Vietnam Cupid Review – Meet The Sexiest Girls
If you’re visiting Vietnam on holiday or plan to live here for a while – the best way to meet girls in Vietnam is through using Vietnam Cupid.
Unlike the west, online dating sites in Asia isn’t a big taboo, a lot of these girls work full time so don’t have enough time in the day to visit bars or other places to meet western men.
They also don’t have enough money to go out a lot and spend money on alcohol or food, making it harder for them to meet western men.
If you’re white or Asian in this article I’m going to tell you how to make the most out of Vietnam Cupid.
Why use Vietnam Cupid?
You’re reading this because you want to meet local Vietnamese girls, and there’s no better site than Vietnam Cupid.
If it doesn’t matter if you’re 20 or 55 years old, there are young girls for the younger males, and a fair share of 30+ women for retirees and older males.
It’s perfect for tourists who are coming here on holiday for a few weeks, and want to see what the country has to offer and get a few free girls along the way.
You can join up and start messaging Vietnamese girls a few weeks before you arrive, get there details and set up several dates, and even ask them to be your free tour guide if travelling alone.
The site lets you filter girls based on location, so whether you’re going to Hanoi, Ho Chi Minh, Da-nang or any other city, the city filter makes it super easy.
If it’s your first time in Vietnam girls are more traditional and they aren’t the type to respond to you if you go up and ask for their number, as they know other locals are watching and judging them.
Thanks to the Internet they have more exposure to western culture and many are seeking to date or even marry western men.
It’s also a great place to find yourself local tour guides who will spend the day with you and show you around, the best food spots and so on.
On my last 2 week visit, I jumped on the site 2 weeks before landing, setup around 12 dates, only ended up meeting 6 girls and slept with 4 of them.
You can create a free Vietnam Cupid account by clicking here.
What type of girls are on here?
Around 95% of the girls are normal hard working girls who are just looking for fun or a boyfriend.
They will work an array of jobs from waiting tables, general office work with some being career girls with decent uni degrees.
The other 5% will be ladyboys and working girls, thankfully you have the option to ignore all messages from ladyboys and even filter them so they cannot message you.
The level of English from each girl varies but you will quickly know if a girl is interested in you or not from the length of her replies and how personal the questions she asks you.
Here’s a screenshot I took in January 2019, many girls use the site daily (you can see who is last active by seeing their last login time).
Vietnam Cupid by default puts girls who are currently online at the top of the search:
Are girls hot in Vietnamese dating sites?
Why don’t you see from yourself (or view the image above).
Many people say that Vietnamese girls are the hottest girls from SEA, and Vietnam Cupid certainly has quite a lot of them. As with all dating sites, there’s a lot of hot girls, a good amount of okay girls, and a decent amount of girls who I would not think are attractive.
We all have our own tastes and Vietnam Cupid is the biggest dating site in Vietnam, and has something for everyone’s needs.
How to use Vietnam Cupid
After creating an account upload 3-5 photos of yourself clean shaven wearing some nice clothes.
I’m not talking suits but a nice t-shirt and pants. Avoid dressing up in sandals and vests as it makes you look like a broke backpacker.
Put a little info about yourself in the profile, don’t overthink what to write, Vietnamese girls are so friendly and they are not going to judge you for anything you write like western girls.
Once your images and profile is up, within the day you should receive 5-15 messages, but also go ahead and message girls letting them know a little about yourself.
As mentioned, join 1-2 weeks before hand so you can build a rapport with the girls you like and then meet them right away when you land, this is the best tip I can give anyone.
You should be able to setup 4-5 dates quite easily regardless of how you look.
You can create a free Vietnam Cupid account by clicking here.
Great article Harvie. I just spent 6 months in Vietnam and pretty much used Vietnam Cupid through my travels to meet girls.I met up with around 17 girls in that time.
I would suggest everyone to upload a good picture, in a suit and clean shaven. I was getting literally hundreds of messages when I fixed up my pictures and looked more presentable, and I’m 39!
God I miss Vietnam.
