How to Use Thai Friendly To Meet Thai Girls
This is my review of Thai Friendly dating site.
A question some of my readers ask me is how to find a Thai girlfriend or how to get sex in Thailand without having to pay for it? In this post I will talk to you about Thai Friendly, and how you can have hundreds of real Thai girls messaging you within 24 hours who want meet up (and sleep with you).
If you’re a white male, keep on reading for my review of Thai Friendly.
Finding a Thai girlfriend on Thai friendly
The number one sure way to find a Thai girlfriend sometimes before even landing in Thailand is to visit the Thai Friendly dating site.
From talking to my friends, we all agree this is by far the best dating website in Thailand and a good choice to find a Thai girlfriend, or to find a girl who’s up for no strings attached fun, without any exchange of money.
The west is still coming to grips with “online dating”, some people still consider these websites as taboo, while in Thailand it’s the complete opposite. Many girls are working long hours so they don’t have the time to socialize, they find using Thai Friendly a great way to find relationships of all kinds.
The average workday can last as long as 10-12 hours for a Thai girl, then using public transport to get back home, that’s another 1-2 hours.If you have ever been to Thailand, you know how bad public transport is, so 10-12 hours work with another 1-2 hours of commuting to work and you see why most Thai girls use online dating sites to find partners and casual one night stands.
Only the rich Thai girls have time to socialize most nights, and even then, its hard for them to do that.
You must also remember that the average Thai doesn’t have much disposable income, so visiting bars and clubs won’t be on the agenda for them every week. There is a whole un-tapped market currently on these dating sites, Thai friendly being the most popular and successful.
Thai friendly has all types of girls, and they do offer an option to block messages from certain people such as ladyboys if they are not your cup of tea. I also know (and my friends agree) that out of all the Thai dating sites, Thai friendly has the lowest amount of prostitutes and most amount of genuine Thai girls to chat with.
If you are ever unsure you can always ask the girl you’re chatting with, but don’t just come right out and and ask them if they are a Thai bar girl, because that will annoy them greatly. Say something along the lines of :
I am sorry to ask this, because I think you’re not, but are you a Bar girl? I only ask because the last person didn’t tell me, until we met in person. I am new to Thailand so I am still trying to understand everything, sorry for asking you like this.
But like I said 99% of the girls on Thai friendly are just your average Thai girl, its not even worth worrying about, but I thought I would mention it in case anybody was wondering.
This website is by far the easiest place to find a Thai girlfriend or get laid without even having to leave your laptop. This is talking from my own personal experience and 8 western friends who all have found a Thai Girlfriend using this site. You just need white skin or be from a western speaking country.
Pro tip: You need to be careful when browsing girls pictures, as some will be filtered using Instagram or taken at funny angles to hide how fat/spotty/dark they are. It is not uncommon for people to meet up for a date only to find the girl 10lbs overweight and nothing like she was in the pictures.
When this happens you just got “Thai friendly’d”, and what you do is laugh it off and chalk it up as experience, or maybe send me a read submission of the story! This is quite rare but you should always ask the girl for more pictures or have a quick chat on Skype video to see if she is hiding something.
How do I know if my Thai girlfriend really likes me or is after something?
This part of my Thai Friendly review is to help you know if your date wants money or something else.
This question has too many variables to give you any kind of answer, but if you are after a serious Thai girlfriend who you want a future with, don’t ever bring up the topic of money. Don’t say how much money you have, how much you earn, I would even go as far to say don’t spend money around her on anything but cheap food for the first few weeks. From this guess how she is viewing it all, does she care? Or is she just happy to be with you?
You must remember that the average Thai earns around $250-$350 a month, so that’s why many look for a western guy to get them out of this situation, you just need to play your hand with caution. Several of my friends in Bangkok have Thai girlfriends, who I can tell are not after their money, don’t believe all the stereotypes on the Internet, Thai girls are not always after your money.
Tips for success on Thai Friendly
The first thing you need to understand is that a girl is going to judge you on your pictures and profile.
You can just upload a photo or two and have an empty profile and girls will still message you.
But if you really want to kick your Thai Friendly account into overdrive, follow these tips I’m about to tell you.
Ideally you want around 4-6 photos uploaded of yourself.
If possible take one where you’re dressed in something smart, and another where you’re with a group of friends having fun.
The third should be some sort of action shot of you playing sports or something.
It really doesn’t matter what you look like physically, for example if you think you’re not a sexy guy, that may very well be true in the west.
But in Thailand they use a totally different system for what they find attractive.
They care more about the type of person you’re than the way you look.
As long as you look presentable in your photos (you’re not wearing vest and flip flops) and are clean shaven, show you have friends you’ll do really well on Thai Friendly.
When you start messaging girls, don’t be super direct, be chill, ask them questions about their life and hobbies, then from there you can move the conversation forward to dating and meeting up.
How is Thai Friendly for brown and black people?
I’m brown as they come and I’ve had no problems with dating girls on Thai Friendly.
If you’re brown, black or Asian you need to clearly state in your profile that you were born in the US, UK or wherever it is you come from.
If you have a beard then upload a photo where you’re clean shaven, Asian girls much rather prefer guys who are clean shaven.
If you’re a fun guy and knows how to talk online, it doesn’t matter how you look or what color your skin is, Thai girls are super friendly and are happy to meet if you’re a nice guy.
How is the site for 40+ year olds?
If you’re over 40 and looking to join Thai Friendly I have good news for you, you will be able to meet girls.
I suggest using the age filter and set your age from 30 upwards. There’s a very low chance that a girl of 18-25 is wanting to date an older guy who is 40-70 unless you’re willing to support her or her family.
Just think about it, why on earth would such a young girl who has everything going for her date an older man?
Not being rude, just setting expectation for you older guys on Thai Friendly.
If you’re 50-60, you’ll have no trouble meeting girls in the 30-40 range, and in my experience this is the sweet spot as they are able to have deeper conversations about life and they play less games.
Thai Friendly Review
Either way, life is a game, going to Thailand is no different, all you can do is role the dice and see what the outcome is. So good luck on finding your Thai Girlfriend in Bangkok or no-strings attached fun using the Thai friendly dating site won’t be disappointed!
This is my Thai Friendly review hope you enjoyed it.
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Good hint. I managed to get two girls to come straight to my room pretty easily.
You’re a big man
I’m glad I came across this blog, I did sign up and it worked just like a treat. I find having pictures in well dressed clothes helps greatly. My first profile picture was me in a vest and shorts, but when I changed it to me in a suit, I got way more attention.
keep up the good work!
what do you mean by thai friendly’d
Hey Matt,
It means when you meet a date and she looks much worse than the actual pictures, it happens once every 7 or so dates.
But she may be a 10.. orgasm on every stroke.. so stoke the fire, don’t look at the mantle piece. A Shanghainese in Hong Kong, as ugly as heck with tiny boobs, was the best 10 I ever had. Own apartment, ordered lobster dinners and just wanted to non stop come.
Now if you get a poor looking/fatter chick, test for rank. Firmly rub your hand along her upper back. If she groans and almost collapses, grab her, its a ten!
I like that Tf’d reference lol
But ya, u must ask to see a person on cam first, before meeting in real, this is a must!
Hey. I’m moving to Bangkok in October and I appreciate all the tips and guides on your blog – many thanks!
On the topic of Thai women/girlfriends, how do they generally perceive dark-skinned men? Is there some prejudice or stigma around dating a black or brown man?
Yes there is, I will write a blog post about it this week or next so you can learn more about it.
