How to Cure Your Hooker-Phobia
I didn’t realize until recently that some men have trouble speaking or being around hookers, well I did, but never thought it an epidemic.
If you thought Ebola was bad, hooker-phobia is on another level, and what worse, it mostly affects white people!
Hooker-phobia: the term used to describe someone who has a negative feeling when talking to hookers or being in their presence.
If you suffering from hooker-phobia or know somebody who does, please share this article with them. I am hoping this gets into WebMD.
Are you a phaggot?
A phaggot is anyone who has low self-confidence, looks or may be a virgin, doesn’t lift, can’t grow facial hair and has a nerdy face.
I was a phaggot once. I think everyone is at some point in life.
Since a phaggot cannot muster the courage to talk to a regular girl, he has no chance of talking to hookers as they will actually pay him attention, and the phaggot will piss his pants.
The phaggot avoids hookers at all costs because of fear.
He does not know how to act when girls give him positive attention.
If this sounds like you, close your eyes, count back from 10 and ask a good friend to read the following.
Close your eyes.
Are they closed?
Good.
We are about to go on a journey to cure your phobia.
You’re in Bangkok.
It’s night.
You’re about to enter a go-go bar with dozens of hot Thai girls in skimpy clothing.
There’s a girl on stage looking at you, she is smiling and just blew a kiss in your direction.
You look behind because you cannot comprehend that someone you never met is giving you so much attention.
There is no one behind you.
Yes, she is blowing a kiss at you phaggot.
Her name is Lek, she is 23 from the region of Issan.
In 30 seconds she will come over and ask whether you’d like a drink, or if you’d like to fuck her in the pussy.
Don’t panic!
Don’t open your eyes!
Find your breath.
Inhale and exhale.
It’s going to be okay.
Get your shit together phaggot, she is about to approach.
Okay here she is.
“Hey Phaggot, My name is Lek, nice to meet you ka. Would you like to order a drink or would you rather fuck me in the pussy?”
Don’t be scared.
Tell her you only want a drink, and she will get you a drink and leave you alone.
“Okay one beer coming up, if you need anything else you’re welcome to call me over ka”
Okay, now open your eyes phaggot.
You’re cured.
You hold all power in a go-go bar. You can tell girls to stay on your table or to go away.
It’s okay to be scared or overwhelmed, everyone is their first time.
If you’re too nervous to talk to hookers because you’re a phaggot but would like to stop being a phaggot, just order a drink and sit by yourself, many people do this.
Focus on your breath, learn the surroundings and over time you’ll be less scared and will be able to open up.
Visiting your first go go bar or freelance joint is very much like jumping into an ice-cold bath.
The first several minutes can be terrifying.
But then you focus on your breath and your muscles relax, and you start to enjoy it.
Are you a White Knight?
“I don’t like going to the red light district, it makes me sad and depressed”
Some people can’t talk to hookers or refuse to visit the red light districts because they feel sad or down.
A lot of girls choose this path because out of all the options they have to make money, this one makes the most sense for them.
It’s not their first, fifth or tenth choice as a job, they don’t have the luxury of options.
When you have little education and your village has zero opportunities, are you expecting them to start drop-shipping or affiliate marketing?
Their choices are often to work 12 hours per day 6 days per week for $300 in some crappy job, or to earn $1,000-$5,000+ doing this for half the hours.
Both choices suck, but least they are brave enough to make that choice to support their family and children, and you have to respect them for that.
If that makes you sad or depressed then you need to get your head out the sand and look at the real world.
The world is not a nice place.
Instead of feeling sorry, why not support these girls by tipping them $5-$20 for talking to you, or buy them a drink which they get commision for, and then leave.
Feeling sorry helps nobody in this economy.
You don’t have to visit the areas and have sex with girls, you can go and just talk to them, tip them well and leave.
Get an inside view on how they live, why they do what they do and be thankful that you have a better opportunity in life.
I’m too good for hookers
” I don’t pay for hookers man, they pay for me”
Another form of hooker-phobia is men who detest hookers or anyone who sleeps with them.
They don’t detest because they think it’s morally wrong, they detest because they think it makes you less of a man and more of a beta.
If you have never slept with a prostitute before, it takes more balls to do it, than not to do it.
Not doing it is EASY.
Doing it the first time is like jumping off a cliff not knowing what is waiting for you on the other side.
To totally be against the idea usually means you have issues.