Like this article. I have met many Viet girls who flocked to answer my ad despite me being 50 and bald. Unfortunately I have 2 girls who are more than keen. One has taken me round a range of her family, had the quiz about my future, money, jobs etc and now seem to be focussed on me staying here and setting up house together. The other met me twice for dinner and then the next few dates she visited me in the hotel room and was straight down to business. She is now doing English lessons and says she has fallen in love with me. I’m no casanova or smooth operator so am totally shocked at being courted by 2 gorgeous girls….one is 38 and one is 41.
What city?
Where is good for a US guy?
And you think these girls are really in love with you lol.
Hi guys, I am Vietnamese woman living in Finland, I read this article and I just want to say guys, be honest by your heart, don’t play your game with any one because making cause will get consequences, be kind and make woman be happy and trust.
During,
All have needs and it a game of fairness. Girls are also looking for shortcut to better life. So meaning the girls are taking a risk which they knew. Trust me, they all know what they are looking for.
Still looking
i think they was thought “vietnamese is monks”. the different between races. kkk.
The measure of a Man is in how well he treats Women. When he is with a Woman, no matter what the relationship may be, she is under his protection in every way. He is responsible for her welfare and will place himself between her and harm to the cost of his life.
Signing up as a member is the only way to communicate with them?
Hi Pure, Yes you cannot read their messages unless you’re a member.
Thanks Harvie useful information first timer to Vietnam, I do agree this site is awesome to meet girls if you don’t know anywhere when you first arrive.
Glad I came across this site when I did. On my first tip to HCM it was so hard to meet girls and I ended up in the same backpacker places every night which sucked. I’m going again in 2 weeks, joined Vietnam Cupid a few days ago and I’ve managed to setup a few dates.
Where is the best place to take them, I’m not really sure where to go, is a movie or bar fine?
It really depends on the girl, I usually take them to a new sky bar as it sets a good scene and the drinks aren’t that expensive unless you go to a hotel skybar. If you like local food ask the girl to take you where you can eat the local food, cheap and they love it when you eat local food with them. It’s fun.
Harvie,
Please pardon my ignorance. Since Sept 18 till now I have spent 2 months separate vacations in Thailand, avoiding Bangkok ( I don’t know why!) and sticking to Pattaya. On my last trip for the Month of Dec 17, I spoke to a fellow farang who said he relied on dating sites. For my third visit to SE Asia, I went to the Philippines following advice I got on the dating site and have a couple of warnings which may apply only to the Philippines, 1. nearly everyone is after your money (surreptitiously). 2. They lie. Don’t we all to achieve our ends. but this is seriously lying (one girl started lying about her name, (her initials A. M.) and then about her photographs, and when I called her on it, as I started on a 2hr bus journey to surprise her- she decided to come clean and tell me that it was not her pictures and they were the picture of someone called C.T. The web weaved even more intricately – not only were the pics of CT very much pics of C T (her!!) but the pic offered by her as her actual photo (a Thai/philippina) was of an uknown female.
so for clarity – she used pics of herself (V pretty) -declared that the pics were false and backed that up with her false Thai Filipina pic. – then turned it all on its head by declaring the thai girl was bogus and the pics and circumstances were real! Who needs this crap!!
Harvie, having never used Thai sites. Would you say that contact a couple of months prior to arriving, or a couple of days before dating is the best method of operation?
As a 60+ farang, I had no problem in achieving my aims in 2017 with no money changing hands. I am wondering if I could improve my efficiency with less effort. What do you think?
Just read my own post. what a load of verbal!!
Paul, every dating site has girls like that, but the percentage is very small. To put it blunt, I think you’re giving off the wrong message and that’s why you’re attracting these types of girls. I’ve used dating sites all over Aisa and I have no problem meeting regular girls. It might have something to do with your age.
If you’re 60+ and focus on girls between the ages of 20-30, then yes they will want your money, why would they want to date you when they can date younger guys? (Sorry not being mean).
Now if you look for girls on the 40~ area, then you should have no problem finding what you’re looking for.
For your age I suggest joining earlier than most, maybe 3 weeks and start talking. How do you look like in your photos, are you in good-shape? That will matter.
In a nut-shell, gold diggers are looking for older men, so they will message you. Young/normal girls between the ages of 20-35 are not. 35+ girls are not either, so focus on that area, you can filter by age.