My experience with Thai Friendly has been mixed. The general rule is if a woman shows any cleavage she is fairly to very loose. If a woman comes to your apartment on the first or second date she is also loose. A “good” Thai woman won’t put out for at least a few months of serious dating. That being said a nice dinner can yield a hot night or several, which is cheaper than a message parlor for 90 minutes. Ultimately it’s pretty much the same equation. You just need to decide how much time, heart, and soul you want to invest.
What do u think about living togheter with your thai gf? something to avoid? I used Thai Friendly and I setup 8 days in 1 week. Managed to get 5 of them back to my room the goal is to meet them up for dates at night had me the best success.
Depends on how you feel about her. I would avoid, as its easy to get them to move in, much harder to get them to move out.
Yeah, that’s my experience too, now i am very cautious before i invite a girl to move in again.
If you want a girlfriend they will be your girlfriend really fast. Best to take things slow and get to know them before you ask them to move in with you.
Now, for a vacation I’ll want to experience my women in twos. Will it be easy for Thai friendly or another site will help fill the dating pipeline during my stay without including bargirls. what’s the afarangabroad solution?
If you want threesomes then you need to go to escort sites that offer the service. You won’t find girls who want threesomes on Thai Friendly, they are normal girls with jobs here, not hookers.
The best 3somes it 4 somes etc are at the eden sex club soi 7 1/2 off sukumvit. The girls while not the hottest are trained to please foreigners. Role play, uniforms, sex toys, anal cim etc….
I must say that I’ve found my gf on Thaifriendly in just 3days . I am eternal gratefull for this opportunity TF gave us .Sometimes you just need a bunch of luck and a lot of experience . Grtz
I see many girls visit my profile but only a few messages. Is this because they’re not interested or lack the upgrade to send message? If a girl doesn’t have the upgraded subscription how should I get in touch with her? Can she reply to my messages or do you have to use the instant chat feature? I can’t find any info about this on the site.
Thanks
Hi Steve, you only get a lack of messages if you yourself have not upgraded. If you upgrade your membership your account gets shown on the first-page ahead of non-paid members. You should see 20-30x more messages if you upgrade.
Thanks.
I’m almost giving up on TF to be honest. Not sure if the gals there r only interested in dating farang BF (I’m a Singaporean Chinese) or maybe it’s me not gd looking enough & appealing to them. Or maybe I juz dunno how to chat wif Thai chicks! i haven’t had gd result so far after more than 3weeks trying out TF. I sent more than 60 msg so far but only got less than 10 genuine replies. Outta these less than 10 genuine replies, I only managed to get the Line no. of abt 6 ladies. And outta these 6 ladies, only 1 or 2 of them actively chat wif me. The rest r juz like talking to a 3 yo toddler, they’ll only reply as & when they like (& they usually dun make alotta sense) I personally find it hard to hold a decent conversation wif a Thai lady. I had a Thai GF in the past, thru my fren’s recommendation & had a few flings in Bkk. I could speak & understand conversational Thai too, although I can’t read Thai script. But I juz couldn’t comprehend y it’s juz tougher when it comes to dating gals in TF. Dun get me wrong, I’m really trying to find a decent Thai lady to be long term companion or GF in the future. I dun hav much difficulties in finding flings in Thailand. In fact, I’m beginning to lose my respect for Thai ladies in the process of using TF. Some of them r juz pretentious & insincere. They all claims that they’re looking for guys who r polite & honest & stuff. But when u try to be honest & polite wif them, they’re juz uninterested @ all. The other problem I face is that most of them juz couldn’t understand basic English. I tried writing long polite interesting msg & profile to get them interested but it’s juz seems futile. Maybe I juz hav no luck in TF, I dunno. Whaddya think, fellas? Appreciate all feedbacks…
Hey LG, I think you addressed it in your first line, you are Singaporean- Chinese. If you look at the database of guys on Thai friendly they are either Thai men or Farangs. I have a Australian born Chinese friend says he got the same thing as you. He said he moved to Thai Cupid and found much better results there.
Also do you have a paid account or free account? As the paid account gives you a further reach. As I said, I think the problem is that you are Asian yourself and not Thai or Farang. I spoke to a guy only this week who said he had over 60 girls message him (paid member).
Thanks.
Writing in correct English would be a good start!
I chose those four from about 45 potentials I had at the start…you soon can separate the quality from the shit. I’m particular and fussy.
Skype was also useful, but no video calling, that’s a bit tacky. Many girls told me that farang men would expose their bollocks to them within an hour of their first chat…and ask them to expose themselves.
The kind of sad bastards who are best suited to Nana or Cowboy
I also had a ”’Thai girl”’ suddenly tell me she was in Ghana. Don’t fall for that shit, man.
I’m not farang, nor Thai, nor Chinese, but from one of Asean countries. I’m 50yrs, not handsome but also not that ugly too. Not a sugar daddy-typed but ordinary local small businessman.
Use free TF for 2 weeks, then upgrade for 2 consecutive months. Put only one photo with a clear description that I seek for friendship; clearly state that I’m not interested to money-motive based relationship.
During that period i got agreed meeting with 380 women of 25-42 years. I never be pushy in asking their numbers but to date there are 90 phone numbers with me.
Note: I refuse to use line or skype since I have regular works, and don’t want to spend the whole day just to entertain online chat. If I accept this media, believe the number above will increase significantly. So I use only TF’s messaging system. Conversation is always in friendship-wise, not flirting nor seductive wise.
Am I good or bad?
380? Yes it makes a huge difference when you pay to when you don’t in the amount of girls that message you.
Hey LG. Don’t take it so personally. The truth is, no matter how good a certain flavor of “ice cream” is, if THATS all you’re given everyday, you’re bound to get tired of it. It’s human nature to desire that which is unavailable ( generally speaking). So give the girl a break……. OH and BTW Roger J……Have you read some of those posts? Most of those “beauties” wouldn’t know proper English from “pig latin”
Yep it’s probably because YOU are Asian. life A BITCH!
If these girls are too busy to find a partner because of long working hours, how will they have time for meeting up for dates?
I meant they are too busy or don’t have the money to visit social places that westerns go to due to lack of time, money or both.
I would also say many of them are shy to put themselves in these spots so opt for online dating.
I will be visiting Bangkok in Mid April, 2015 and wish to meet some nice fit girl and Thai friendly seems to be the best place online at least.
Start here and you should do well my friend.
I owe you a beer Harvie, I joined up a few weeks ago because of this article and the amount of girls who want to meet me is unreal. After sorting them out on looks I ended up meeting half a dozen.
I’ll message you the next time I’m in town and get you that beer.
I’ve just set up four from both Thai Friendly and ThaiCupid.
I’m flying this week, and it’s looking fabulous.We all know what’s gonna happen which cuts costs wining dining and all that bollocks. Youngest is 21, oldest is a sophisticaed lawyer of 39 (I love these older sexpots, they do it all)
I’ll be in residence at Ibis Riverside for a month, then it’s Koh Lanta with another hunny
Helps to be good looking and not to smother them with sexual innuendo on your first few chats
The paid sites worth the cost, as you have Platinum member status and can browse without restriction
This info so true but i must say i’m having lots of success with Thai woman. Oh by the way. I’m a black man hehe. Well brown skin type black man.
Share your secrets, brother. I am a black male from the USA and will be going to Bangkok for two weeks. Did you meet your successes online or in person?
Met several had plenty success, it’s worth joining up a few weeks before you fly out to setup dates and nights out with groups of girls.