To do it means you have issues.
To not be against it, having experienced it, but to no longer do it is probably the safest place to be.
If you think it makes someone a beta or less of a man, you’re merely projecting yourself on others.
It’s too shameful
Some people refuse to visit because they think sleeping with hookers is too shameful, or even being in the area can hurt their credibility as a human being if they are seen.
You know, people get the shame thing all wrong.
The shame doesn’t come from others judging you, that is a small part.
The shame comes after when you learn the type of person you really are.
For some this process happens right after their first experience, for others it can take months, years, or decades.
The reason it takes time is that shame is attached to intense pleasure.
Most focus on the good and lock the bad in a box, because they are not ready to face it.
But you can’t do it forever, one day the box will open.
Am I saying you should pay for sex?
Paying for sex can lead you down a slippy slope, the next thing you know:
You’re banging ladyboys.
You’re a sex addict.
You’re broke.
Hookers are the forbidden fruit of this world.
You know you shouldn’t, but nobody will ever know, right?
Like Adam, your life will change when you take your first bite.
You’ll see relationships differently.
You’ll see yourself differently.
You’ll see the world differently.
It can literally change your life for better or worse depending on what you take away from it.
Some people try a cigarette for the first time and become addicted, some hate it while others rely on it during times of stress or pain.
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Harvie seeing Thai hookers are the best way to for fill any fantasys you want. It’s hard to find lady’s what will do everything you want these days. The most fun I have ever had has been with a Thai free lancer and bar girl. So far I bareback two freelancers. My Thai girlfriend can’t compete with the freelancers and bar girls that work on the street.
If your Thai girlfriend can’t complete it’s probably because there’s a communication issue in bed between both of you. She may not be better than them, but with the right talks she should be able to at least ‘compete’ after practice.
I would disagree that overall Thai freelancer the best to live out your fantasies, I think that would be western freelancers, but they do cost a lot more.
Harvie next time I want to get 1 dark African and 1 Thai girl and have a freesom with both of them at the same time . How do you think this will go . Do you think they Will get on together being different nationalities .
Sounds like a terrible idea if you want to enjoy it.
No harvie I would disagree about what you said about western freelancers . They don’t do that much . They won’t swollow . They tend to do fuck all in the bed room . At least you can bareback Thai bar girls . It doesn’t cost a lot of money to do .
Being able not to use a condom is not a pro, it’s a huge con. If you haven’t already you should get tested and best of luck. This is an example of someone opening the door and going too far. Saftey should always be top priority.
I understand HIV being a much bigger risk in tgailand than other places but truth be told, in all these years the risk for hetero men has been greatly exaggurated, and knowingly so. The chance is very very small.
However if you catch an infection like gonorrhea you are at much higher risk. Im a healthy penis there are no entrances for the HIV virus to enter the bloodstream, but after just a few days with gonorrhea the urinary tube is full of tiny wounds, risk increases severly. Never bareback if you suspect you have an infection, promptly buy one Cefixime 400mg and already the next day youre good to go. Gonorrhea infection is gone in 2-4 hours but the microscopic wounds need some time to heal.
Im not asking anyone to bareback anyway, that is for each and everyone to decide for themselves. I always go without and tested hiv negative not too long ago. My doctor has no agenda in the HIV debate, he is required to advice the use condom but he admitted that i was tested because i had a gonorrhea infection shortly before and then the DOH rules stated it was mandatory with HIV (2 tests, one is to rule out a very recent hiv infection) and syphilis tests. He gave a clear indirect confirmation that HIV is not considered a risk if no infections are present.
Bareback sex with Thai bar girls is a bad idea. Especially with the higher rate of HIV infection in Thailand, particularly among working girls. Not worth the risk. But a bareback blowjob is safe enough.
BJ is safer? No. How does HIV progress? One of the symptom is mouth sores and yeast infections in the mouth cavity. These things can be be very painful and increases the chance of leaking blood and virus into the mouth. Then the more severe reason: HIV quickly impaires the immune system so bleeding gums from bacterial infections becomes a problem, again lotsa viruses into the mouth.
Then you need an entry wound in the penis for the virus to enter, a tooth scratch is already a little risk. Pussies dont have teeth.
This may be an idea: Ask the girl if you can play with her mouth, this to probe for sores and yeast infections. While those are not always HIV it may be reason enough to wear a condom.
1) Never selfmedicate if you suspect a STD.
