Thai Ladies – Is Your GF Cheating On You?
So after shifting though a number of ‘amazing Thai ladies’ you have finally found the girl of your dreams. A beautiful Thai girl who has it all and you’re ready to take things to the next step.
But wait!
According to Durex, Thai ladies are the second most unfaithful women in the world, with 59% of Thai ladies stating they have cheated on their other half before. So how do you know if your beautiful Thai girl is part of the minority or majority?
To find your own girlfriend in Thailand check out this article on how you can do exactly that.
In this article I will list a number of traits common in Thai ladies who cheat on their farang boyfriends. If I have missed any out, please leave a comment below and I will add it to this article.
update: A lot of white knights got mad on social media (as usual), so I do want to point that most of your girlfriends are wonderful gals and it’s only a small percentage who may be cheating on you. Cheating is common all over the world and not just an isolated incident in Thailand, and is done by both men and women.
Is everyone happy now? Why does everyone take what I write so seriously?
1. Does she party a lot?
If your amazing Thai lady loves to go out to places like RCA every week, that’s usually a red flag. Thai ladies are not like girls back home who love to get drunk and dance, the culture is different and many of them dont have the salary to live that kind of lifestyle.
If she’s going out on a regular basis there’s a good chance she is looking for the D from someone else. Be super scared if she loves going to Bangkok after hours clubs.
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Thai females are pretty poor at lying, let’s be honest.
Any farang male friends they have will always be ”jus friend” and on many occasions she won’t answer the phone because she will be ”look movie”
If these aren’t red flags in those two (of many) examples then I’ll stick a washing machine up my arse.
One time a Thai GF admitted after much interrogating that she’d spent the night with her ”farang friend” but was adamant that they didn’t have sex but ”we jus kiss and touch”
I must have had ‘stupid idiotic prick’ written all over my face but after that…..
… dare I say this……
I treated her quite badly, well, like a cheap hoe to be honest, and she still couldn’t fathom out why I had switched from being a wining & dining gentleman to a badass nigga who treats his bitch accordingly.
I don’t mind if they tell me from the beginning about their status, as nine times out of ten they’ll usually have a Thai BF anyway. It’s quite hard to take most Thai ladies seriously after a while, as many of you new to Thailand will find out, but if you fancy a quick break get yourself to Khao san Rd and bag a German/Swedish/French/Spanish for a few weeks of fun.
There’s a world of difference.
And don’t become somebody who says they will ”never touch a white girl” just because you’ve discovered Thai girls, those pricks just get tiresome
I still carry a black marker pen with me just in case I will need to write those words all over my face again, I’m a sucker at times.
Quality as always Pat, made me laugh. Quality post, just as good as the article.
It is odd that they get weird if you treat them different after they say things like what you wrote, what did they think was going to happen? lol
hi, I comment on this with interest over the comments mentioned, I have read quite a few but not all, I will continue reading.
Although the points you mentioned rings many bells with my own continued experience, I feel I want to just mention one point in perticular as I am getting frustrated with so far nothing mentioned in age difference, I visit Thailand ( Pattaya ) on a regular basis and I have a girlfriend there who lives with her mum, son, daughter and grandson, there are just 15 years difference in our ages and to be perfectly honest hand on heart, the trust is an issue with me living in the UK while she stays over there, she was/has been a bar girl then cashier, she is now out of that and has a proper 9-5 working week for a proper English owned advertising company, every time I show signs of miss trust or accuse her of doing anything behind my back she proves me wrong, then I feel bad, yes I belive she is different and yes I send her money and yes she goes to the bars still to meet her Thai female friends and yes she has so called male ferang friends in her mobile phone book, (phone cost me 30,000 thb) you all may read this and say WHAT IS HE DOING? I cant help my feelings and I will keep going back, its costing me a fortune and one day it prob will stop ( I hear you say “when I run out of money” ). also I have to say I talk to her 4 or 5 times a day via video phone link, I have my insecurity issues when I can’t get hold of her, then she justify’s herself of course!!. There is a lot more to this but trying to keep it to a minimum without waffling, also I have to mention I don’t tar all Thai women with the same brush!!
Have you been cheated on in the past, you have issues for sure and it also seems you cannot be alone either. This is going to end really bad for you. I would stop giving her money and reinvest it on therapy.
Hi Harvie, Thanks for the prompt reply. Yes I have been cheated on before years ago in the UK, I had therapy for that but to no avail, It’s easy to say stop sending money but I do monitor the cash I send over, she has a job as I said but the salary is of course not enough, I appreciate you saying it will all end bad for me and it most likely will, when she tells me she has no money she can’t go out, I ignore it then she goes out, I say you have no money but she tells me her friend buy for her! its proberbly just me and my gut feelings I have and as I say every time I feel I’m being lied to or my Instinct tells me she’s not were or what she say’s she is doing she proves me wrong which now I just can’t accuse her of anything, A good friend of mine who lives in Pattaya and knows my girlfiend who is her ex boss said, just trust her and let her know you trust her or it will will be more difficult to find out if she is unfaithfull to you. I will be over there next month and we will live together and have a great time, we have tried for a UK visa so she can visit the UK but that failed on a minor technicality and the translation got a bit jumbled up on the phone call but perhaps will try again, it seems the only way to put this right is to move over there and live together, I am 59 years old and not near retirement yet but I could proberbly just about afford it…only just depending on how much she will cost, trouble is she has a dept hanging over her head, and I don’t want to pay it, we can get help for that if she would let me, another massive discussion we will have if I bight the bullet, then we will proberbly fall out over it, the main problem I have is that she only tels me or lets me in on very little, I think sh’e only used to zipped mouth’s, which is plentyfull with the ladies in Pattaya….as you know, thanks again for your comment and hope to see your reply to this..tfn
Her friend buys for her means someone is giving her money and it’s most like another guy. I just wrote a new blog post you should read that. As for this girl it seems you love emotional torture and pain. The fact she is an ex-bar girl is enough to know that other guys are funding her lifestyle. Honestly drop her totally, give up contact, I know it’s tough because you’re old and don’t want to be alone but that’s the only way you’re going to get peace. You’ll never find love with her, she only loves your money not you.
You might not even want to accept what I’m saying and your brain will make up many reasons to stay with her, so I advise you tell this story to 10 people and I bet they all tell you the same – GET OUT.
You seem like you have no common sense in which case it will be very easy for her to convince you she is not cheating on you, and deep down you just believe it because knowing she is cheating on you will hurt more.
The good news is you can find someone better but you must accept for it to get worse before it gets better. Come to Thailand on your next trip and find a girl who is not a bargirl and has a job. No girl is going to wait for a 59-year-old, the fact you cannot retire yet means you’re not her plan A.
Or you can keep doing what you’re doing and be miserable for the last 10-15 years of your life, always live in fear that she is cheating on you (hint she is cheating on you).
Just grow up and enjoy the last few years man, stop doing this to yourself, it’s pathetic (sorry don’t want to sound rude).