Use Thaifriendly each time I go to Thailand (Going back to BKK end of this year)
The hardest part I’m finding is trying to meet older women. I’m 33 myself but I look quite young for my age and pass off easily as someone in their mid to late 20s. I have no problem getting casual dates with women in their 20s, both from TF and from random bars/club pickups but I’m at a complete standstill when it comes to someone 40+ (I have a bit of a milf complex)
Usually I stay around RCA or Soi 11, I have a couple of Thai friends I go out with when I’m there but they’re a part of the younger crowd so we don’t go anywhere other then nightclubs, or rooftop bars if we’re feeling a bit fancy.
Anyone have any advice?
Thai girls as they get older don’t venture to night clubs as much as they feel they are ‘too old’ usually. This is not always the case as you will see older women there, but not many. Look into night markets if you want MILFs and set your filters on Thai Friendly to show older women.
Yeah I didn’t think that would be the case. Talked to a few on TF but it seems like they’re either extremely standoffish or too long term orientated, although I have chatted to a few before.. Never tried to pick up from a night market though. Guess I’ll have to give it a shot end of year
Thanks mate.
Hi, this is my first time in khonkaen. I m looking for beautiful girl in my room
Where should you take a Thai girl for sex if your are only a tourist there. Regardless if you pay for sex or get it for free
Hi Luis, there are hundreds of restaurants all over the city. If you go into any number of malls either on the top floor or ground floor they have dozens of restaurants. After messaging the girls on Thai Friendly, just ask them if they would like to meet up for dinner or drinks near your hotel, most will agree if they like you.
I’m kind of a beginner when it comes to those dating sites. But meet up a girl and get laid has never been that easy.
Let me tell you about Ming.
Ming is in her early 20s, student, parents got money, wonderful shape and she loves Japan.
She accepted to meet up with me in a night market to ‘improve her English’ as she said. Well after a pad Thai and a coca cola, we headed out.
She said she had to go back home early (before 12pm) cause her old auntie would ask her where she’d been. I insisted to go to her place as she lived near, but she said her auntie wouldn’t accept as she is old-thinking.
It was still 10:30pm, so she send me back to my place, came up to my room, and after a few music listening, I banged her for 1 hour, she thought she was going to die. I was her first farang and she said: “I never had such a good time, now I know why Thai girls love farangs”.
During my stay, we met up again several times. She usually came to my hotel at noon after her class for some fun. Once she took me in her car to a restaurant, it was a bad idea as the traffic was horrible. As compensation she blowed me in her car, right in the traffic jam (windows were tinted). Wonderful time in Thailand…
Got to love Thai friendly!
Man, that’s the best thing ever made on the Internet!
August 19, 2016, she says Thai love farang because they have money and have white skin, and not because they are better at sex. Really, have you watched a Japanese man screw a women. He is a pounding machine. Never seen a white guy pound as fast as an asian male. Its that little ass.
Personally, Norwegian, German, Swedish women are super hot, but Thai women really enjoy sex and this is a big turn on. With a German girl, I really have to get her in a tent by the ocean to release her inner fire. Thai women seem always ready.
This Grant like most whiteskin guys (or farangs) think the world of themselves.
They are under the notion that Thai girls are attracted to them. Nothing can be
further from the truth. Only bargirls and prostitutes are attracted to them !
Regular Thai girls prefer Chinese, Japanese or Korean blokes who have similar
values and cultures.
That is the hard fact many whiteskins do not want to accept, and they bury their
heads in the sand like an ostritch !!
Funny. I lived in Thailand for past 11 years and never had a problem meeting plenty of Thai women.I think the only thing required is to treat a lady with respect in most cultures.
I’ve had a few girls send me there id number can you tell me what this is and how it works. Am I acting a bit thick here as I cant see anything on the site about it.
Ps premium member.
That’s their Line ID, so you can take to them on their phones. This is allowed with premium membership.
what about meeting farang girls in bkk?where? how? when u miss the white puss.. too much hehhe
Try Koh San Road.
I never been there thanks to you saying koh san is shit. But Will do !!
Def Khao San!
Thai friendly is the best !
Girls are so easy I flew every week a fresh girl in from Bangkok .
Because I don’t want them to knock on my door if it doesn’t work out .( I live in Chiangmai )
+/- Baht 2200,- for an airplane ticket of Nok air is a bargain compare to what a bar charge you.
I picked them up Friday night and put them back on the plane Monday morning .
For 99% of the time I had a normal working girl with a decent day job .
Most of the girls were great and could be trusted never had a bad experience .
Only once I had a problem that girl had a very bad breath it made me dizzy (difficult to check on line )
The worst part was “the girl was really into kissing !!” it almost killed me .
Haha, yeah you’ll be surprised at how many guys fly a girl over for the weekend, you can get internal return flights for under $50 sometimes.
I’m an African American guy heading to Thailand in about 10 days. I got on TF about a day or two ago and haven’t had much luck. Are they not into black guys or am I doing something wrong? Haha
They are less into black guys and you have to make them feel comfortable around you. for example, they think black dudes are scary and have big dicks (no, really they do). I suggest having a profile picture with some white guys around to increase social proof. I know you think this might sound ridiculous, but it will help a lot.
Tony, in Khon Kaen, the students and teachers really liked the African teacher. He was not my type, being a white male. I did not get it. He spoke some Thai, which worked for these farm girls. He was very popular with the Thai administor, and Thai teachers. Maybe, just try a different city like Khon Kaen. Pattaya now has lots of Russian women who compete with the Thai women which turns into bitch slapping I saw on Youtube. Personnally, I would choose a Thai woman over a Russian woman.
I’ve been a member of TF for about 5 years, and I have to admit that site has been good to me even at my current age of 65! Now, I’m going to acquire a new membership to freshen my image up a bit. Things are getting a bit stale. Going Premium doesn’t do one any harm either. I’ve lost count of the number of acquaintances I’ve made. Being smart and well mannered helps too.
Just so the nice people know; there’s rather a lot of disgusting perverts infesting TF (same as on most dating sites, I know) which gives the rest of us a bad name. Read the girls’ profiles – many of them tell the creepazoids to stay away. Be polite, and treat them with respect even if you’re really only looking to bang them. Manners don’t cost anything. If you come across anything distasteful, report. In the final analysis, it’s to your advantage to sweep the garbage off the site.
Perfectly summed up Frank. Be nice and normal, that’s all you have to do on TF to meet girls.
Hi guys can anyone give me any advice on how to identify the girls that are most likelyto be up for a date on TF because i dont want to offend them by asking to meet up for dinner (and the obvious later on) .Do i just come out with it and ask her if shes interested in meeting me when i land in Bangkok or do i look for certain girls profiles, im not sure which ones to ask as i dont want no over rated bar girls or go go bar girls, i just want a gf for a few days at a time, i dont mind spoiling them and taking her places, i dont read signals very well as im to oblivious to assume the obvious. Any suggestions would be greatful. im travelling to bangkok end of november but going to udon thani first, would love to get a short time date there if anyone has been before and can suggest anything.
Hey Rick,
After a few days (or hours if you’ve been messaging her a lot) it’s okay to say something like:
“Hey, would you be up for lunch/dinner when I’m in Bangkok? Do you know any good places to eat?”
If you can’t read signs to well, then you might want to press further and ask if after she wants to visit your hotel to watch a movie, “we can grab a DVD and watch it at the hotel”.
