you back 8,000b+ if you’re not careful lol.

          Now does she have a game to play? Who knows, maybe she is hoping for a small cash sump (1,000-5,000b) at the end of the trip, maybe she just wants to see the beach and eat seafood with someone she finds attractive. Either way enjoy the ride and don’t think too much about it. The story you will have after meeting her will be awesome :).

          I don’t think you’re being scammed, but if she starts telling you stories of how her family or her bluffo are sick, or she owes someone money, just be wary that this is her tactic to get money from you. The best thing to do is ignore it, don’t react or get angry as she will lose face. Just be like “oh that is bad” then change the subject. They are just rolling the dice hoping to hit a 6.

  32. Rai
    12 December, 2016 at 7:54 pm

    I would say all this fuss about having the white skin only to gain significant advantage on these dating websites is largely misleading. While I agree that being a westerner would work more in favor of you (especially if you are dealing with a hooker kind}, however in the end it comes down to you as a person. How you behave, talk and treat a person defines you more than your skin color?

    I am a Indian guy with brown skin and I say as a guarantee that when it comes to dating normal Thai girls who aren’t hookers or have any bar connections, your color of skin does not matters. These girls basically need a caring and understanding man. Most of them even avoid Westerners because of the ill-repute of them just looking for sex and being mongers.

    I have spent considerable time in Thailand and have dated and slept with numerous beautiful normal thai girls without any problem and having never to pay for sex. I have found all of them on websites such as ThaiCupid, Thai Friendly, Tagged and from People Nearby function of Wechat and Line. Never encountered any problem, none of the girl ever rejected me because of skin color, nationality or any such issues. And I am just a average looking Indian guy with brown skin, nothing really handsome about me.They were all very nice and loving and even spent their own money at times forcing me to not pay. I have had the same experience in Philippines and Indonesia where I live now.

    My advice to everyone out there who has black or brown skin is that just don’t get disheartened by all this talk about skin color. This only works for a tourist centric (location specific ) dating game where the thai girl is looking for some form of monetary gain or better life prospects. Just go out there and meet people and approach the girls in a nice and decent manner. Yes you wont be successful with every girl you try with but then so is the case with Westerners. Don’t worry if you face initial rejection, there are too many fish out there and soon you will catch one and with time you will become a pro that can get most of the girls you wish.

    Thailand is much more than the hooker friendly destination it has been portrayed as and most thai girls are not like what they get labelled as. No matter, if you are Indian, South Asian, Arabic, African, Chinese or any other race including Westerners, just go out and treat people with respect and courtesy and you will receive the same in reciprocity including a huge number of lovely thai girls to spend time with.

    1. 13 December, 2016 at 3:29 am

      Great to see some positive experiences from non-white males, always a refreshing change.

    2. Ragu
      8 April, 2017 at 4:28 pm

      Thanks Rai.. I am Indian and a brown guy.. That is very helpful.

  33. cicciograz
    9 January, 2017 at 7:26 pm

    Thai Friendly sounds good but I was wondering if there are bad experiences with girls met online. Like, is it safe to bring her to your apartment or I should book a hotel?should I send her away after we’re done or I can let her sleep to my place?I don’t like the idea of falling asleep and getting robbed. Is it bad to invite directly a girl over without asking her to meet us somewhere else or without asking her out for dinner?

    1. 10 January, 2017 at 3:14 am

      Chances of getting robbed are very low, never heard it happen to anyone on dating sites, unless you’re bringing back ladyboys. To be safe just hide your stuff in the safe or somewhere. In all honestly, you get robbed by go-go girls not normal Thai girls.

      1. Ragu
        8 April, 2017 at 11:13 pm

        Harvie.. thanks so much your wealth of info.. has helped me so much. Enjoyed reading all the questions and answers.

  34. Pat
    19 January, 2017 at 7:43 am

    You know what made my profile a ”holy grail” of sorts?

    Platinum Membership and a note on my profile ”Don’t contact me for sex chat or playboy guy”’

    It stopped all the whores and desperates and endeared me to the real cute non-english speaking chicks, most of which had never been corrupted by a farang BF or any farang for that matter.

  35. mobetta1
    19 January, 2017 at 5:56 pm

    TF is amazing. Literally a thousand pleasant, extremely attractive, interested women… Many of which reach out to you! This is going to sound like a paid advert for TF…

    When I first saw a review of TF, it said something along the lines of “you can get a good looking young girl to sleep with you for nothing more than dinner” Yeah, right I thought. In what world does that happen? Thailand, that’s where. I am older and no social butterfly, but I do have social skills sufficient enough to behave. But how, or why, would a cute young girl want me? It happened.

    Rules: Be polite, don’t be a douchbag, dress well, and be respectful. You can and will discuss sex, but for chrissakes, don’t use blunt force trauma. Work into it.