Again read the latest blog post on my website, that should give you some info.
Best of luck Roger!
There is a word for you. Sap
Notice that when I mentioned going to Khao san Road to bag some Euro chicks for a change, notice that I didn’t include any English/American/Aussie chicks in that selection of nations.
That was definitely intentional.
You got that right!
No love for Mucian, bogans or English girls lad?
^No class or morals compared to their European cousins, too much of a superiority complex in my experience anyway
Oh, and your article will raise countless red flags in many clueless lovestruck farang readers brains here, and they know it but they are so blinded by the pu*sy that they are taken in by anything their Thai GFs tell them, as their girl is ”different”
If she ever changes her story AT ALL, it means she was lying about some guy. In my experience.
Majority of Thai females will always tell you that ”Thai man no good” this is usually because Thai guys know Thai women inside out, and know exactly their habits and know full well their lying habits and how unconvincing they are.
And it often means they do have a Thai BF but their insistence that Thai men are so bad is a ploy to throw the farang off the scent, ‘she must really love me’ lovestruck dumb pussy-whipped farang will always think, ‘she’s all mine – my faithful lovely, innocent Thai girl’
Obviously not every Thai girl is like this, but in keeping with the topic, we may as well share our stories/opinions/experiences
I recall one Uni chick who went all out to convince me that she was single, even getting her boss at her work to call and assure me, little did she know, but I didn’t give a shit anyway, as my plan was to just rinse out the pu*sy and move onto the next one.
I’m surprised that no trolling net warriors have come on here and hilariously asked me ”So you’ve been fooled by Thai chicks have you? That’s why you’re so bitter hahaha”
Yes, I have, and I am a bitter, miserable fool. Well, during my 7 years in Thailand I was occasionally.
Now I can read several forums and smugly think ‘told you so hahaha’
Sad news story about the Brit who apparently kicked a mirror and severed his femoral artery, bleeding to death, because his ‘teerak’ bargirl was chatting to another man and he thought she was all his.
Don’t get attached to the first one you meet, like so many fools, play the field man, it’s much more exciting because after all most Thai men do that despite being married, hence the term ‘mia noi’
Good points, I have gotten a lot of stick on social media for this post. I think a problem is a lot of newbies fall for the same old tricks, sure there are lots of normal Thai girls about but most don’t know better and go through this process.
Not sure why they go to these lengths, I guess I just don’t understand the culture too well yet.
Why would any of you think that a bar girl is going to be loyal? Is this game honest? Honest as the day is long. Don’t expect to go out on the street where hamburger is being sold and find sirloin steak. You must go where decent girls would go. Good restaurants, temples, parks. Upscale and expensive clubs. The problem I see is that most of you are simply looking for some young cheap pussy. You get what you deserve and deserve what you get
Strange that, but you usually find that if you write things that are close to the truth or have happened to them, the more stick you’ll get
HAHA Great comments guys! Attention to those reading this that have been living here in Thailand for less than one year or even worse those living back in their home country relentlessly trolling Thai dating sites. Now a lot of you won’t enjoy what I’m about to say but after all usually it’s the truth that hurts.
I will start by saying that this is an amazing country full of beautiful, faithful and loving women and I have certainly met a lot of them and I enjoy the company of many well educated female Thai friends. However there are lots of Thai women that are shit at lying and there are those that make a damn good living or at least a ‘supplementary income’ from it. Unfortunately for many of you that fool could be YOU!
I’m a 29 year old Australian, I have blonde hair, blue eyes, I’m of normal build and consider myself to be reasonably fit but in no way a male model. But I will tell you I’ve dated and screwed more gorgeous Thai women than you’ve probably had cooked dinners. Cosmetic models, promo girls to business owners bla bla bla the list goes on. There are a few things you must understand about your Thai girlfriend potentially cheating on you.
1. YOU’RE A FOOL WHO DOESN’T LIVE HERE AND YOU SEND HER MONEY!!!!!
– I once dated a women who owned a massage shop in a small soi (lane) off Sukhumvit 22. Now before you say it there was a large sign out the front clearly stating ‘MASSAGE ONLY’ I was green back then but I wasn’t a fu#king idiot. It was a three story shop and the rent was 30,000 Baht/month and she had two staff members one of which was her older sister. Now in my time with her she would probably average about five customers a week (due to the fact her staff didn’t do extras) and she never actually worked herself. She constantly took me out to party and drink also she almost always insisted on paying for everything. Well I know that sounds great and I assure you for a new young buck in Bangkok for the first time it was. Now the thing was she had an older boyfriend back in the U.K who was funding our extravagant parties and of course I was screwing her brains out each night in the shop he bought for her. I was unaware of this at the time but when it became obvious it was a great reason to break up with her and move on. Unless you have know your girlfriend for a considerable amount of time and lived with her don’t send money to her no matter the bullshit excuses she gives you. She was fine before you got here and she’ll be fine after you leave again. A genuine Thai lady would never ask for money after knowing you such a short amount of time so SAY NO!
2. HAS MANY ‘FARANG FRIENDS’ – HELL NO
No damn chance. If she’s always talking about all her ‘farang friends’ like some wanker that was here for a full moon party once or came to hang out on Khao San road because he read about it in the lonely planet guide then chances are she’s had plenty of tourist dick up her before and when you’re not around she’ll be running off with her little like minded friends to go fishing for more. The tourist hot spots are full of these types of women and if your girlfriend goes on about these guys then she’s got plenty of options for if you ever get boring. On the other end of the farang scale there’s all the other guys like myself that live here and have every chance to meet her at the drop of a hat. Thai girls, especially Bangkok girls that are even moderately attractive are just like any women in that they love attention and whether or not that attention is coming from someone that walks around wearing a Chang beer singlet or some flashy businessman that has a condo in Thonglor and a thick wallet they have more reason to boast about it to their friends. Thailand is full of foreign guys the majority of which came here purely to meet women and they won’t hesitate to go after your woman even if they know she has a boyfriend or even husband. There is a limited amount of contact I choose to have with farang for that very reason alone. Big red flag, seriously.
3. ALWAYS ON HER DAMN PHONE
This is as someone in a previous post mentioned a fine line for this issue because as many Asian women are Thai women are mostly attached to their phones at any given moment. If she’s next to you on the bed and her phone is constantly going off and she hides the screen from your view when answering messages, ESPECIALLY those written in English!!, once again chances are she’s talking to some other guy/s and doesn’t want you to know about it. You’d think they’d have the brains to switch it to silent but believe me some don’t really even think that far ahead. Red flag
4. NEVER ANSWERS THE PHONE OR TAKES A LONG TIME TO REPLY TO YOUR MESSAGES
This one is a classic dead give away. Yes she may be at work and yes she may be asleep but as mentioned before Thai women are mostly attached to their phones permanently even at work so if she takes forever to answer you messages or doesn’t pick up your calls right away then she could be trying to hide it from the guy she’s currently with. The other reason is that while your not around her she’s busily tapping her way through countless other guy’s messages or on the phone to them. If this is something that is a common occurrence I would have reason to question her about it.