Thanks Harvie
I am meeting a few potentials already but obviously keeping a few in reserve in case they change their minds like they
often do, my point is one girl in nongkhai is willing to share double bed but wants nothing else by the sounds but to enjoy
been spoilt, so ive sacked her off, now this other girl ( a school teacher age 39 ) as offered to pick me up from udon airport even
though its a 3 hour drive for her to do this, but she is saying she dont mind, she lives out in the sticks in Nakhon Ratchasima
ive seen enough proof to say shes genuine and stuff and shes aware im not staying more than 2 weeks with her, she
did hint that she had no money to go dutch which i never expected anyway, her words were YOU WILL HAVE TO TAKE
OF ME.( sorry i cant find the inverted commas) to which i replied ill take care of you as long as you take care of me, and
she replied I UNDERSTAND now call me thick and i never take anything for granted but what do ya reckon !!! Am i to
assume if there willing to come to your hotel then the odds are they pretty much know what to expect.
Hi Rick,
Yes it sure does, you’ve got the green flag with the girl from Nakhon Ratchasima.
I also want to point out that even if a girl says “we can share bed but nothing else”, sometimes the girl says this so you do not think she is ‘easy’ but will go all the way anyway.
Hi Harvie,
Thanks for your useful advice i will now look for a few more now as back ups, Last time I went to Thailand (2009) i visited Pattaya went to walking street and there was no such thing as signals down there, more like a pick and choose option, but my wallet was suffering in the end and my trip was going off schedule (like it does). So this time I’m going for holiday romance with a couple of ladies and seeing some more of their beautiful country, I have noticed one thing with the girls on TC you can be talking to them one minute just getting to know them and them BOSH they have gone, no warning just drop of a hat and gone, this I assume is because they are very busy and have to go at the snap of someones fingers by the looks of things. I know work and money are their priorities over there and I fully understand, It just goes to show how busy some of these ladies reall are, im wondering if their as busy when I arrive or do they arrange time off ? i don’t want to be stuck in the middle of the sticks if she’s going to be working or even busy for most of the day.
Some leave because they have found a boyfriend on Thai Friendly and then close their account. Others might do it because they have been hurt by someone so leave…and come back once the pain is gone (usually about a week or two).
You should ask her how busy she is going to be. Worst case you can always fly to another part of Bangkok for less than 700b the same day.
I’ve been to Thailand many times, and have had a couple of Thai GF’s but nothing serious and of course roamed about and partied with the ladies at the gogo’s and beer bars and such.
Just a few months ago I opened a profile on Thai Friendly. I have met a lot of Thai ladies on there. Have acquired a lot of contacts on the LINE app and had a lot of chats, on cam and off. I have not been to Thailand since opening my profile on Thai Friendly. The ladies I talk to are interested in meeting me, but of course the interest is lukewarm because I’m not there and I understand why. They are not looking for long distance games.
My question is this, and is for any of the guys out there that have had a similar experience with Thai Friendly. When you arrive in Thailand and let the ladies on there know you are there, do they react differently? Is their interest increased. Lukewarm to hot?
I’m asking that because I should be going there soon. One lady (very hot) wants to pick me up at the airport. Is that advisable? Like I said, I’ve been to the LOS many times and know the score, but still looking for advice/opinions.
thanks guys
The interest will rise when you’re here for sure, . As for picking up at the airport, it’s quite common and many of my friends have been picked up by a girl and dropped off at their hotel room/apartment.
Thanks for the reply.
Yeah, I figured the ladies will be more interested upon arrival. They always ask when am I coming to Thailand and to contact them ASAP upon arrival. It’s actually quite easy to make too many contacts on there, and would have to do some creative moving around to visit more than one of the ladies. I know how Thai chicks can get and they don’t always accept the old butterfly behavior.
I’m concerned about spending too much time with the one that wants to pick me up at the airport. She is quite attractive and like so many of the ladies there in her age group that are interested in farang men, she has an ex-husband that’s a farang, etc. I’m sure at some point I will want to shake her off and chase other honeys I met on Thai Friendly.
Haha, as the say goes “you can’t have your cake and eat it”.
Good luck Mark, I’m sure you’ll have a cracker of a time and save a lot more money on this holiday using Thai Friendly.
Thai Friendly is a winner. Just make sure she’s not a ladyboy!
Set your filters to hide ladyboys and you’re golden.
For meeting Thai girls with a “No Strings Attached” understanding, do you spell it out in your profile so not to lead the girls on to thinking that you might be looking to marry them, as many of them are looking for someone to marry? Or is it enough to just say your intention is dating and you’re open to all possibilities?
Furthermore, if I had to chose one site to go with, should I choose Thai Friendly or Thai Cupid? Without paying for either site, I find I’m getting a lot more interest on Thai cupid. I’ve got 3 emails on Thai Friendly and 98 on Thai Cupid… in just 2 days. So, I guess I better pay for at least one as I’m traveling to Bangkok in 4 weeks. Has anyone else had better luck on Thai Cupid?
You can go with both, I’d go ahead and write something like “I’m just here for a few weeks, looking for cool and fun girls” the message that you’re here for a few weeks should tell them you’re not looking for girls. Writing no strings attached could scare a few of them away thinking you’re a playboy.
Both are fine to use, I always suggest getting a month on both and then canceling the one you don’t like. Thai Friendly only boosts your account when you’re a premium member so your numbers will increase when you upgrade that’s for sure.
Thanks for your response Harvie. That’s great advice. Also, I’m going to be traveling to Phuket and Samui. Is there one that might be better suited for those locations?
I think both will be good in Phuket.
I’ve never been to Samui so I’ve not tried it. Just be sure to change your location on your profile to Phuket or Samui when you get there, this will ensure you get matched to people near you.
Thanks Harvie. Good advice again. Do you know if either site has a good phone app. I see that Thai Friendly has an app but I can’t find the Thaicupid app. I have an Android phone.
I’m not sure if Thai Cupid have an app mate, you should visit their website in your browser and see if it’s mobile friendly or not, I’m guessing it will be as they are pretty huge.
I met a girl at Thaifriendly and she says she lives 6 hrs away from Bangkok. I will be traveling to phuket and I asked he if she can come. She said she can come if you pay for the tickets etc. She wanted me to transfer money to her account. I said no and said I can reimburse if she comes. She said she will but you have to buy me air tickets etc. I agreed.
Now I’m just worried if she is an scam or she has lime who will harras me later with fake pregnancy, medical issues etcetera.
AnY advices?
I never advise sending money to a Thai girl’s account, I would get her to buy the ticket and then you pay her back when she comes, or I would buy the ticket myself from Air Asia and then email it to her. A one-way ticket is going to be around 1,000b.
Less chance of being scammed than sending her money to her account.
Thanks Harvie, are there any other kind of scams that I need to be aware of. Also, she has mailed me her Id. I am just being too much worried because it’s very easy to meet and I feel it’s too good to be true
Nothing too much really, she prob just wants to get out of her town and be able to see/eat things she cannot afford. Do keep in mind that you’re expected to pay for her food/travel too. If she cannot afford a plane ticket (many can’t) then she cannot afford to pay for a hotel or eat out 3-4 times a day.
Thailand has a bad rep for scams with girls, very few (never heard of it in 5 years of living in Thailand) will steal all your possessions from a hotel if you met them from online. Without knowing more to your story my guess is she will be right as rain, she might go past a market and be like “oh that is very nice” and hope you buy it, but can you blame her? It’s 300b and you’ve paid for her to come and visit.
If she starts asking for 5,000b watches or bags, then you just laugh it off and say “I not that rich na”. 😀
It’s not too good to be true, it’s just good! My friend often flys girls from Udon for the weekend, costs him little under 1,500b and he reckons he saves because two nights out in Bangkok can easily set you back 8,000b+ if you’re not careful lol.
Now does she have a game to play? Who knows, maybe she is hoping for a small cash sump (1,000-5,000b) at the end of the trip, maybe she just wants to see the beach and eat seafood with someone she finds attractive. Either way enjoy the ride and don’t think too much about it. The story you will have after meeting her will be awesome :).