Paul, I am 60+ and you are spot on
I’m a person of indian ethnicity always, wanted to find out if the asian women not interested in any brown guys?
FYI i am an aussie by nationality.
Hey Sol,
You’ll be fine it’s just a little harder, it does help your Aussie by nationality. Take clean-shaven pictures and state that you were born in Aus, you should not have much of an issue as soon as they hear your accent.
Because indians are disgusting.
Im vietnamese and canadian..Is there any chance that vietnamese girls would get laid with a vietnamese men from outside and how easy would it be?
Yes they would, I have Vietnamese friends from the US who had no trouble picking up girls. Just mention in your profile that you were born in Canada and you’ll be golden.
This site works perfectly in Hanoi and Sagion as a 35 year old guy. If you go to Hoi Ann or Da-nang they are fewer options.
HCM girls seem to be much more laid back and willing to meet at a bar or at nighttime, in Hanoi they seemed a little more shy. Ended up spending an entire week with a 23 year old student in Hanoi.
Can’t wait to be back in 2018
Hi l”m Mudiwa, from Africa. Are the girls interested in African guys? I’m coming to Vietnam in December. I was in Thailand last holiday, it was really great, hope Vietnam will be good as well.
They are to some degree, if you dress well and be a nice guy they will be, but don’t be putt off if a girl tells you she does not like black guys, as you’ll hear that.
I am an American Black man and I know that some places they say they wont date black men. There is that problem here in the US and I understand why. I am still trying to figure out if going to Vietnam will be worth my time when I have so many other options. Let me know your opinion.
Asia is not really black-friendly, you’ll have a hard time but it’s not impossible. Your choices will be limited, they much rather prefer white or Asain.
Marcus ,for you a better place is Angeles city,Philippine.
Ok.. i will just say i totally disagree. i have been coming to the Philippines for over a decade. i’m a dark skin very cool black man from New York. And woman in the Phils have been very cool with me. I think because there are MORE white men traveling, and coming to Asia, thats what Asian women are more use to.. But they will embrace any man if he is good to her. Black men come and see for yourself.. Right now i’m in Manila. I have been to other cities, and provinces. it’s all good.
@Mudiwa Wangu – To be honest with you, most Viet girls will Not date black men or get into a relationship with one. A lot of SE Asians are still prejudiced against black people due to ongoing stereotypes and afraid to date them (especially if you are African born in Africa). It’s like this all over Asia. If you are a black man who was born in America or the U.K., it might be a little easier but still difficult.
Also one of the main reasons Viet girls will be afraid to date blackmen is that they’re terrified of the BBD (Big Black Dick) stretching out their tight little snappers. ;-P
Actually, i’m a black man (from New York) and many of the Asian women i have seen in South East Asia.. have been very curious about whether or not the “rumor” about what brother are packing is true. I have been asked. The last 31 year old woman i saw (who is a very decent every sunday morning church going woman) asked me if i’m big.. and .. when we met.. she found out for herself hahahaha.. So, they are not scared. & many want it. Don’t believe that they are not interested.. because i have experienced a different reality. Sometimes the “competition” will put out false information.. so they don’t have to compete hahaha
Would Vietnamese girls like to date me if my head is a little bit too oversized than a normal person? I’m a 20-year-old guy from Poland. Would that be a problem?
That kind of thing is a lot less of a big deal than Europe. You’ll be fine.
This site may be the best way to meet local girls as a foreigner in Vietnam without local friends. Let me provide you all with two tips. The first one is to add a little bit of Vietnamese in your profile (use Google Translate). Just add something simple like Hello or How Are you.
I find this gets more messages from the girls as they are surprised that you know a little bit of Vietnamese, then just tell them you’re trying to learn. The second one is what Harvie said, make sure you look good in your photos and are not wearing shorts or vests.
I had good luck with this site in HCM and Hanoi, met a few girls some of who I still talk with now.