Red flag.
5. SHE’S GOING TO MEET HER ‘FEMALE FRIENDS AFTER WORK BUT SHE COMES BACK DRESSED LIKE A HOOKER
If your girlfriend claims she’s going out to catch up with an old female or male gay friend from school,work or university and she goes out wearing high heels and next to nothing then that sir is not a red flag but a fuc#ing billboard of disaster. No self respecting Thai woman would doll herself and wear next to nothing if she was only catching up with her female or male gay friends. Come on
she’s full of shit.
4. THE UNEMPLOYED PARTY GIRL
She doesn’t work yet she’s always out with her ‘friends’ and having a great time particularly in the tourists hot spots and night clubs. She is almost 100% selling herself or has very rich parents ( this is highly unlikely in this case because she wouldn’t need you of course) or she has a wealthy Thai husband who doesn’t give a shit. You came to visit her once in Thailand and she’s got you hanging on a rope or potentially using you as one of her many sponsors to fund her lifestyle and expensive tastes. If this sounds like your petty little girlfriend you dream about each night wake up and smell the roses.
5. THE ONLINE GIRLFRIEND
So you decided to be different and joined a Thai dating site, went online and met this amazing women who’s young,attractive, claims she has a good job and speaks great English. ”What a catch! How could I be so lucky to meet a woman like this on the net!?” If you’re one of these guys that has said this to yourself then be aware…. Each night when you arrive home after you’ve slaved away earning your hard earned cash you jump online to video call your gorgeous girlfriend in Thailand and see how her day was. Little do you know while she is charming you and telling you she misses you so much I’m (or some other younger foreign guy) is sitting on the other end of the sofa trying not to wet myself with laughter and when she’s done with you I’m going to take her into the bedroom and bend her over into 16 different positions and laugh about how foolish you are. Time and time again these older guys go online to meet a much younger women and it all ends in tears.
Seriously do you not think there are younger guys that have cash? You think she struggles to meet guys here in Thailand? There are thousand’s of sex pests that actually live here and they all troll the same dating sites you use back home as well. No young and attractive Thai woman needs to go online to meet her second grandfather unless she’s extremely desperate and in which case she’ll most likely become a freelance hooker in the clubs to earn cash and have fun with her friends at the same time. Either that or she’s got another five or six guys like you that all come over in a strategically planned sequence to show her the time of her life before she waves them goodbye at the airport and awaits the next international arrival. Once again guys, wake up!! Major red flag probably visible from the moon.
There is much more chance of meeting a genuine Thai lady if you are actually living here or are able to stay here for a considerable amount of time. This may seem like an obvious point to make but as mentioned above there is certainly no shortage of desperate men that all seem to want to learn the hard way and anyone who is willing to play with fire is more than likely going to get burnt. Thai women that are of any sort of quality are in no way ‘easy’ and they have no interest in fooling around with some tourist no matter how amazingly handsome or rich you think you are.
Disclaimer: There is a lot more information in this post apart from whether or not your Thai girlfriend is cheating on you and instead actual reasons as to why this may or may not be happening. In no way am I trying to generalize about all Thai women but only talk about a certain percentage of them and those mentioned in the situations above. Many men find it hard to grasp the reality of these situations but unfortunately that is just what it is, reality.
Great post Tim. This is a blog post within it self! Seems you have been here a long time and know how everything works
^^Brilliant mate
“I’m a 29 year old Australian, I have blonde hair, blue eyes, I’m of normal build and consider myself to be reasonably fit but in no way a male model.”
So a fat bogan with the personality of a autistic postman?
Dear ‘timcunt’
Well firstly I must say I really do like your name. It is indeed an honour, however I must point out that it would’ve been a far more accurate description of me if you included the words ‘is a’ in the middle of the name but I’ll accept it none the less.
Now I must apologise for my late reply because I did read your comment a few weeks ago with great amusement but I have of course been rather busy being YOUNG, HANDSOME AND SUCCESSFUL. Don’t worry my ugly old crusty friend I will take some time just for you to send my regards.
I’m guessing by your use of language and reference to the term ‘bogan’ which is equal to that of the British term ‘Chav’ you must be either a Brit or Aussie, but I really don’t care nevertheless. Now it’s clear you don’t think too highly of Australians which is great because we both have that in common, but sadly where we differ from each other is the fact that you read my post and it struck an old heart string and you just couldn’t contain yourself any longer. You just had to stand up for all the other ugly crusty old losers and teach that damn young guy a lesson!
I’m guessing you’re one of those sad middle aged guys that has been burnt a few times by some mid range unattractive Thai slag and what I said brought back some old memories of that sad unrequited love. You’re a desperate piece of shit that probably spends his time hanging around all the dingy go go bars and thought you’d be a hero and try and put me in my place. Well I’ve got news for you old mate, no one cares and no one supports you, you’re just shit.
Now the other possible side to your sad old story is most likely you tried to date a younger gold digging Thai girl and lo and behold she cheated on you with a younger guy like me. I’m sorry old mate, did I fuck your missus?? Cheer up old mate you can continue paying for it like you always have. I love crusty old sponsors like you because you buy her all the expensive things and I just keep her satisfied in bed. Those girls really like you for your personality, it’s true!
Now finally while we’re on the topic of sleeping with gorgeous Thai women for FREE I must disagree with one thing. I don’t seem to remember (what is literally at least the last few hundred times) any women looking at and touching my body saying I’m fat. Come on now let’s be decent here. Just because someone doesn’t have a six pack doesn’t mean they’re fat old mate.
Maybe it’s my good looks and AMAZING PERSONALITY that gets me laid so much??
Oh well who knows, what do you think old mate?.
you’re a complete dick head
I wish my brother in law see this post before he lost $12000 to thai lady have spa massage shop in hua hin.
How did that happen?
If you’ll excuse me, but reading through the article and some comments I kinda feel offended in so many level. The generalization and invalid assumption only urge me to provide some different perspective.
I’m Thai, unemployed, and totally living on my own expenses. My parents aren’t rich and I don’t belong to ‘hi-so’ background. I do have lots of farang friends whom I met abroad or even at Khaosan road, and I don’t, underlined, screw with them. I party quite often mainly because different friends want to see me at different time, and I tend to be a yes-man when it comes to socialization. I’m always on my phone because I like checking news on my facebook feed and keeping up with a friend group chat. In any case, I really hate when someone is peeping at my screen. That’s just harassing personal privacy. I can also afford to occasionally go to fancy places or even traveling abroad because I know how to earn and manage my money. Now, does my life give you any new point of view so far?
I don’t deny the fact that there is the kind of unfaithful women anywhere, but such offensive statement on public websites could potentially make me look bad in the eyes of foreigners. If you want to give a precaution, why don’t you base it more on personal experiences and less like a propaganda.
99.9% chance this is a white knight and not actually a Thai Women.
555+ (Thai way of saying hahaha.)