2) Yes a few unlucky people do get HIV infected by heterosexual intercouse in Thailand. Rubber up to be safe.
3) No the risk of getting HIV after receiving a BJ is minimal. Dont scare people. There are other unpleasent diseases but I wouldnt worry about HIV in this context.
Dr A
HIV risk is so low from heterosexual sex that it isn’t an issue. I’d be more concerned about that antibiotic gonorrhea floating around Thailand.
I’d guess that most guys that get HIV were banging ladyboys.
Hiv risk in straight men is low in both oral and vaginal, but not lower in oral.
As for self medication, some places it has been standard procedure to give rape victims 400mg cefixime (gonorrhea) and 1000-1500mg Azithromycin (chlamydia) without STD testing. Especially Cefixime rarely has side effects, Azithromycin otoh can cause painful yeast infections for an extended period in the mouth, not nice.
I been wrongly medicated after a STD urine test, got treated for chlam when i had G and naturally didnt get better at all, i dont see how self medicating can be worse than that.
NEO, yes i think ladyboys are the source, and that the whole thing about straight men having high risk for HIV comes from men experimenting with bi and gay sex already back in to 1980ies. It was not something most men would admit to, so they lied and it resulted in the warnings about big HIV risks for heterosexual males, up to 4 in 100 or 1 in 25, a risk that in reality is lower than 1 in 2500.
Resistant STD, something fishy been going on, Cefixime was withdrawn for some years and it was claimed it had lost much if its effect against the big G but upon its return to the market it was highly efficient. How come…
The lack of understanding in what causes resistance is still a problem, incredibly enough many doctors advice people to use things like Amoxicillin for a full 7 day cure or else resistance is certain, while the CDC says to take Amox only 3 days (for bacterial pneumonia) to avoid resistance, ie the opposite of what we always been told. Meaning we been PROMOTING penicillin resistance when we thought we were fighting it.
@Ploff – If you look at the medical statistics for contracting HIV from oral sex, it’s super super low. Someone would have to have multiple infected sores in their mouth. The risk is almost negligble. Is it still possible to get HIV through oral sex? Technically Yes. But highly unlikely. Your more likely to get struck by lightening than to contract HIV through oral sex. That being said, you can still contract herpes, gonorreah, warts, etc. somewhat easily through oral. But if u must bareback, a bareback blowjob is still the less risky option. But obviously there are still risks.
Never not use a condom with a prostitute, if you have gotten to the level where you have sex with freelancers without one, one should leave Asia.
Nice information
Is the number of prostitutes in Thailand is much more than other countries like Japan,Australia,..? Or in Thailand that’s too obvious to see them.
How do you distinguish hookers with regular girls during the day not the night?
You distinguish by the area you’re in. If you’re at a red light district then it’s safe to assume all girls in skirt are working. They don’t hang out everywhere all the time, only at certain times in certain spots. And in these spots, normal girls are rarely there.
Thank you man
So you think the number of prostitutes in Thailand is not that high?
There are lots of freelancers who go to different clubs. They may hang out in shopping malls too?
Thailand is higher than most places, but the number is still very low, like 1% or maybe less. No hookers hang out in malls, only nighttime in club and drinking areas, and only a few areas.
That’s really low.
Even in Pattaya and phukett you can meet regular Thai girls?
You can meet normal Thai girls anywhere, just stay away from red light districts or nightlife areas that focus on tourists. It’s really that simple.
What do you know about Vietnam and Vietnamese girls? I did a bike tour there and I adore Vietnamese girls like nothing else man!
I know they are great.
Hey I spent some time in the Philippines and college girls need to go to schorticle Harvieol and it is an honest profession! i got no problem with it….i believe you pay for it one way or another. may as well be with a girl you are helping thru college or to just eat. Great A
Interesting post. However..
– Thaigirls value money and what money can provide. There is a big grey area hooker – nonhooker. The concept of sinsod is by def pay for play. Dont blame them.
– Yes there are a lot of girls seaching for a score in Terminal 21 and Central Festival Patts. Looking for pray or a relationship which is basiclly the same thing. As soon as you clear customs at the Airport every girl you meet will think – how can I take advantage of this guy? But sometimes with love. Life is not black or white.
– Talk to serious hookers, they have far better lifestories to tell and its rewarding to connect. Humanity is sexy.
How many timed have you cold approached Thai girls and and what is usually your rejection rate?