I don’t think you’re being scammed, but if she starts telling you stories of how her family or her bluffo are sick, or she owes someone money, just be wary that this is her tactic to get money from you. The best thing to do is ignore it, don’t react or get angry as she will lose face. Just be like “oh that is bad” then change the subject. They are just rolling the dice hoping to hit a 6.
I would say all this fuss about having the white skin only to gain significant advantage on these dating websites is largely misleading. While I agree that being a westerner would work more in favor of you (especially if you are dealing with a hooker kind}, however in the end it comes down to you as a person. How you behave, talk and treat a person defines you more than your skin color?
I am a Indian guy with brown skin and I say as a guarantee that when it comes to dating normal Thai girls who aren’t hookers or have any bar connections, your color of skin does not matters. These girls basically need a caring and understanding man. Most of them even avoid Westerners because of the ill-repute of them just looking for sex and being mongers.
I have spent considerable time in Thailand and have dated and slept with numerous beautiful normal thai girls without any problem and having never to pay for sex. I have found all of them on websites such as ThaiCupid, Thai Friendly, Tagged and from People Nearby function of Wechat and Line. Never encountered any problem, none of the girl ever rejected me because of skin color, nationality or any such issues. And I am just a average looking Indian guy with brown skin, nothing really handsome about me.They were all very nice and loving and even spent their own money at times forcing me to not pay. I have had the same experience in Philippines and Indonesia where I live now.
My advice to everyone out there who has black or brown skin is that just don’t get disheartened by all this talk about skin color. This only works for a tourist centric (location specific ) dating game where the thai girl is looking for some form of monetary gain or better life prospects. Just go out there and meet people and approach the girls in a nice and decent manner. Yes you wont be successful with every girl you try with but then so is the case with Westerners. Don’t worry if you face initial rejection, there are too many fish out there and soon you will catch one and with time you will become a pro that can get most of the girls you wish.
Thailand is much more than the hooker friendly destination it has been portrayed as and most thai girls are not like what they get labelled as. No matter, if you are Indian, South Asian, Arabic, African, Chinese or any other race including Westerners, just go out and treat people with respect and courtesy and you will receive the same in reciprocity including a huge number of lovely thai girls to spend time with.
Great to see some positive experiences from non-white males, always a refreshing change.
Thanks Rai.. I am Indian and a brown guy.. That is very helpful.
Ragu
This comment encourage me to sign up and upgrade to premium right away. Thanks dude!
Thai Friendly sounds good but I was wondering if there are bad experiences with girls met online. Like, is it safe to bring her to your apartment or I should book a hotel?should I send her away after we’re done or I can let her sleep to my place?I don’t like the idea of falling asleep and getting robbed. Is it bad to invite directly a girl over without asking her to meet us somewhere else or without asking her out for dinner?
Chances of getting robbed are very low, never heard it happen to anyone on dating sites, unless you’re bringing back ladyboys. To be safe just hide your stuff in the safe or somewhere. In all honestly, you get robbed by go-go girls not normal Thai girls.
Harvie.. thanks so much your wealth of info.. has helped me so much. Enjoyed reading all the questions and answers.
Ragu
You know what made my profile a ”holy grail” of sorts?
Platinum Membership and a note on my profile ”Don’t contact me for sex chat or playboy guy”’
It stopped all the whores and desperates and endeared me to the real cute non-english speaking chicks, most of which had never been corrupted by a farang BF or any farang for that matter.
TF is amazing. Literally a thousand pleasant, extremely attractive, interested women… Many of which reach out to you! This is going to sound like a paid advert for TF…
When I first saw a review of TF, it said something along the lines of “you can get a good looking young girl to sleep with you for nothing more than dinner” Yeah, right I thought. In what world does that happen? Thailand, that’s where. I am older and no social butterfly, but I do have social skills sufficient enough to behave. But how, or why, would a cute young girl want me? It happened.
Rules: Be polite, don’t be a douchbag, dress well, and be respectful. You can and will discuss sex, but for chrissakes, don’t use blunt force trauma. Work into it.
If you have a genuine sense of interest, see beauty in everyone, are patient and empathetic you can begin to engage these women and get to know each other. Yes, this is work and time. Very much time. But the reward is astounding and the anticipation made it all the better. I could “hire” a 10 from a bar or… I could spend an incredibly rewarding and passionate weekend with a 10 that wants to be with me because we like each other.
I came to know the most beautiful and young woman less than half my age, a kindergarten teacher from the countryside. Anywhere else in the world, this young creature would be a model or draped on some rich dudes arm. But my months-long courtship (Line ID) has resulted in a great friend, enduring memories and positively the best sex I have ever had with this petite little powerhouse. The. Best. Sex. I paid for her flights and transfers. Far cheaper than these bar-finds incidentally. I am astounded by the genuine and sweet nature of the Thai women. I suspected this from my lifelong attraction to them, but it is confirmed. I will return to see this gorgeous girl.
Patience rewards!
Lots of idiot douchebags out there, who should stick to the shitholes of Pattaya or Bangkok
I go to Pattaya. Getting laid is no prob. Don’t seem to be able to find a girl friend for the two weeks that I am there. I end up with bar girls. Which I don’t want. My age is in the sixtys. Have been told i look a lot younger Looks are ok . Do you think I should try Thiafriendly? Any words that could help me find the nice girl. How many photos do you think I should putt up. Dressed any special way. I mean cloths. Jeans ,suite. Beach ware. Etc!!
Give it a go and see what happens, just upload 3-4 nice pictures and ask girl on dates, don’t be too forward and dress well on dates. You should be golden.
Read my post above. I am in my 50’s and it has happened. Try somewhere else other than Pattaya as well.
@mobetta
It’s about patience, isn’t it? Many don’t have that, probably due to their total ignorance/stupidity or the fact they are on a their two week annual vacation from their jobs at Jaymart or the meat factory. Or all of the above..
Call me naiive but it still astounds me that so many assume all these TF girls are all the same as those skanks that line Walking street or Cowboy, or all Thai girls for that matter.
Can’t tell the difference due to their brains being in their pants.
@Pat
True indeed. I understand the benefit of a quick shag as much as the next guy, but for me the ‘courtship’ elevates the entire experience to one of ethereal nirvana with a young, beautiful and sensitive woman who wants to be with me. Not everyone will want that or understand it, which is fine. It is what I want. So I view it not so much patience as an investment.
I went for 8 days and was floored by the astounding time. Oh, by the way… pony up for the premium websites guys. Its a measly 30 bucks, as much as a bar fine for crying out loud. Or run the risk of looking like the cheap-ass that you guys are if you don’t…
Hey Harvie, I’m a 19 y/o attending college right now, and I’m interested in a long term relationship, rather than just a one night stand. I live in America, and since I’m looking for a long term relationship (hopefully marriage), and because I’m very limited with money, what’s the best option for my situation? Like how long should I stay in Thailand and date them, and what would my chances be of them coming back to the US with me after only spending 1 or 2 weeks over there?
A buddy of mine told me a trip to Thailand plus the various bars and clubs only cost him around 3k USD out of a 5k budget, and that was him TRYING to spend money. So how many trips would I have to make, and how long would the trips be? Assuming I only pay for the flight, hotels, dinner, gifts, and other necessities, while avoiding the partying and wasting money that way.
Thanks!
Hi Nathan,
Okay let’s hold up here, I’m sure not sure why you want a long-term relationship at 19, sounds like a bad idea, would re-think that.