Harvie, you’re so hilarious. What are you trying to prove? That Thai woman couldn’t be well-educated or intelligent enough to express her opinion and fend for herself? Sorry, dude, but I belong to your 0.01% chance here. You better start re-evaluate your judgement ability or at least give a 1% respect to Thai women as individual. Thank you.
Yes I know I am funny, that’s why my website is a huge hit.
You’re not from a hi-so background, in your own admission. And at the time you wrote this comment, you were unemployed. So please do explain why you belong in the 0.01% chance? What value do you THINK you have? Wake up and step out of the movie scene. Many Thai hookers believe they are in that 0.01% now. Just because you believe something to be true, doesn’t mean it is.
Just dropped by to say that the writer of the comment – I, myself 100% support, is really a woman. A great one, too.
The English is definitely too good for “well-educated or intelligent” Thai woman.
Dear Tana,
I would like to make it clear to you that my post is based on 100% PERSONAL experience. When a westerner sarcastically says they have done something more times then ‘you’ve probably had cooked dinners’ this means they have done something many,many,many times. So when I say I’ve dated and screwed ‘more gorgeous Thai women then you’ve probably had cooked dinners’ It means I have personally done this thus validating my opinions and not in any way creating invalid assumption.
I must say I commend you for easy going unemployed lifestyle and at the same time congratulate you on being mediocre. No your life does not give me a new view point. There is no reason for you to stand up for this percentage of women (as I clearly stated in my post and disclaimer, it’s only a percentage) because it’s not about who is right or wrong it’s about stopping inexperienced and misinformed men from making the same mistakes with the wrong kind of Thai women. When you see a title that says
Thai Ladies – Is Your GF Cheating On You? and you’re a man that is in contact with or in some kind of a relationship with a Thai lady it’s probably likely that you’re going to read it.
If you could also go back and read the part where I mention the fact I have many well educated FEMALE THAI friends you would understand that my opinions and experiences are also made up of that of others, in particular….. WELL EDUCATED FEMALE THAI FRIENDS. Do you think they tell me these things for fun or as a joke? What reason would they have to do this?
Finally I must congratulate you once again for looking up the meaning of ‘propaganda’. I assume now that you know the true meaning of the word and retract your incorrect use of it in describing my post.
Regards,
Tim
Red flags:
Typical response.Once again, Thai females are useless at lying.
” I’M ALWAYS ON MY PHONE BECAUSE I LIKE CHECKING NEWS ON MY FACEBOOK FEED AND KEEPING UP WITH FRIEND GROUP CHAT.”
Like what? Really important shit like this kind of bullshit most probably….examples:
”sitting in starbucks LOL” or ”skytrain busy today ROFL”
or ‘just seen a really nice cat LOL’
”I DO HAVE LOTS OF FARANG FRIENDS WHOM I MET ABROAD OR EVEN AT KHAOSAN ROAD, AND I DON’T, UNDERLINED, SCREW WITH THEM”
So you’re one of those phone obsessives who even keeps their phone in their hand checking it even when you’re being f*cked by one of your farang…erm ..friends.
Be honest, Thai girls (apart from a select few of decent class/education) can”t have farangs as ‘just friends’ because they aren’t capable of conversation of anything interesting or actually being interesting
So you’re one of those who has your phone glued to your hand to show all your fellow Thai people that you have a smartphone, to show your status to other Thais that you can afford the latest phone, wow, your status must be high, you’ve gained face! Feel good?
Many Thais are obsessed with face and status.
”BUT SUCH OFFENSIVE STATEMENT ON PUBLIC WEBSITES COULD POTENTIALLY MAKE ME LOOK BAD IN THE EYES OF FOREIGNERS”
It’s not an offensive statement, it’s an opinion many have based on personal experience, and this is a discussion forum and not every comment can be all sweet and nice. You have already look bad by saying you have many farang friends, thus making people (including many Thais) assume that you’re f*cking them.
In western countries, we’re used to free speech and freedom of opinion.
”IF YOU WANT TO GIVE A PRECAUTION, WHY DON’T YOU BASE IT MORE ON PERSONAL EXPERIENCES AND LESS LIKE PROPAGANDA”
This IS based on our personal experiences, and this is the conclusion we’ve come to, that’s why the subject of this was started in the first place.
Harvie wouldn’t write a load of bullshit just for the hell of it., this site is about a thousand notches above all those shitty blogs that pollute the internet written by wankers who are most likely sittiing in Starbucks on their laptops in Siam square, occasionally visiting the toilet to masturbate over each ‘kool’ paragraph they’ve come up with
”PROPAGANDA”…..Wrong word.
Propaganda is when I pretend that my cat can use the toilet for a shit and flush it because it eats my brand of cat food, making all other brands look bad
So, as usual, typically, a load of complete bollocks. Time to shove that washing machine up my arse that I promised I’d in my first post
You must have been fucked up by girls bro, so many anger in your messages. You came in thailand for fuck and you’re full of hate. Like most of your stupid readers
To be fair most farang have no chance of meeting nice Thai girls as we don’t integrate into the community much. For one, we’re lazy, we just go to bars, clubs, and use dating sites. English teachers have a bit of an ‘in’, they can network and meet normal Thais. Still it’s hard to make male Thai friends here, compared to Vietnam / Philippines / Cambodia and get invited to social events etc. When was the last time you heard of a western guy being invited to a Thai wedding, where he could work the crowd, or get introduced to girls by his middle class male Thai friends that speak English?
You have to learn Thai to the level of guys like Ajarn Adam and work a 9 to 5 white collar job here to really get amongst the population of quality girls, otherwise it’s just pot luck on the dating sites.
Tana, you could see this site as kind of a survival guide for the average (fairly dumb) westerner, to help them not fall for the tricks of the % of girls that are bad. Harvie did write a disclaimer that not all girls are like this.
I mean this whole site reflects just as badly on farang guys as it does Thai girls, by writing stuff like this we’re laughing at ourselves too, and trying to improve ourselves.
First of all, thanks @jspill for your comment. I do appreciate your decency to come up with an actually constructive argument. Your opinion makes the topic worthwhile for further discussion, and perhaps even liable solutions.
For you @Pat, Mr. ‘stupid idiotic prick’, I’m begining to see why you always end up with either a player or a keeper kind. I think the root of the whole problem is your shallow attitude. It wouldn’t matter you live in Thailand or anywhere in the world. Your negative thinking will just serve you right.
And for the sake of your narrowed-mindedness and also to defend myself since you quoted my statement with unnecessary shouting typo, the clarification is below.
– Check my page ‘facebook.com/XXXXX’. You’re welcome to follow and see what kind of shit I’m really into.
– My phone is ASUS which actually costs less than 6,000 baht. The one before was a used Sony that I bought for 4,000 baht. How many fuck do I give about face and status over smartphone? Zero. Neither your imaginary scene about me fucking farang friends nor my status obsession is valid here. Just pure vengeful rant.
