Western girls will be the first ones to tell you how bad the dating pool is in Thailand.
Not only do I wholeheartedly agree with them, I’m going to tell you why they are right.
Dating in Thailand for western women sucks.
If I were a white women, not only would I be making less money than I do now, but trying to find a serious long-term relationship in Thailand would be hell.
In this article I will explain why Thailand is the worst place for western women to find love or obtain a long-term relationships.
Note: This article uses a lot generalisations as it would be impossible to write it without doing so.
These are my thoughts based on running this site and being in Thailand for over seven years.
I’m going to start by looking at the option western women in Thailand have for dating.
Thai and Asian men
Speaking to western girls in Bangkok, the general response is that Asian men aren’t their type.
I believe that is a fair statement as I hardly ever see a western women holding hands with a Thai or Asian man.
Asian men tend to be much shorter than their western counterparts, they are not very bulky and their interests differ greatly from western women.
It’s safe to say that women as a whole don’t want men who may be shorter or smaller than them.
The average height of a Thai male is 169cm or 5’6.
The average height of a US female is 165cm or 5’4.
The average height of a Thai female is 160cm or 5’2.
My Thai girlfriend (who you’ll be getting to know her more in this article) said she prefers taller men because if she was to have a baby there’s a greater chance her baby would be tall, and that taller guys look better in almost every aspect.
She said something just doesn’t feel right when the guy is shorter than the girl, and sometimes that can annoy the guy.
I think most will agree that being tall is a good trait when finding a partner, and most girls want someone bigger than them.
European and American women are the tallest women in the world.
But let’s say that’s not true and girls don’t care about that.
I think Thai guys look great, some have a great dress sense and serious swagger that makes up for other short-falls.
How good would a Thai boyfriend really be for the long-term?
Your value doesn’t drop because Thai girls are superior, your value drops because you come here with the same standards for dating men as you did in the west.
Very few men in Thailand want to meet that standard.
Now let’s look at the choices men have in Thailand.
To us, Thai girls are exotic because it’s something we are not used to seeing everyday, remember we were living in a basement for 20 years with no Tinder matches.
Their body type, facial features, skin color and eyes are all new concepts, and the idea that they will actually talk to us blows ours minds.
Thai girls are also more submissive and let men get away with more (see the chart above).
I asked my girlfriend what she would do if she caught me cheating.
She said our relationship would never be the same, she would be mad, would punch me, hate me for a while but she would not leave me.
Just imagine for a second, a guy having that card in his pocket, how is anyone able to compete with that?
You’re probably thinking why the hell would you want to cheat on your girlfriend or wife, that is so horrible.
Spoiler alert: that’s the kind of people we are – horrible. 80% of western men in Thailand are not guys you want to date, we are savages.
Faithful guys don’t live in Asia, it’s just too god damn hard!
I’m not saying this is true for all Thai girls as that would be silly, but I believe because cheating is so common here, being caught is not a big of a deal compared to the west.
When a Thai girl gets into a relationship she is thinking about the long-term and her security.
If a man can provide her security for the rest of her life and she knows she will always be #1 no matter what and her needs are met, she will buy a ticket for the ride.
Here are some real life examples.
Example 1: a western friend of mine is married and when he goes on holiday without his wife, she puts condoms in his suitcase.
They have been happily married for 4 years.
Example 2: Another friend of mine is married with two kids. His wife knows he goes to G clubs and other venues very infrequently. She does not like him going there but she has accepted it and doesn’t bring it up any more.
He does a great job at raising his kids, gives his wife ample attention and is helping her to reach her life goals (starting a family and she is know starting a business).
They have been together 7 years.
You may think that is disgusting, vulgar and my friends are paces of shit, but that’s common in relationships in Thailand.
As I make up the 80% of shit bags, I must say it’s really refreshing to see a girl accept all my horrible flaws and love me with all her heart anyway.
I don’t think men or women in the west can achieve level of compassion, we are just too rigid in our ideologies of marriage and relationships.
It takes someone with a lot of compassion and forgiveness to be able to do that, and Asian women have it in abundance.
It’s much easier to be faithful when you’re living in a suburb in the US and no woman is batting an eyelid at you, but in Thailand with temptations on every corner it’s another story.
Maybe I just have shit friends, or maybe boys will be boys.
Our other choice is you, the western girl.
When it comes to banter and shit talking, I don’t think there’s anyone better or more fun than western girls.
Personality wise Thai girls don’t touch you and I don’t think they ever will because we share the same culture and up bringing.
We have more things in common.
I’d have a drink with you than anyone else.
I’d have no problem dating western girls.
I don’t because once you get to know the real me, you’d run for the hills and I could not blame you.
Your standards are too high, and I’m not willing to meet them.
My standards are too low, and you’re not willing to accept them.
It would never work!
For the other 80% of men you have bought pain and hurt, and many came to Thailand to get away from you.
In our younger days you gave us no attention because we were dweebs. So we got upset and moved to Thailand.
For western guys talking to a western girl is a lot of work and brings up anxiety.
I believe many guys are also very insecure to talk to you as you’ll quickly see them for what they are.
Thai girls on the other hand are sweet, even in rejection.
How can anyone compete with Thai girls?
Now I’ll address the elephant in the room which the physique of Thais.
Being small and thin is not a desirable quality in men, but it is for women.
Asian women in general are built in a way that you just cannot obtain unless you modify genetics from birth.
I’m not fat but if you put me next to a Thai girl, I look like a woolly mammoth that needs to be shot between the eyes, my body incinerated, and then my ashes re-incinerated to ensure I can never come back.
That’s how bad they make me look.
How is anyone meant to compete with that?
And there’s millions of them!
The Asian type is not loved by all men however, I’ve had several friends that have no interest in Asian women because they are too small and lack specific features.
My western friends on holiday usually ask me where to go out to meet western girls in Thailand because they have zero interest in Asian girls.
There are millions of guys that don’t like the Asian look – but very few of them will be living in Thailand.
These guys don’t live in Asia, they come for a short holiday and leave.
These guys love you and you’ll most likely connect with them better than us, but they are few and far between here.
The guys that stay are the ones who have the so called yellow fever and love or have weird fetishes for that look.
Tips for western girls dating in Thailand
To have fun dating in Thailand you need to see it for what it is.
Lowering your standards is the only way to get by here.
There’s less than 10% chance you’re going to meet an outstanding member of the male family in Thailand.
The cards are stacked against you.
The intentions for many to come here was to get away from you (sorry if that sounds mean).
Very few guys under the age of 30 are thinking of having a long-term relationship in Thailand when they step off that plane, and the ones that do are probably looking for a Thai women.
Most have read blogs like mine and others and their intentions are to make lots of mistakes and have fun.
If you want to date in Bangkok, you need accept that and have fun yourself.
Anyone western women who wants a husband and children any time soon, my advice would be to leave Thailand a few years before you want to make that goal a reality.
The last thing you want do is be stuck with one of us.
If you agree or disagree with any of my points about western women dating in Thailand, please leave a comment below.