    If you have a genuine sense of interest, see beauty in everyone, are patient and empathetic you can begin to engage these women and get to know each other. Yes, this is work and time. Very much time. But the reward is astounding and the anticipation made it all the better. I could “hire” a 10 from a bar or… I could spend an incredibly rewarding and passionate weekend with a 10 that wants to be with me because we like each other.

    I came to know the most beautiful and young woman less than half my age, a kindergarten teacher from the countryside. Anywhere else in the world, this young creature would be a model or draped on some rich dudes arm. But my months-long courtship (Line ID) has resulted in a great friend, enduring memories and positively the best sex I have ever had with this petite little powerhouse. The. Best. Sex. I paid for her flights and transfers. Far cheaper than these bar-finds incidentally. I am astounded by the genuine and sweet nature of the Thai women. I suspected this from my lifelong attraction to them, but it is confirmed. I will return to see this gorgeous girl.

    1. Pat
      20 January, 2017 at 6:47 pm

      Patience rewards!

      Lots of idiot douchebags out there, who should stick to the shitholes of Pattaya or Bangkok

  36. Ash
    19 January, 2017 at 7:11 pm

    I go to Pattaya. Getting laid is no prob. Don’t seem to be able to find a girl friend for the two weeks that I am there. I end up with bar girls. Which I don’t want. My age is in the sixtys. Have been told i look a lot younger Looks are ok . Do you think I should try Thiafriendly? Any words that could help me find the nice girl. How many photos do you think I should putt up. Dressed any special way. I mean cloths. Jeans ,suite. Beach ware. Etc!!

    1. 20 January, 2017 at 2:47 am

      Give it a go and see what happens, just upload 3-4 nice pictures and ask girl on dates, don’t be too forward and dress well on dates. You should be golden.

    2. mobetta1
      20 January, 2017 at 4:28 pm

      Read my post above. I am in my 50’s and it has happened. Try somewhere else other than Pattaya as well.

  37. Pat
    21 January, 2017 at 5:07 am


    It’s about patience, isn’t it? Many don’t have that, probably due to their total ignorance/stupidity or the fact they are on a their two week annual vacation from their jobs at Jaymart or the meat factory. Or all of the above..

    Call me naiive but it still astounds me that so many assume all these TF girls are all the same as those skanks that line Walking street or Cowboy, or all Thai girls for that matter.
    Can’t tell the difference due to their brains being in their pants.

    1. Mobetta1
      22 January, 2017 at 7:44 am


      True indeed. I understand the benefit of a quick shag as much as the next guy, but for me the ‘courtship’ elevates the entire experience to one of ethereal nirvana with a young, beautiful and sensitive woman who wants to be with me. Not everyone will want that or understand it, which is fine. It is what I want. So I view it not so much patience as an investment.

      I went for 8 days and was floored by the astounding time. Oh, by the way… pony up for the premium websites guys. Its a measly 30 bucks, as much as a bar fine for crying out loud. Or run the risk of looking like the cheap-ass that you guys are if you don’t…

  38. Nathan
    22 January, 2017 at 9:01 pm

    Hey Harvie, I’m a 19 y/o attending college right now, and I’m interested in a long term relationship, rather than just a one night stand. I live in America, and since I’m looking for a long term relationship (hopefully marriage), and because I’m very limited with money, what’s the best option for my situation? Like how long should I stay in Thailand and date them, and what would my chances be of them coming back to the US with me after only spending 1 or 2 weeks over there?
    A buddy of mine told me a trip to Thailand plus the various bars and clubs only cost him around 3k USD out of a 5k budget, and that was him TRYING to spend money. So how many trips would I have to make, and how long would the trips be? Assuming I only pay for the flight, hotels, dinner, gifts, and other necessities, while avoiding the partying and wasting money that way.

    1. 23 January, 2017 at 3:20 am

      Hi Nathan,

      Okay let’s hold up here, I’m sure not sure why you want a long-term relationship at 19, sounds like a bad idea, would re-think that.

      You can bring a girl back with you after just a few weeks, but the girl who does that is not a girl you want a long-term relationship with. Like anything it takes time, and it seems you don’t have enough of it, or given your budget you can’t buy more of it. So my advice would be this, for you, don’t get a long-term girlfriend and bring her back to the US, you’re only 19 and don’t have enough money.

      1. Vegas
        31 January, 2017 at 7:33 pm

        Agree, 19 a little young to settle down with as Asian from overseas. Also, immigration is involved, and I know from experience that can be a long and expensive process, either as a fiancé visa or tourist visa.

  39. Odyss
    1 February, 2017 at 12:00 am

    I’ve been for over two weeks on TC and a couple of days on TF and I have a couple things to share but also a few things to ask.

    Firstly. Thai girls are extremly busy! They work from dawn till dusk 6 days a week which leaves very little space to meet them. Guys how you do it? Supposing I want to meet two or three girls in a week. I can’t do all it over the weekend, can I?