– I value free speech and free opinion. But does that mean I can point finger at some random farang guy and tell everyone that he must be a pimp just because I see him at Khaosan road? Like I said, I don’t deny whatever happened to you. But I’m strongly against the generalization and invalid assumption towards Thai women as a whole. That, I feel offended.
– I didn’t ask the writer to stop writing. I recommended his writing to be based on personal experiences rather than cheesy fault logic like ‘if your GF do this, then it means that’ because I, myself, do this and it doesn’t mean that. That, again, I feel offended. As a writer, one could be more cautious about his or her own spin.
– “Propaganda: information, especially of a biased or misleading nature, used to promote or publicize a particular political cause or point of view.” I’m pretty certain I chose the right word, sir.
By the way, you don’t need to shove up your arse though, as I feel sorry for the washing machine.
Hey Tana, I removed your Facebook adress. My readers are total savages, I don’t want them stalking you 🙂
Hi Guy’s
Tanja is a guy let’s make a date with her/him 5555
Check if there is any correlation the way she/he speaks and writes .
I have busted many of those jokers 5555
Cheers
Miles
^I wouldn’t stalk that if my life depended on it
I’ve been living in this country for the last six months, been following this site for helpful tips and things to do.
Despite the preference for Thais over Western women, it seems like a lot of the articles and guys on this site mostly caution newcomers, like myself, against the manipulative Thai women. I think any guy with experience and a good head on his shoulders can probably spot and avoid shitty women. For the most part, I think the articles can be helpful in a silly, tongue-in-cheek way.
However, it would be nice to know what you guys think makes a Thai girl a good girl. What traits would she possess? What should new guys recognize as tell-tale good girl behaviours? Maybe you can write up an article on this.
Good points TH, I will do that in next week’s article or the week after.
@Tana
I think it would only be fair if the next topic was:
”Why do some farang men dress badly, hang in only red light areas, drink too much and fall in love/marry with bargirls?” (then are shocked when they get burned)
or
”Why do some farangs think EVERY Thai girl is fair game?”
(example, speaking bargirl pidgen english and propositioning girls in shops, restaurants and think it’s hilarious?”)
I’m pretty sure you may agree, and Harvie would consider it, it’s a valid topic
The farangs I mean are the fat, repulsive, sweaty alcoholic vest wearing sex tourists
Fantastic read good job
Sir,
I have been to Bangkok a few times and have endless fun laughing at the mugs. Look, if you are going to have anything to do with the girls, do it at a distance. This means no attachment. That way you couldn’t give a toss where they are or with whom as long as you don’t get a dose of something.
I am not interested so my stays there are always drama free. Anyone going to Thailand to look for wife is a mug. Anyone that wants to marry a prostitute is in need of lobotomy.
The post is old, but fuck it, I’m going to post my experience.
I just got back from an amazing two month trip down in Thailand and met my current gf a couple weeks into the trip. She was incredible while I was there, absolutely amazing. We had a great time. Not bitchy…pretty much everything I would want in a girlfriend. I didn’t know what I was really getting into. Now that I’m back, there are already problems.
I pretty much know she is already cheating. Her and some friends spent the entire day at four falang’s apartment. I know this because her friend is an idiot about his facebook posts, it’s an easy way to keep tabs. One of the pics he has actually shows a girl in bed with one of the guys…I can’t honestly tell whether or not it’s her or her other friend, but it’s a 50/50 shot. If not she’s probably in bed somewhere with one of the others. She claims she was doing homework all day, on a fucking Saturday haha, stupid. Yet she is tagged in the apt posts…
She fits 6/7 of the mentioned criteria. I met this girl in an after hours club. She is not a prostitute and I have payed her nothing. Though, she has no job, two phones, and goes to college at the same time. Obviously not wealthy and claims her dad sends her money…right. She never showed me her apartment, seemed nervous and avoided the topic in general.
One thing I am talented in is my own emotional control…after some research I’ve learned to pretty much accept that this is happening. I have detached my emotions almost completely.
What I’m going to do is not call her out on her behavior. I’m going to play dumb and keep her as a girlfriend, while I fuck other girls back home. I know what this bitch is…and I’m not going to break up with her. It does me absolutely no good and it doesn’t cost me anything to be with her. Why kill this when it still serves me. She really loves me, but I do think she gets lonely and fucks around because of it. When I go back to Thailand, I will be with a girl who treats me amazing while I’m there, and takes me to awesome places. I just won’t take her seriously. She is basically my slut now.
Guys, please don’t take these bitches seriously. If you are spending money on them, you are an idiot. If not, then guard your emotions and use them when you get back to Thailand, IF you like them enough. I love my girl’s personality and how she makes me feel in her presence…just when I’m gone she lies, cheats, and is a fuckup in general. They like dick and money, if you aren’t there providing it, someone else is.
I am honestly curious if these girls are any good as long term partners if you stay in Thailand long term or marry them. I’m open minded enough to find out, because while I won’t call American women shit, they don’t honestly compare to this girl and I would be open to it if I hear good things. Keep my options open.
Good post Jon, good logic too.
I’m not sure if they are great to marry because you will have to go home every so often and who knows what will happen. Girls who sound like ‘trouble’ shouldn’t be considered marriage material, just casual relationships and nothing more.
Haha, you’re absolutely right. I can’t take this girl seriously at all now. I have already caught several more lies, and other bullshit. Like she messaged me, saying she was going to sleep. Then I replied and the FB messenger read she had gone out of the WiFi zone for 14 hours. I know her place has WiFi. Such an obvious lie to go fuck some butt ugly Lithuanian with some cash.
Dumb bitch. I’m lucky I figured this out fast enough.
I still find it hard to believe someone can be this stupid, and such a horrible person. Basically a prostitute. Not gonna lie, it hurts, it really does. You think someone is a good person, and to find out it’s all a farce…man, it’s brutal. No matter how strong I am. I fell for this girl while there, and it’s hard to turn a 180 on my emotions. Think I’ll start ignoring her now.
Thanks for posting articles like these Harvie, without them many good men would fall victim to these selfish and manipulative little girls…
Love some of your comments,i have a Thai GF who is in her mid forties,she assures me she is genuine and does not do sex with other men,says i am her only one etc.I think they all say that plenty of warning signs with her as well, like on line on messenger but does not message me.on the other side i spent two weeks with her last month and she never went anywhere on her own and even left her phone with me when she went to the shop and she knows i know the unlock code.She always calls me when she gets back from the bar where she insists she does not do boom boom and is always in her own room.pluses and minuses,dont really know what to think,any advise? PS she has not as yet asked me to give her any money.
If your girl works in a go go or beer bar, I think you already know the answer 🙁 .
my situation is a bit atypical. I fell for a girl who had a dodgy past – she worked as a masseuse and obviously gave happy endings (probably more). I’ve been checked for STD’s after my many times having sex with her and it was clean. After I made my intentions clear she also gave up her job in the massage parlor and now works at a restuarant as a waitress/chef. She’s also 7 years older than me, me being 25 and her 32. Obviously her past makes it hard to trust and she comes from the Isaan region but if someone gives up their job for me and decides to work 10 hour shifts per day in a restaurant, I feel I owe it to give her a chance. It’s a strange situation that probably doesn’t come up a lot, but I believe this girl doesn’t cheat on me.