My friend uses the language tip and swears by it, guess I got to try it now.
yes i agree fully with the article. I recently visited Vietnam for ten days. Before going i took a paid membership in Vietnam cupid.com. To my surprise i got so many responses. It was difficult for me to short list the girls as my period of stay was short. I made friend ship with 12 girls started chatting all most all wanted to get marry. some are divorced. I could convince them. After reaching Hanoi one of my girl offered to pick me from airport. I stayed in a hotel which confirmed i could take my girl friend for night provided they should show ID. I stayed ten days and could make love with six girls. I could have taken more . But I was tired. I had a wonderful time in Hanoi. Good company for sight seeing, companion for food and night club and good partner for sleeping. Look forward to visit Hanoi again.
I’m Indian. I am clean-shaven, handsome and very friendly. To the other Indian poster, you wouldn’t have a hard time in Vietnam as an Indian man but it’s important to be clean shaven, and soft-spoken.
Don’t try to pass as a fuckin’ Aussie or some Euto Trash,you can still get laid plenty in Vietnam.
I agree a lot of Indian men have bad hygiene and lack presentation skills. That doesn’t mean you need to look up to these madarchod Aussies to get laid in Gookland.
Who wants to be a son of a convict anyway when you are the proud scion of thousands of years old Vedic civilization?
(p. s. -I don’t hate Aussies. Just can’t stand their condescending crappola wrt Indians. Imo, some insecure Indian men deserve it.)
Eh, the majority of Australian’s at least in Newcastle aren’t racist toward Indians, though a lot of them stick in cliques and dislike communicating much outside of them. If they spoke more to a lot more Australian’s they would find they are in fact not racist.
I never said Aussies are racist. They are in fact, a fun people. I personally find them as chatty, gregarious blokes who you enjoy spending good time with, in a bar or other alcohol settings.
I’m a backpacker who’s been travelling for a long time, currently in Vietnam. My only objection was to the advice given to the Indian poster that he pass himself as an Aussie to improve his scoring chances with Vietnam girls. That’s really a stupid advice on so many levels. Most people including the Vietnamese can spot an Indian from a mile. I see so many Indian tourists and businessmen in Saigon everyday. In fact, on Bui Vien street, in the backpacker hub of the city, there are no less than six Indian restaurants. Indians and Vietnamese are very culturally different but seem to get along very well. A lot of Indian men living here are married to Gook girls. That’s not a good thing in my opinion. The resultant half-chinkie kids would look like mutants from outer space. One should marry within their culture, otherwise the kids end up messed in the head.
I get it that an Indian can become an Aussie citizen. But, that’s like 400,000 of them! What about the rest of us?
If your only experience of Indians is from the ones you met in Australia, you may not have gotten the opportunity to meet the real, charming Indian fellows.
You are aware that “Gook” is a very derogatory term aren’t you? Let’s not do the same thing we accuse others of doing.
Hey Harvie
Interested read. Curious about your option of Vietnamese girls. I’m Vietnamese Canadian, and my brother went to Vietnam and married one. They chatted weeks before going, only met one and than married right away. Both around 30 years old. Are their end goals just to get married? How many do you think they slept with before getting lucky finding someone to settle with? Are the girls clean and use protection? I’m convinced my brother should have explored the pond a little longer. I’ve been to Vietnam several times and I’ve never seen girls like what’s described here versus Thailand where it was rampant.
She is 30 and single, girls above the age of 28 in Asia are getting old and are quick to get married.
Is there a way to chat on these dating sites without gold/plat membership??
As a standard member you can look at girls and read messages only.
Thanks for the quick response! I’m actually thinking of subscribing as I will be travelling through SE Asia for a few months. However, are Indosesiancupid/Vietnamcupid all linked ? Or will I need to subscribe for each country? I’ve noticed that the charging rates are exactly the same. So this left me wondering?
Each site is focused on that country, best just to get the 1 month option at each place I think, I’d join about 7 days before you plan to visit each place.
Hey guys,
Thanks for the article and the discussion.
A few of you said “be well shaved”. I assume you mean a shaved face.
Here’s my question: I have a very hairy body (black hair). Would that be a problem?
Are Vietnamese girls okay with a man who has a hairy body and hairy down under?!
Thanks
Yes that’s fine. Just make sure your face is clean shaven, if you have hairy arms, just wear a shirt.