Hookers are a gentleman leisure pursuit, just be nice and polite.
Sometimes I felt like the bars and gogos were depressing. It was because I watched too much porn.
Porn = really negative beta shit.
Hookers = not really that bad, just don’t tell your wife (to be).
A side effect of banging hookers is when you begin to see your friend with girls who look very much like a hooker, but he doesn’t know. Do you tell?
If they are a friend, yes you tell them.
What if they’re just drinking buddies?
That depends on the type of person you’re. If they are a friend of any level I’d tell them personally if I thought they did not know.
Just dont tell the girl that she looks like a Hooker. Looking like a Hooker is worse then beeing a Hooker.
Freelancers sometimes dont at all look like Hookers, which is a big part of the lure. Right?
Hey youre right, porn destroys the fun of bars and hanging with pretty girls. Its mainly the “1990ies kids” generation, they grew up with porn and were defined by it, you can see them coming in to bars and sit there in what looks like a bad mood, i already concluded for myself that porn addiction causes this dysfunctional behavior towards prostitutes and bargirls, and now you have the same personal experience to support ny unscientific conclusion. Good.
Still, i laugh at those NOFAP guys who think they can treat even erectional dysfunction with it but i am a firm believer that NOFAP TO PORN increases pleasure and makes people happier and removes grumpiness. Porn abuse and porn addiction are medical conditions imo.
In the days of the cavemen alfa males could chose any female and bone her, only the useless guys had to jerk off, from that we may have retained a deep primitive instinct that tells us we are useless men when we sit and jerk off to porn, and so we develop bad mood and grumpiness. Good porn can be nice on occasions but more than 1-2 times a week may be a dysfunction already.
Not carving any of this in stone, much of it is speculation.
Another good post. I couldn’t stop laughing. The funny part about the whole article is that most men visiting or living in Thailand “don’t” have a hooker phobia. More like they have a Hooker Addiction. Maybe the next blog post can be “How to Cure Your Hooker Addiction.” Lol…
But even so, like the blog suggests, there are still a certain amount of expats and tourists who go to Thailand who are totally against shagging hookers. Namely religious missionaries, humanitarian workers, and a large swath of digital nomads (gonads) living in Chiang Mai. Most of these types I’ve mentioned either have wives or serious girlfriends and couldn’t fathom paying for sexxx with a hot babe at Nana, Soi Cowboy, or Patpong. They’re usually too scared to try it even though they wish they had the balls to do it. So they rather talk shit about those of us who partake in these forbbiden activities.
You know the old saying, “Don’t knock it before you’ve tried it.” In my opinion, it’s hard to beat barfining a solid 10 stunner from Crazy House at Soi Cowboy or a turbo hottie from Billboard Agogo on 3rd Floor of Nana Plaza and goin balls deep in everyhole before barfining another one an hour later once you re-load your jizz gun 😉
Yes the hooker addiction is in future blogs posts. I feel I might need to get that addiction before I go and write about it.
I always thought you had a hooker addiction.
Honestly, you don’t post much about your personal life on the blog, so not sure why I thought that…
Oh yeah… BECAUSE YOU LIVE IN BANGKOK!
I’d have thought the reason would have been because I write this blog, not that I live in Bangkok :D.
Whatever happened to free sex off dating sites or hanging out at malls pestering “normal” (hate that description) girls.
Now you’re back to hookers and celebrating it? And you’ve been here 6yrs?
Sorry mate, that’s just…
Shameful.
I think you missed the message.
It’s the equivalent of shagging council estate slags or low class gypsy slagdogs in the UK.
Clearly you dont understand how SEA works. A Univerisity professor told me that Thailand is a matriachy. One could perhaps dispute this. But if you spend much time in Thailand its obvious that the ladys decide how they want to interact. It all about leverage, and that sometimes means money. Or they define in detail what they are entilted to in a relationship. Deal with it, or stay in Europe/America?
Lol love it, great photo of that girl.
Being a prostitute is a ‘brave choice’? Seriously? There’s something wrong with a society where women have to do that ‘to support their family and children’. Surely?
Welcome to Earth.
Fat bald headed old bastards with white skin are attractive to young brown skinned girls? Bullshit! Only a mug would believe that, only a pimp would claim it. Their money is what’s attractive. To you as well. You’re a fraud, dealing in slavery; the exploitation of an impoverished people. Creep.