You can bring a girl back with you after just a few weeks, but the girl who does that is not a girl you want a long-term relationship with. Like anything it takes time, and it seems you don’t have enough of it, or given your budget you can’t buy more of it. So my advice would be this, for you, don’t get a long-term girlfriend and bring her back to the US, you’re only 19 and don’t have enough money.
Agree, 19 a little young to settle down with as Asian from overseas. Also, immigration is involved, and I know from experience that can be a long and expensive process, either as a fiancé visa or tourist visa.
I’ve been for over two weeks on TC and a couple of days on TF and I have a couple things to share but also a few things to ask.
Firstly. Thai girls are extremly busy! They work from dawn till dusk 6 days a week which leaves very little space to meet them. Guys how you do it? Supposing I want to meet two or three girls in a week. I can’t do all it over the weekend, can I?
Judging by the large number of “bikini” profiles I have a feeling that TF has more bar girls. I also noticed that large number of girls lives in Sukhumvit area (BKK) Does it mean that they are all bar girls?
There’s also one more thing which bothers me. Supposing you met a several girls to determine which one is for you. How do you tell others that despite a couple of weeks long conversation and the meeting (and possibly sex) that actually you don’t want to see her again?
Hey Odyss,
Most work 6 days per week and have 1 day off. You’re best to meet them after work somewhere close to their work or apartment, or on their day off.
Just because a girl lives near Sukhumvit does not mean she is a bargirl, there are very cheap condos in Soi 22 that many stay in. Others will look deep in the sois and share a room between 3-4 of them. Don’t get me wrong there will be working girls on there for sure, but it’s usually less than 5%.
If you don’t want to see a girl again just stop repsonding to them, block them or tell them you have a girlfriend now.
Thanks Harvie for this great post.
I am not a paid member on Thai friendly only because I am worried about potential misuse of credit card.
From your experience, is this site trustworthy?
If I join, say for a month, and don’t like it, can I quit and they want keeo charging my credit card?
Thanks mate
Hey Danny, yes you can quit with no issues. I’ve used the sites and thousands of others with no issues. The website is actually owned by a westerner so you should have no problems talking to support.Thai Friendly is one of the most trusted (if not the most) dating sites in Thailand.
Thanks Harvie 🙂
Guys, how many times did you manage to sleep with a girl on the first date? I don’t talk about girls you developed strong connection ( via sextexting, photos exchange) but rather those who were chatting with you on and off for a couple of weeeks?
I’m going to BKK today and manage to set up a couple of dates but it wasn’t easy as I’m not going to stay there for long and most of them work day and night.
I think the rate is like 60-70% but it really depends on the girl and how smooth you are. I know some people who have a 90% rate while others much lower. Even a few days is enough if you plan correctly.
Hi, I have a 97% rate. Only one didn’t want the first night and she took her time to explain. Whether it was a religious thing or something else I didn’t understand but she didn’t find it good to shag the first night. We did kiss a while and eventually it was a really pleasant time we had wining and dining and talking a lot. The second night was the best night I ever had, it really was worth waiting 24 hours., She was 51 at the time with the stamina of a 20 yr old. The others weren’t bothered about going straight to it, they were more shy or bothered what I thought of them. Mind you, I always make them feel comfortable and relax. No demands or bad comments, just simply getting to know each other over dinner. Nights are hot and long in bkk and with jetlag it’s hard to fall asleep before 4am anyways. Take your time, you will be rewarded. I hope this helps.
New to TF. Not much luck I feel. Maybe I’m too impatient. I’m always respectful. Not an Olgre. Is it the age thing? I’m 59. Recently retired. Still physically able to do everything, just a little slower. I’m really surprised at how many college educated and Ph.D are online. Seriously? Maybe I’m too jaded for Thai world. But their so damn cute. Thanks for your website
Are you a premium member? You will get soo many less messages if you’re not. How do your pictures look? Also if you’re 59, some of the younger girls may not want an older guy (18-29).
Hi David, I know what you mean my friend, it takes me all night to do what I used to do all night haha.
Seriously, I am recently retired too and am 57, I’m going to Bangkok in three weeks time and have just joined TF. I’m not sex mad and don’t expect too much but to meet a few younger Thai chicks would be great and if I get laid a couple of times then that’s a bonus. I’m a bit old-fashioned but I think the ladies appreciate a bit of old school courtesy and respect in any country, not just Thailand. I always like to be well turned out but am realistic enough to know that what I will probably be doing with my time is appreciating the local food and culture so I guess it’s an age thing but there’s life in the old dog yet and I am looking forward to fixing up a few dates before I go so thank you everyone for your advice and tips on this site.
Just FYI, you don’t have to be WHITE to get laid like crazy in SE Asia. As an average ASIAN male, it’s literally a never ending amount of girls who want to date you and almost a part time job if you want to connect with hundreds of chicks on Thai Friendly
Most people in SE Asia only make a few hundred bucks a month so when they meet anyone who makes 10x-100x how much they do it would be the same thing in Any other country. It’s not so much about race, but more about money. Ie – if you are making millions in America vs 50k / year you will easily be able to line up tons of dates, develop a rotation, get laid etc really easily.
Also, as a general rule of thumb, as an Asian, you grow up with your parents telling you to marry within your own nationality / race first and then if you can’t find someone suitable within your own race or if you become a leftover 30+ woman, then go for white or whatever next as long as they have money. If you’re a 40+ woman and still single in Asia, then you should pretty much go for anything that asks you out cause most local Asian guys aren’t going to even consider anything serious with girls who are older than 30+.
For ASIAN Guys, it’s easiest to pickup tons of women wherever there’s less Hollywood influence. Latin countries and Asian countries are the easiest.
I am new to all this just getting as much knowledge as possible ,so any help will be good going to join tf soon also going to Thailand but not shore we to go and where to stay I am 55 so any help like I say would be great thanks guys.
Just be friendly, upload your best pictures and read everything listed on this page and you will be golden.
Thanks for the great post.
A question on the girls to approach. I’ve noticed many girls stating that they are looking for long-term relationship, serious man, not interesting in flirts/sex etc. From your experience, do you approach them also for sex , or just those who don’t say these? And if you did approach them, did you get to score, or have to approach them differently?
Most girls say this or use the ‘no hook ups’ tag, but still meet men who are here for a short amount of time. I would not look into what they say too much. They say this so you think they are good girl, some mean it but for the most part they are hollow statements.
My Thai girl friend wrote on her profile looking for long term relationship/marriage. After we had chatted together for some weeks and I jokingly said if we get married where would she want to live Thailand or Spain, where I live, she said oh no not want to get married just want to be together. Which suites me by the way.
Thanks for the tips!
Maybe a stupid question but what is good to wear in Bangkok for a date?
T-shirt and chinos. Just avoid vests, shorts, and sandals. If it’s in the day and it’s very hot then you could wear some smart chino shorts. No need for a blazer, shirts are fine at night if you’re going to a bar or club.
If she is not a hooket, then the best cloths you own. Anything less, and you disrespect her. She wants to look good in public.
Hey Harvey
Been reading your page and love it.
I have a question. I am going on holiday with the family to Vietnam in April 2018. The wife suggested I go a week early and have some time to myself (she ok with hookers).
Question is… Should I fly into BKK or HCMC if my primary aim is to fuck fuck fuck?
I am on Vietnam Cupid and it’s crazy the interest and the girls are hot… but no guarantee of pussy. Or am I better off just going to BKK and stacking up the girls?
Cheers Mike
Bangkok if you just want to have sex. Girls off Thai Friendly are super easy to meet and they speak better English. If you want to do hookers, then massages are 10x easier to find in Bangkok than HCM.
I am ok with working a dating site but want to mix in some paid girls as well. How much is reasonable per hour for top shelf?