    Judging by the large number of “bikini” profiles I have a feeling that TF has more bar girls. I also noticed that large number of girls lives in Sukhumvit area (BKK) Does it mean that they are all bar girls?

    There’s also one more thing which bothers me. Supposing you met a several girls to determine which one is for you. How do you tell others that despite a couple of weeks long conversation and the meeting (and possibly sex) that actually you don’t want to see her again?

    1. 1 February, 2017 at 6:56 am

      Hey Odyss,

      Most work 6 days per week and have 1 day off. You’re best to meet them after work somewhere close to their work or apartment, or on their day off.

      Just because a girl lives near Sukhumvit does not mean she is a bargirl, there are very cheap condos in Soi 22 that many stay in. Others will look deep in the sois and share a room between 3-4 of them. Don’t get me wrong there will be working girls on there for sure, but it’s usually less than 5%.

      If you don’t want to see a girl again just stop repsonding to them, block them or tell them you have a girlfriend now.

  40. Danny
    10 February, 2017 at 12:52 pm

    Thanks Harvie for this great post.
    I am not a paid member on Thai friendly only because I am worried about potential misuse of credit card.

    From your experience, is this site trustworthy?
    If I join, say for a month, and don’t like it, can I quit and they want keeo charging my credit card?
    Thanks mate

    1. 10 February, 2017 at 2:24 pm

      Hey Danny, yes you can quit with no issues. I’ve used the sites and thousands of others with no issues. The website is actually owned by a westerner so you should have no problems talking to support.Thai Friendly is one of the most trusted (if not the most) dating sites in Thailand.

  41. Odyss
    11 February, 2017 at 12:58 pm

    Thanks Harvie 🙂

    Guys, how many times did you manage to sleep with a girl on the first date? I don’t talk about girls you developed strong connection ( via sextexting, photos exchange) but rather those who were chatting with you on and off for a couple of weeeks?

    I’m going to BKK today and manage to set up a couple of dates but it wasn’t easy as I’m not going to stay there for long and most of them work day and night.

    1. 13 February, 2017 at 4:00 am

      I think the rate is like 60-70% but it really depends on the girl and how smooth you are. I know some people who have a 90% rate while others much lower. Even a few days is enough if you plan correctly.

  42. David M
    12 February, 2017 at 10:38 pm

    New to TF. Not much luck I feel. Maybe I’m too impatient. I’m always respectful. Not an Olgre. Is it the age thing? I’m 59. Recently retired. Still physically able to do everything, just a little slower. I’m really surprised at how many college educated and Ph.D are online. Seriously? Maybe I’m too jaded for Thai world. But their so damn cute. Thanks for your website

    1. 13 February, 2017 at 4:01 am

      Are you a premium member? You will get soo many less messages if you’re not. How do your pictures look? Also if you’re 59, some of the younger girls may not want an older guy (18-29).

    2. 20 April, 2017 at 11:12 pm

      Hi David, I know what you mean my friend, it takes me all night to do what I used to do all night haha.
      Seriously, I am recently retired too and am 57, I’m going to Bangkok in three weeks time and have just joined TF. I’m not sex mad and don’t expect too much but to meet a few younger Thai chicks would be great and if I get laid a couple of times then that’s a bonus. I’m a bit old-fashioned but I think the ladies appreciate a bit of old school courtesy and respect in any country, not just Thailand. I always like to be well turned out but am realistic enough to know that what I will probably be doing with my time is appreciating the local food and culture so I guess it’s an age thing but there’s life in the old dog yet and I am looking forward to fixing up a few dates before I go so thank you everyone for your advice and tips on this site.

  43. 5 April, 2017 at 11:18 am

    Just FYI, you don’t have to be WHITE to get laid like crazy in SE Asia. As an average ASIAN male, it’s literally a never ending amount of girls who want to date you and almost a part time job if you want to connect with hundreds of chicks on Thai Friendly

    Most people in SE Asia only make a few hundred bucks a month so when they meet anyone who makes 10x-100x how much they do it would be the same thing in Any other country. It’s not so much about race, but more about money. Ie – if you are making millions in America vs 50k / year you will easily be able to line up tons of dates, develop a rotation, get laid etc really easily.

    Also, as a general rule of thumb, as an Asian, you grow up with your parents telling you to marry within your own nationality / race first and then if you can’t find someone suitable within your own race or if you become a leftover 30+ woman, then go for white or whatever next as long as they have money. If you’re a 40+ woman and still single in Asia, then you should pretty much go for anything that asks you out cause most local Asian guys aren’t going to even consider anything serious with girls who are older than 30+.

    For ASIAN Guys, it’s easiest to pickup tons of women wherever there’s less Hollywood influence. Latin countries and Asian countries are the easiest.

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