Hi Harvey. How do you play this with the girls, meeting 6 and having sex with 4. I assume most of them are hoping that you end up as a couple. Or at least meet more than once. So how do you do it? Do you tell them lies and then make excuses why you can not meet again ? I be been there myself and I don t know the best way. Especially in Vietnam they are much less likely to agree to one night stands if you were completely honest from the outset.
I never advise lying, it’s not a good strategy and not good for the soul. I just be myself which happens to be a nice guy and it goes from there. I never talk about sex or even mention one night stands.
I completely agree. But what do you tell them afterwards if you don t want to meet again? Or even beforehand in regards to what you are after? Or when they ask if you meet other ladies? Stuff like that?
I meet them before hand and if I don’t like their vibes then I won’t do a second date and tell them I’m busy.
I am 53 and travelling alone to Vietnam for a 2 week tour of the country in November.
Would the site work for me? Could I possibly meet someone in their late 20’s early 30’s at my age? I’d only be in each place a few dasy so would not want too long having ‘introductions’ – will that be a problem?
Lastly, I have a partner in UK – I wouldn’t want her to know I was on the dating site….any advice apart from being careful???
Cheers.
D-Dumb
If you’re only going to be at the places for a few days you’ll want to join a few weeks before hand to build up a rapport. If you’re 53 and want to get girls in their 20s, you’ll be to be open and say you’ll pay for everything and give them a little extra. 30s is very possible if you don’t look too old.
No way your wife is going to find out if you use a stock email address.
Hi All
I’m about to travel with my wife and we would like to hook up with a Vietnamese girl
what do you rate our chances? I know that in Cambodia girls are even too shy to undress in front of other girls so threesomes were a challenge
update, now rethinking Vietnam…better destination for the GF/wife experience?
Thailand is the best place, Vietnam you can but you’ll have to pay as the girl was be a freelancer.
Thanks Harvie
So Vietnam cupid , what app to use in Thailand?
don;t mind paying, i would have thought free would be a big ask
This one buck for Thailand: https://afarangabroad.com/thai-cupid-dating-site/
Hi there,
I wanted to ask how common it is for a Vietnamese to be a ladyboy?
I met this girl online and we have a really amazing connection but something feels a bit off.
she avoided video calls with me at first because she said she is shy but sending me video of her doing yoga is ok. also – she have quite big hands relatively to other girls worldwide. but the body and the shoulders looks like that of a girl. when I asked her about this [ wittily saying that it doesn’t matter to me if she is ] she replied that i’m quite open minded and that surprised her . Furthermore, in one of her pictures I saw a little tattoo in the diaphragm area
I don’t want to fly there only to find out the she is a HE…
any suggestion ?
Just ask her, it’s really that simple.
I am in my mid fifties and interested to know a Vietnamese or Thai woman for long term. I am originally from Singapore, with a North Indian ethnic background. I am presently a Canadian with a good established career.
What are my chances of finding someone from mid thirties to mid forties? Not interested in having children but if she has kids from a previous relationship it is fine, as long as they are young adults? Someone who is educated.
I am planning a trip in Dec, 2018.
Your honest thoughts.
If you trip is for a few months I don’t think you’ll have much problem, although Thailand will be easier than Vietnam for your situation.
I will be visiting hcmc in next week days for max 10 days. I am an Indian with beard.. what do you suggest me to find local girls .. can you suggest some good places for night party
Thanks for taking the time to answer all these questions and being an honest resource to all the guys writing questions, and all the guys getting ready for their first trip to VN and researching so they have the best time they can. You’re very much appreciated and respected for what you’ve created and are doing Harvie.
Sincerely
Sam
hello
Thank you for all your guides and information,
i just have one question, how to play your cards right? i mean if i take her to the sky bar, do you have any advice to advance fast?
Go with the flow and see how it goes.
Hi Harvie,
Wonderful information concerning nightlife in Vietnam. Concerning Vietnamese women and black men I, default to your expertise on this matter. However, in my experience in Asia (Japan, Philippines, Korea, Indonesia, Malaysia, Thailand…etc.) I never failed to have a great time. The only exception is Hong Kong. After the Chinese takeover Hong Kong became a little more friendlier to non European types. At present I have not visited Ho Chi Minh. After reading your comments and recommendations I think it will be on my bucket list real soon. Again, thanks for having a wonderful site.