One day, the restaurant job won’t make sense to her financially. She is used to making 40,000 a month or more as a happy ending masseuse. If she has friends or family involved in the business, she will see them getting the money, sending it home, eating out and partying. Masseuses don’t just do happy endings, they go out afterwards to Khao San Road and Mixx and Spicy. They get more men and more money. Many have sponsors who also buy them expensive gifts. Trust me, I know this.
When she starts adding up how much she gets being with you and working in a restaurant vs what she could be making and living without you, she will soon enough revert to her old ways. It’s very very rare a Thai woman who has been engaged in the sex industry and has been with 1000s of men now suddenly drops everything for you, so she can work in a restaurant. She could have done that before she met you, and hooked up with a Thai guy.
Hello Ladies and Gentlemen,
First of all that will be honor if you read my post. It is quite long but there is a nice and very strange experince in there.
Even my family oriented, regular, virgin, lovely cute Thai gf cheated me although we promised each other and we were preparing to get married. (Our families even knew us and admitting our marriage)
Their family was so excited to have that much nice husband for their daughter. Even they called me and said “Don’t worry about bride price. We won’t take anything from you” Especially her mother loves me so much as her real son. I really appreciated her family. I am still thankful to them.
Then, one day the magic story has finished. I cached her ex boyfriend’s messages on her phone. Plus on her Facebook. Wow she look so close to him, still. Even seems she want to sleep with him. I just shocked. And I shocked again also because I realized that how many farang friends she has on her Facebook list.
For sure when I was asking question, she was giving me a reasonable answer which was persuading me. But I took a photo of all her calls and messages of her “just farang friends” and showed her. Then she just stopped say anything. She could only say “You are right, I cheated on you”
I asked “You are nice, innocent, family oriented girl. Why did you do that?” She just said “I don’t know. I am bad. Just bad. That’s it.”
Nowadays, probably she is working hard but lonely also. Why did she choose this way I have no idea and will never understand. But I can easily say; that Thai girl is the worst thing and memory in my life.
Also Thai ladies can feel love and not want to cheat her boyfriend.
But at the end the family is number 1.
If there is any problem in family and they need money you are not important anymore for her.
Only family. Only money….
For us the kind of culture and living is sometimes not understanable.
But they are not bad, it is another culture and ………
a very poor country.
Really pleased i have found this. I am new to Thailand and recently flew there to meet girl i met on Thai Friendly.She was beautiful and great to be with and i quickly,being new to Thailand, became emotionally attached. However, in second week saw her messaging blokes in English regularly when she thought i wasn’t looking. When questioned she just said they were just good friends. Went to her home town and she never introduced me to her family.Last day her phone rang but she wouldn’t answer it, her face told me it was another farang calling her. Since i have returned home have messaged her but replies always short and lacking emotion.
Sure she is not interested and i have become emotionally attached. Part of a learning curve i guess. I have not given up hope with Thai women and plan to live there and hopefully find someone better.
Welcome to Thailand Nick! 😀
Thanks, do you think i will be wasting my time looking for girlfriend on Thai Friendly or Thai Cupid ? I am 50 years old and looking for serious relationship.I realize that i need to live in Thailand to find someone but not sure where best to find someone nice. I would really appreciate any advice so i avoid wasting time again
Hi Nick,
If you’re looking for a serious relationship and don’t want to play a guessing game then your best bet is to meet a girl in the real world. Visit sites like Meetup and join events and group you’re interested in, and from there you’ll have a very good chance to meet someone decent.
You can find decent girls online but given there’s 101 guys messaging every half attractive girl, you will find many who just want to have casual encounters etc.
I’ve been chatting with a 23 year old who admitted to having sex with a 65 year old drunk. He takes care. After this she was scared I wouldn’t speak to her. She said she’s bad. All she wants is sex and money. I have to agree.
My Thai go go hooker seems to be completely honest (she told me many crazy events she participated in but one time drunk she admit she didn`t want to tell all. I didn´t ask anymore, afraid to feel jealous and disgusted) . She is 27 and worked for 4-5 years in a go go. She loves sex. She go for free if young and handsome. 20% of customers she have orgasm. I believe her, she come easy. She say she can come if she wants. She looks very good and we have good sex and company. I´m 50+ but good body and young attitude. Still I feel jealous when she tells me she have sex for free sometimes..can´t help it or accept it but don´t ask to much about it. She claimed that many go go feels the same. Some take drugs to be horny but not her.
She is not into black according what she tells me. One time offer her 100 000 baht if she let thai ladyboy fuck her and she got four orgasm in two hours. She told me the money made her more horny. Lady boy I offer 10000 and if she come (my girl) another 10000. Ladyboy come two times.
Crazy night but everybody happy. Bangkok is everything possible.
Absolutely humorous. While everyone is hell bent on finding a Thai GF are they overlooking the beautiful euros obviously traveling on their own or with Mum and Dad. Not hard to spot them. They’re standing in the lobbies with Lonely Planet brochures or asking you where the best places are to visit. Some will open conversation in the lifts and the 7/11. Probably glad to talk to another westerner. They know what they want and how long they can stay with you. 7 nights. Same hotel, same floor. No bullshit. Its her big OE and thats how it stays.No phone numbers, no promises. Saying goodbye is exactly that. Come on guys BKK is for everyone including western girls.
Did your Thai GF go out of her way to come to Suvarnabhumi Airport with you on your shuttle to say goodbye. After standing in immigration for a while before we parted she handed me a small gift wrapped package and said don’t open it till you’re halfway back to NZ. Then she caught a taxi back to the hotel in Khlong San. I had 10000THB in my bill clip its the least I could give her with some degree of guilt. Didn’t expect any gift. Its the Scandinavian way I’ve since learned. The gift was a certified authentic Brietling watch. The card said “Thank you”. No name, just thank you.
I unfortunately was in a four-year relationship with a Thai woman, [Name removed] or “Ben” or “Benny” in Minneapolis, MN after she moved here from Chiang Mai.. After years of deceptive and selfish acts by her I finally let her go and feel so relieved! She was a pathological liar, sent to America by her family to screw white guys and take their money so she can send it home to her family. She’s now an illegal alien and her main purpose in life is to find a guy to marry for their money and her green card. No matter what she says that is her number one priority. She comes off as a “good girl” who has a “high education” but it’s all apart of one big lie, she tries to make you believe she has a heart and that she’s different than other Thai girls you read about but she is a cheating liar. She’ll always say she’s the best while referring to all American women as Bitches. She’s jealous beyond belief because she projects – it’s her that does the cheating. Thank god she’s out of my life, I’ve since found a beautiful American woman that’s monogamous and trustworthy.