For the best looking girls it’s around 5000-7000b in the soapy area. In Sukhumvit prices start from 1800-2500, girls are not as hot (in my view) but beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Much easier to find messages in Bangkok than HCM because they are much more open and in easy to get to locations. Read my Soapy or Happy ending articles to learn more:
https://afarangabroad.com/soapy-massage-bangkok/
https://afarangabroad.com/happy-massages-bangkok/
I hate to disagree. I have never paid more than 1500 baht, ever. Not in bkk, Pattaya or Huahin. It’s the rip off joint encouraging paying loads. There are always less famous high Street bars and massage parlours offering good prices with lower bar fines or non if you just meet up before or after work. The exclusive ones will be worn out starfishes with clown pockets.
You’re getting much quality in terms of looks for 1,500b or less though. So it depends on what the person is after or how much they are willing to negotiate.
Hey Harvey
Thanks for the tips.
Got to say the girls on TF are hot as hell!
Just wondering if I should ignore their age range as a normal approach? (Aka are they all up to fuck a 44yr old lol)
And as long as I keep it chill and respectful should I ignore their comments about not wanting sex and expect a goo chance they will put out?
Do you look 44? I know many 40 year olds who look much longer.
Yes, most will even have ‘no hookups’ in their profile but any guy who has used a dating site will tell you that doesn’t mean anything. Just be yourself on the date and I’m sure everything will go just fine.
Supposedly a handsome 44 … but makes me wonder….. facial hair? Ok or not?
I would go clean shaven, Asia has a big thing about minimal facial hair. I always do better clean shaven than having a beard or stubble.
thanks for site here harvey, im Tim ,USA, i wont to visit there but i dont know how to start to do that, ive been alone many years now, getting older, i wish they had a site to hookup with men thats going there and have support to get there before and after? im not rich, just wont to live a little before my lifes over, thanks for any imfo you can share or give me? Tim….im so lonely, need a good woman to come an be with me forever!! they say im handsome,ha!ha! its no good if your poor and noway an no help, HELP PLEASE!
Just read all the blog posts on my site to ensure you don’t make any mistakes and don’t go rushing in whatever you do.
Hi Harvie. Great tips. If a girl on ThaiFriendly has nothing on her profile and doesn’t have any min/max age range do you think there’s more likelihood that she’s a bar girl ?
It’s more likely that she is not confident in her English to write a profile and has left it empty. Most bar girls can write in English as they text guys a lot.
Harvey,
Great site, excellent questions and answers,(very matter of fact, and to the point).
Not a member, but certainly will give it a shot after reading all these posts.
Had significant investments in Bangkok in the past, and tried to interact with the Thai female community, but found the likely hood of getting something going with someone that could be a return on your investment, was very limited, owing largely to the perception of Westerners,( as some of your contributors pointed out), which seems to be disadvantageous when looking for a relationship that could be mutually rewarding.
Thanks,
Dick.
how do asian westeners fair? im filipino and i just got TF and a few talk and a few look. any advise for asian guys? to me i think i wont luck out cause i am asian and majority of asian girls arent looking for that. my luck looks like go go bars and whatever. lmk…
You can do well, just state that you’re a Western Asain. If they see you’re a nice guy they really don’t care too much about your background, they do care a lot on first impressions, but once they know you’re a nice guy most of that goes out the window.
Is going for a kiss on the cheek when first meeting a girl on a date acceptable in thailand?
I would not do it in public, just a hand wave is okay, even hugging them on the first date could be too much. Keep in mind that any public displays of affection could scare her on the first or second date. I would avoid.
I got a girl coming straight at me on TF and shortly asking to meet at my hotel, she told me that she isn’t an hooker, work at the airport. I got a video call where things got intimate. I repeatedly told that I don’t pay for sex. Do I take a big risk being scammed? She looks quite average for a thai girl so I figured she struggles with the competition and have no time for it anyway…
Am I paranoid wanting to do a foot massage with her at a public place so I would have witnesses that she knows me in case she tried to blackmail pretending she’s being raped or something?
That’s normal, if you want to feel safe then just take her out to a lunch or something. You won’t be scammed.
Thank you, it looks too good to be true that’s why I was suspicious. Must be desesperate for a BF, I’m 25 (funny how in Thailand the roles are reversed).
Hows the result? Did you meet her? Did you get laid ?
When is the best time to go on dating site I’M gotng to Pattaya in October 14th 2018 for 14 nights then to bangcock for 3 nights before heading back to the UK i’m 58 years old + will be spending my birthday there as well
LOVE THE WEBSITE
1-2 weeks before mate.
Hi, your responses are really great and helpful, – you should summarise them in a small guide book 🙂
I struggle a little too in regards to ‘how’ to communicate on Thai Friendly. I am a couple of weeks away from traveling over, – and my idea of a dating site is not just to look at the pics, but also to write a few messages back and forth and see who’s maybe on my wavelength and nice to meet with and without sex. But I fail! There is almost never any information about themselves on their profiles, and if I ask hobbies or jobs or interests I almost never get a straight answer. They also never ask anything much back. What do you make of that?
Also: if the girl gives a “looking for age range” of ‘any to any”, shall I assume they are most certainly there for sex for money only? And if so, – do you negotiate that online or only after meeting? Thanks again! 🙂
You’re overthinking the age and any to any, they are most likely not bothering to fill in the profile. If there’s no info just message them, and the ones with weak replies don’t message and reply to girls with the stronger replies. Some girls have limited English speaking, and are better at talking than writing so keep that in mind.
Cool. So do you think on Thai Friendly most girls are on there for sexual relationships, or longer term? Really hard to tell from their profiles.
Ask them, every girl is different.
Met a girl on TF who was very forthright. Claimed she just broke up and wanted some distraction. Would come over from a nearby town to spend a few days with me if I “sport her”. I.e. pay expenses. Well that would not worry me at all, as long as it is just expenses while here, or does it all look too good to be true and like the beginning of a scam to you?
You wrote a few times that you know of people who fly there girl friends in from somewhere, – so I guess this would be the same if I bought the tickets. Is the trick to buy the ticket yourself and not to transfer money (read that this is a common scam)? Thanks for advise!
Hey Bron, yes that is normal. Keep in mind that these girls save about 200b ($6) per day and sometimes they save nothing as they need to send money to their family. So coming to Bangkok for 4-5 days is nothing something they can do because they have no money to do so. She just wants to make it clear to you that she has no money and if she comes to see you, you need to take care of her.
Actually, this one does actually seem to turn out a scam, sigh….:/ She started up on ‘expenses for closing her shop” and when i asked her to be specific she asked B 40.000 for the week she wanted to come (expenses for shop closure)…. well, I don’t need to ask you any further 🙂
But that aside, I wonder if it’s wise to fly a girl over, unless you know her already and made a connection. Maybe for a weekend, but who wants a full time person you don’t know for a week or more!?
Personally, I’d only fly a girl over once I’ve meet her in real life, otherwise who knows what she will be like, and you’ll have to spend all your time with her. Speak to them on Skype a few times to get an idea of how they are, if you click, then do it, but don’t do it without at least spending 5 hours or more actually talking to her.
Thai Friendly is fantastic. Chatted with many girls before meeting three in person. Corresponded via Line for a few months first. The company and sex was great. Still in contact with one of them. Bes thing was I got a “free-range” one whilst there. She owns a bar in Phuket and spent 10 days with her. It is all that it is cracked up to be. Have a good one, AussieLee.
Do you guys (who don’t live in Thailand) set your location as Thailand before you start messaging or just leave it set at your home location and change when you arrive.
I’m just curious as to response rate if you’re not actually there.