Vietnam Cupid sounds like a good site. But, how do you know all the girls are over 18, or whatever the legal age is?
There is an age filter, I would assume you need to be over 18 to join the site which is common with most sites.
This is legit!! I’m in my mid 40’s 5’10” and 200 pds. I also have a full beard. On my first trip this year I setup a profile and was instantly chatting with woman. I narrowed it down to 2 as I was there for a week in HCMC. I arrived and met the first girl the next day..hot as hell and about 32 years old. She was my tour guide and companion for 3 days..the other one got sick. I was there over the New Year (Feb) so most of the woman went to villages with family. Traveled to Hanoi..opened app and start chatting…within 1 hour had a date and companion for night. In Da Nang same thing. Now…keep in mind I played this all off as wanting friends and meeting people. Once you charm them and you go on walk and they hold your arm your golden. I then say I’m tired and want to go to hotel to relax. All of them say..I will go…I say no its okay. I tell them they so pretty I may not control myself as I’m man and I leave soon so not good. They say…it okay..we just rest. When back in hotel its on. Join the site…and just have fun…if you are a fun guy it will happen. I have gone back a few times more already and I just let know I’m there and we meet up.
Hi Harvie,
you mentioned apps. Does it mean one have to buy a smart phone to communicate on Cupid? I would prefer email, because I have a dumb phone
Cupid is a website, they do send you email alerts each time you get a message.
What about Korean dudes? I’m korean australian
You’ll be fine. Just make it clear in your profile where you’re from and post some nice photos of yourself.
So I’m a dark skinned 30 year old Mexican American guy that’s in good shape and looks like he’s 23. I know I won’t have it as easy as the white guys but won’t have it as hard as the black guys. Where in the spectrum am I pecieved by the Vietnamese girls? Thanks for your time.
Hi Isaac, it will greatly depend on how you talk to them. My tips would be to ignore anything flirt-like chat until she feels comfy talking to you. I think the biggest problem non white people have is escalating chats too face. We have to take it extra slow and wait for her to give a sign.
Hi All,
I am coming to HCM with my guy friends, total 6 of us for 5 nights.
We have book Air BnB and have 6 rooms.
How to get good girls for overnight, or the best way is through this dating app?
It’s an easy way as you can talk to girls before you get here and setup plans, dates, meets etc.
Hello harvie I m indian belonging to sikh religion as it’s compulsory for me t have beard is there any problem for a man having beard
Nope, but some girls won’t like it so you’ll get less matches.
Harvie, can you make a post comparing how Thailand and BKK has changed since you first moved there? What’s better, what’s worse? For who?
Do these dating sites actually work?
They are the easiest ways to meet girls if you’re unable to walk to girls in public and try and get their number.
Mann, I’ve got to plan a trip soon. Not looking for action like that, just nice companionship that is appreciative. I’m, East Asian, Canadian, professional. Basically, want to take them out to nice restaurants, a good time. treat them with respect. I love the Karaoke. I’ll definitely consider this. These sites always seemed so fake but good to know it’s real.
Yeah all that is doable for sure, I’ve done it. There’s much taboo about dating sites but actually they are the easiest way to meet girls in another country online.
VietnamCupid is “pretty” well “stuffed” with woman interested in meeting a White European dude. I have made a profile last month, and dit not look any more for all the time. Now June 14th 2019, I just logged in and have 20 messages waiting for me. I did not even write to any of these woman neither looked at their profiles before. And I am 59. So chances are quiet high you get a date on VietnamCupid. And to be honest, with the new Thai Visa rules and hassle that comes along with it. I would prefer Vietnam over Thailand, especially for a long term and stay abroad relationship.
Best choices are made by people that read sites like this !!
Hello Community,
What do you think are the chances for latin guys. I am 5’6 only but as my ethnicity i would seem italian.
You’ll do fine for sure.
Hey guys,
I’m going to Hanoi for a week in April and have an extra week spare. My options are stay in Hanoi, go to HCM, try Bangkok, Manila or maybe Laos or Cambodia.
Any experience/ advice on this?
Cheers
What is your goal?