Here goes with an essay on some of Thai girl experiences:
Married twice to well educated Thai girls that had more money than me. Met both Thai wives whilst they were completing MBA’s in London.
Also lived in BKK with working girls some that treated me like a King and others that would of bled me dry given the chance.
From HiSo to LoSo been there done that got the scars to prove it.
Both ex wives were and still are stunning and neither of them much younger than me, first 3 years and second 8 years. First one didn’t trust her, didn’t believe her, got her pregnant and did the right thing. I’ve had sole custody of our daughter for almost ten years. Ex is obsessed with the way she looks and seems to spend too much time on plastic surgery.
Then dated many Asian girls but no Thai girls only to meet and marry a HiSo girl who is well educated and beautiful lady. We lived in London where we met and had an amazing relationship, where she seemed incapable of lying and couldn’t understand why people lied, believed her and turns out she was truthful.
Then a number of years later I got an amazing job based in Thailand, I went over before my wife and kids, and made a monumental fuck up by cheating on her, she found out, whatever you do never piss off a Thai lady that truly loves you, and has an influential family. Subsequently she has tried to destroy me and very nearly did.
So to avoid her HiSo friends and family in Thailand i hide out in the many bars and clubs BKK has to offer.
Entertaining night and day, bar girls, freelancers, go go girls, and as regular as you get at nightclub girls etc etc All in all a lot of fun and got friendly with quite a few. As others have mentioned you directly pay some and some you think are doing it because they want to but you get nothing for free, there are always consequences whether its financially, emotionally or far worse. For example saw a stunning girl on and off for a month amongst others, sometimes she’d pay for bottles of whiskey at Climax other times me. Used to go to restaurants etc etc, but maybe I just being cynical but one night she crying as needed more money to keep her shop going and she needed not a lot in western terms bit a fair bit in Thai terms as she needed to pay suppliers and she was expecting payments in so could pay me back in a week, month tops, ao i lent it her. Didn’t help that o lost my phone and her number the next day, bit hay she had my number. Funny never heard from her again, and all it does is make it harder to trust in the future.
The stories you hear and many of them are just that and the girls many of them the families know what they do to get cash and expect it. Thailand is a beautiful country with beautiful people and yet the disgusting wealth next to poverty sitting side by side in the likes of Ekamai and Thong Lor.no wonders the girls do what they do. I’ve met a lot of amazingly savvy girls and they are not being exploited and they know exactly what they are doing and why. If you meet someone in a bar, gogo, nightclub, massage etc. You know what they do, so there should be no surprises, what makes you so special from everyone else that she wont take you for a ride. They love there Ice (crystal meth) and they spend fortunes on it.
Like a young but seasoned bar girl said to me “you fuck me for fun, I do fuck you for money” and don’t for minute think the younger girls are naive the sad thing is that you speak to girls in there earlier 20’s and sometimes as young as twenty to find out they started selling there bodies at 13 and smoking Ice at the same time. Its tragic and sometimes you want to make everything better for these poor unfortunates but sadly (as I’ve found out personally) they are beyond help so damaged by the eternal party and the emotional rollercoaster that is there life, money is there god, trying to help them and be a real friend is never going to happen, because they won’t allow themselves to open up lest they show their vulnerability’s.
We don’t live in the World of ‘Pretty Woman’ where you’re going to meet your Julia Roberts this is Thailand where perfectly sane men have been known to walk away from there families and lives after meeting a working girl that understands him so well and six months later having lost his head, heart and every last penny or having got married in Thai where everything is in her name, it’s suddenly not working after sea taken you for everything you had and more.
Working girls have got hearts but you’ll be lucky or unfortunate if she falls for you.
Like people.have sais on here, don’t send money, if you really want a relationship with a working girl, don’t and failing that you need to be in the country with them. Even then she may behave and the younger they are the more they think they can get away with (all from experience) and I you met her and she’s engaged to someone else and yet you see how she is with you. A number of times I took working girls away to islands and had amazing times but they were skyping guys funding them at certain times of day and open with me about it whilst the poor sucker or suckers that are supporting her are oblivious to what she’s up to. I’ve even been hanging out of the back of them whilst they’ve been on Line or Skype.
Working girls are what they are, and there are some real stunners and its easy to be swept away especially when you feel so alive with them. Remember they’re doing this to survive for the majority.
In.short Thai girls are amazing, there are massive differences with our cultures. If you’re going to Thailand for sex, have fun and be safe. Another trick is her not wanting you to wear condom, she thinks you’re going to think she thinks your special. Or she’s wanting to be pregnant, her lives instantly better if you stick around and support. Etc. Etc.
Stay safe, grass always looks better, very rarely is, girls are similar wherever you are in the world however this is the way of life for 3-5% of the population of Thailand learn from other peoples mistakes and try not to make themselves and finally another way to.spot cheating multiple facebook and skype profiles and multiple phones
GOOD LUCK
Nice post, agree with most of it, looks like you were onto a winner with wife #2 but then you would not have all the memories you shared here.
Is someone able to translate this without using an auto translator ?
ตอนนี้ย้ายมาอยุ่กับแฟนไม่อยุาอยู่ที่เก่าแล้ว
She said that she has now moved to live with her boyfriend and is no longer at the old place.
What can i use beside google translate online to translate her texts. She trust me with her phone as i do her. But i cant get away with spanish contact names and text lime she does with thai.
You need to get out the relationship if you’re both reading each others phones. Huge red flag that you don’t trust each other and have issues. As for translating there is no good app.
Actually i can really use a experienced person to determine whether i have a good one or bad one.
Its eating me away inside as i turned down much more attractive women for her presumably because she presents herself as innocent,virgin, loyal . We met online dating app. Much more to it though.
You’d have to tell me more about her for me to give you an answer.
I recently came back from Phuket and I’d have to say that my experience with the Thai women was positive to say the least. One particular night out at Patong having a drink at this quiet beer bar and having a good time with a couple of the bar girls. Yes, I bought them lady drinks because I’m not a Cheap Charley and besides, I was having fun and the drinks I was having were cheap. Anyways, I tell one of the bar girls that I’m going to pop into a 7/11 store to get a packet of smokes.
When I returned to the bar, something made me check my pockets and my mobile was missing. I don’t understand how I didn’t realise this when I walked away from the bar and toward 7/11. Maybe because I was having a lot of fun with these bar girls.
I told one of the bar girls I misplaced my mobile phone and decided to walk back to that 7/11 store where I bought the packet of smokes. The girl behind the counter wasn’t much help and said for me to return the next morning to check the CCTV.
I walked back to the beer bar and told the same bar girl that I may have lost my mobile phone. The bar girl walked over to the counter and asked one of her colleagues that works behind the bar if someone handed in a mobile phone.
The bar worker raises her right hand and you wouldn’t believe it, she was holding up my
mobile phone !!!! I was bloody speechless !!!! You hear stories of theft and what not and here I was with this shocked look on my face that turned into a big smile. So I shouted the three bar girls each a lady drink because that’s what I do when something good happens !!