Thanks
You should set it as the city you’ll be staying in Thailand.
I have very good experience with TF. Apart from the freelancers who are a pain the average Thai girl is very polite warm and friendly. They have a lot less taboos than Western women and are extremely hygienic. They proper look after themselves and their guy. The two things that bother me a little .
1. They are very suspicious and constantly call, check and question all actions.
2. We think we are smart but they master the game. They have 10 times more men lined up than we have Thai women lined up.
Luckily I have never felt I need to marry a certain girl. When shit hits the fan it’s back to the drawing board.
Kudos to TF
Harvey, best blog I have seen in a long time. You are in Stickman’s League – diplomatic, concise, and knowledgeable.
Hi Harvie, thanks for your very helpful informations on this site. The user comments are also very helpful. Keep on going.
Hey Harvey, first very good blog and facts. But I am in trouble with Thaifriendly… I open an account load a nice foto up (smiling face, shaved… the best I can do, a good white shirt etc.)… I am 38 no beachboy but not that ugly!
I send interest to girls I like… some of them look at my profile.. an that s it.
In one week I get 3 girls who are mark me for interest… but if I wrote to them I got no answer.
Two girls wrote to me… as I ask them if they work in the “Business ‘… they told me No… but they work as freelancer but only sometimes.. LOL.
I am not sure…I think I doing something wrong or I am really ugly in Thai girls view. Can you or someone give me some advice…
Thanks Denny
Don’t show interest, actually write them something and see where that gets you.
Wow that’s a fast reply. Thanks. And thanks for the tip.
I have one last question… I have very thin head hair, so I always shave them to 2mm all over. Does Thai Girls like such short hair respectively bald heads? What is your experience or experience of your friends?
Thanks in advance
Denny
Girls in general do not like bald guys, so that’s something you need to accept and there’s not much you can do there.
I am very surprised by your comment about bald guys. I have read all the comments on this article and you have been really helpful up to this comment.
You say to a guy that appears to have worries about his thin hair that “Girls in general do not like bald guys, so that’s something you need to accept and there’s not much you can do there.”, now thats helpful.
I’m wondering, you know this how? I’m guessing you have a full head of hair, so, how do you know? It’s not like you have a lot of experience with this.
I shave my head and I have no trouble getting women in the USA and definitely no trouble getting women in Thailand. I have had several Thai women say they love “skinhead” men and they weren’t bar girls.
So, my advice to Denny is that he should shave his head slick and there will be more beautiful Thai women than he can handle that are interested in him.
As for the girls that don’t like bald guys, I say fuck’em. Harvie, I’m sure you feel the same way about the girls that don’t like black guys.
Hey Scott,
Some girls don’t like guys with no hair, and if you’re bald that means you cannot grow hair, and also implies you’re older. So naturally less girls are going to be interested. If you’re clean shaven by choice that’s another story.
Oh! It was going so well until the bold guy comment! Bruce Willis, Dwayne “the Rock” Johnson, Michael Jordan, and obviously I would disagree! But i know what you mean! Great blog, keep up the good work Harvie.
Met a great woman on TF. Been on many other sites and this one has never asked me for anything like money, gifts etc…
We met when I was on holidays last October and things could not have gone better. Only thing she asked was if I could come back again soon.
Really happy with TF over all of the other sites who are mainly after your cash.
Good to hear Warrick.
i joined TF today and had lots of responce and interest, lots very promising, but it all turned cold when i said im still in uk and not going to payyaya till april. some told me to get in contact when i get there others just didnt reply, guess they dont want a pen friend till then.
April is way to far out since right now it’s January. Best to join 2-4 weeks before hand. Some girls will happily talk to you till April but if they find a guy during that time they will stop talking. If you just want to make friends and they want to work on their English then they will keep talking to you.
I have seen a lot of failed relationship with Thai girls, that’s why I’d rather get a hooker for a night when I visit in Thailand than investing emotions, time effort and end up like my friends.
thai friendly vs thai cupid?
Both are good for different reasons, try both and see which one you prefer.
can you explain the differences between TF and TC?
They are owned by different companies and have different user bases, but the features and process is pretty much the same.
Holy shit, I couldn’t thank you enough for this recommendation on ThaiFriendly. I’ve joined it and ThaiCupid, but have found MUCH better luck with the former. Which isn’t to say that TC has been a letdown in any way. But TF has been massively successful for setting up dates, and I don’t even head over for two weeks.
I’ll add that I am also game for ladyboys, and it’s absolutely true that the ladyboys in Thailand are beyond stunning. If you’re at all curious, just open up your filters and take a look and see if you aren’t convinced. If that’s not you’re thing, totally fair, don’t bother — there’s no right or wrong in Thailand.
But regardless of that, I also love women. And when talking to either gender, they’ve been super responsive and open to meeting when I’m there. I’m 39, heading over for my 40th birthday in fact, and have been successful talking to women from 19-35 years old.
If you don’t have them already, I definitely recommend getting both Line and WhatsApp. Most Thai women seem to prefer the former over the latter, but it also has advantages of allowing you to view their timeline and photos that they’ve posted in the past (it’s like a Facebook-lite), so you can get a better idea of how the ladies look. I’ve also noticed that Thai women prefer doing video calls over texting/messaging. This isn’t bad, as you can get a feel for their personality through facial expressions that you might miss through non-fluency in English over text. But it can also provide some difficulty in understanding through any video interference, accent, and language barrier. I’m not exaggerating when I say that I’ve been chatting with multiple women day and even received a Line message while writing this paragraph!
I’m not adding much more, if anything, that others and the author haven’t already. But I find that recent comments/reviews can be helpful, and because my own experience so far has been so positive, I figured I’d add in a little. I’ll return after my trip to provide an update on how things went there. I’m sure it’s clear that I’m excited for my birthday excursion.
So far so good but time will tell.
I used TF for about 2 weeks free just to judge the experience and women. I’m mid 50s, decent, not too fat but hair is moving south. I filtered for good English, college ed, and 35-45 age because honestly, I just think that, like you said, Harvie, the older women will be far more interesting AND interested. These parameters did cut the choices down but worth it. My plan is to vaca for 2 weeks and I stated on my profile that I was looking for someone to travel with me and be my guide, which is absolutely true. I had at least 3 gals contact me and who moved almost immediately to Line app. Man…they are so dang friendly! I have chosen one gal and admittedly I was suspicious of her at first. Just an American’s first reaction to fearless approaches by women, I suppose. Anyhow, we are planning where to travel, now. Her interests, also clearly stated in her profile, are similar to mine and she has been all over Thailand. The cost of adding her to my plans, even considering in-country flights, and food are totally worth it. My only concern is that she asked that she be reimbursed for her time away from work (I know she is legit–looked into it). After consideration, I think this is only fair. I really hope I’m not being foolish, and that she is not a scammer or an opportunist ready to walk with my money at the first chance! Any thoughts on this, Harvie?
Oh, and one of my pics was full beard. One respondent said it was sexy! So you may not have to go ‘James Bond’ on the site.
My thoughts are go with the flow and accept whatever comes next :).
it works, I tried out this site and before I even arrived in BKK I managed to have a girl 4 first night.
A little chitchat and she told me she would search a boyfriend and work as a freelance as well.
Meet at the hotel lobby and had wine at the bar, I knew she likes wine because I read her description well. Had a bite near the hotel and then back to room More wine and a little talk ….finally we end in bed for the almost whole night. What to say, she made an old man happy… We did it 4 times this night, in all her holes. In the morning we had breakfast 2gether and she went off with 2500thb. I think I will never forget that night. Already check this site for the next trip in April, may contact her again.