Can you believe that two of the three beer bar girls wanted to buy me a drink afterwards. I kept saying NO and they insisted. One of the girls said to me ‘We buy you drink because you a nice guy”. Well, I’ll take that with a grain of salt because I did spend a few BHT at this bar. But hey, I was there on a holiday with some money to spend.
I can say my first experience was pretty good as I also met a nice Thai girl in a club. We had breakfast and wouldn’t believe, I didn’t have enough BHT to pay for breakfast and she turned to me and said ‘NO problem I pay’. Was I embarrassed? Shit yeah !! Again, as strange as this sounds, this was another positive experience I had. Obviously, I paid her back and gave her some more for the inconvenience. Back to the hotel but we didn’t do anything as I just wanted to get to know her. I know we could’ve had sex but I didn’t want to.
When she left the next day at around 6pm (this could be considered ‘Extra long time’?), I simply told her that I’d like to know more about her before we did anything and she agreed. I was thinking that I blew my one and only chance to sleep with this gorgeous woman, but hey, no skin off my nose. Plenty more fish in the sea.
But she was true to her word and she wanted to meet me the following day. Look, I understand that she may be a freelancer, but no money was ever discussed, nor short or long time. I gave her a cash gift because if she started going on about ST or LT, then I would’ve just given her some BHT and asked her to leave. I wanted to have a GFE experience even if it was for only a few days. Some of us males go to Thailand to screw as many women as possible, some of us want happy endings and some of us want he GFE experience. Whatever floats our boat right?
I’ll heading back to Phuket in a couple of months to catch up with my lady friend and maybe the other bar girls if they’re still working. The second trip will be the deal breaker for me as to whether I go back for future trips !!!
Good to here. If you be nice to girls they will be nice back to you, regardless of what jobs they do. Good post and I’ve heard many stories like this. People often get very drunk and are easy targets, and have bad experiences which seem to get more news time than the good stories.
You must also look ver hot Benny, haha love the story I’m sure it’s one you’ll keep forever.
Kind of sad. If I thought my missus was cheating on me, I wouldn’t feel bad about cheating on her.
Hi Harvie
A good mate of mine and I are heading to Pattaya on the 21 May. He’s been there 8 times in the past 3 years. This trip should be a lot of fun because he’s just as crazy as I am LOL. I was planning on going to Phuket in May but he convinced me to go to Pattaya.
I’m back from Pattaya. Well….firstly, I will say that Pattaya runs rings around Patong. They say that Pattaya is a Disneyland for men. ABSOLUTELY !! I had the best 21 days I’ve ever had on a holiday. First night after landing, we hit a couple of bars on Soi 7. Well, that was an interesting experience having your crotch grabbed not just once while the bar girl is trying to get you into her bar. It went from 0 – 100 in no time. I could’ve taken one of these bar girls back to the hotel room but I was buggered. Seriously. Sex was not on my mind, sleep was. Second night, hit the same bars, a couple of crotch grabs and out of there after a couple of pool games. Went to LK Metro and walked around until we decided to go to Queens A Go Go. Hassle free, no surprising overcharged bill, sexy girls…the usual. Then onto Walking Street and to I Bar. Wow. So many gorgeous freelancers my eyes were darting everywhere. Out of all the hot women there, I pick the one that didn’t put out when we got to the hotel. All she wanted to was sleep !!!!!! When it was time for her to leave later in the morning, I flick her 500 baht and she says ‘Why no give me more?’. Are you serious lady? I told her that’s all she’s getting because we didn’t boom boom. She didn’t argue the point and we parted amicably. Third night, we hit Soi 6 and I told my mate that I wanted to do the ‘Walk of shame’ and then we turn back and find a bar. The usual happened……getting whistled at, cat called and last but not least…..crotch grabbed. When we turned back , I told my mate ‘the girl that I’m going to sleep with will come out of the bar and I’ll know’ He ummed and arrrred but we walked and I said to him ‘Wait for it, wait for it’ and then BANG, out comes this cutie in a short tight skirt that grabs me by the arm firmly and ushers me into the bar. We has couple of drinks and games of pool and I started on her neck and was all over her and she turns to me and says ‘I’m horny’. I had a chuckle and said ‘Let’s go baby’. I slept with her several times during the 21 days in addition to the others. One night, I took 2 women back to the hotel room and the following night when I went back to that bar girl she says to me ‘I see you with 2 women yesterday’. I completely denied it and told her that it must’ve been a guy that looks like me. She was as cool as cucumber but I found it coincidental that she ‘guessed’ I was with 2 women and 24 hours later she confronts me with it. Maybe someone she knows saw me and they told her. Anyway, she didn’t mention it again but I had the feeling she wasn’t impressed. I’m just doing what she does but I wasn’t getting paid for it. I spent more time with her than with the other women because she was sweet, has a gorgeous smile and I made her laugh. On my 2nd last night, I visited her at her bar and said I’d take her for a Short Time. We spent the first 20 minutes pillow fighting and me chasing her around the bed. I didn’t care that I’d wasted 20 minutes of my 60 minutes doing this because I’d already slept with her several times before and wanted to make her laugh and forget just for a moment, that she wasn’t doing her job but actually experiencing something that normal couples experience. Once we finished, I stayed at the bar for about one hour and she was glued to me. Obviously because I had bought her a couple of lady drinks but hey, that’s why we go to Pattaya for right? I looked at her and noticed she started tearing and asked her ‘Why you cry?’ She wouldn’t answer. She walked away then came back after a couple of minutes with a tissue to wipe her tears away. I wasn’t going all gaga over it but I was curious. I was hoping she’d say something like “I miss you’ but she never said it. All good. I wouldn’t expect a bar girl to suddenly profess her love for a farang after 3 weeks. I’m battle hardened when it comes to emotions of the heart. Since I’ve come back, I’ve called her twice, she’s called 3 times and I’ve only managed to answer one of her calls. She hasn’t messaged me about sending her money even though I threw out the notion of supporting her financially just to see if she’d take the bait and she didn’t. I completely understand that she won’t open her heart because of what she does as it will affect her earning capacity. When I return to Pattaya in the next few months, I’ll turn up unannounced the bar she work in and if she’s there, I’m sure we’ll end up in the Short Time room, but if she’s not there, well, I guess I’ll just have to explore the other bars nearby. She sent me a LINE text on the day I was leaving that read – ‘I will never forget you’. Just goes to show there are some bar girls out there that let their emotions go just a little. My holiday was great, I didn’t get emotionally invested in any girl but if I’d stayed another month, things could’ve gotten serious and emotionally fucked up me with this bar girl. Saved by the bell so to speak.
Great comment Benny. Perfect piece of advice on how to enjoy Pattaya like a gentleman. I think the girl actually likes you in a friendship way. Just keep messaging here a little here and there, you’ll want to keep that lead for when you go back. It’s not easy to find that, and doesn’t happen on every trip. Just keep it at that though, don’t end up marrying her :D.
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