What are Indonesian Women Really Like?

Indonesian women are some of the most beautiful I have ever seen.

This article is a guest post written by G Freedom.

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Unlike other nations in South East Asia, there is great genetic diversity in Indonesia. The people are a mix of Malay, Chinese, Indian, Arabic, Dutch, Japanese and Polynesian. Evey shape, size, skin tone and type of sexy you can think of is to be found here.

You’ll also find every kind of personality type here from good little church girls to sex mad women with an obsession with Western men and money.

Indonesian women, What are Indonesian Women Really Like?It’s pretty hard to generalise when talking about this many people, but there are still some things that most Indonesian girls have in common. That’s what I plan to talk about in this article.

Who am I to teach you about Indonesia women?

I moved here when I was 22 and have been here now for close to eight years. During that time I have been with lots of Indonesian women and dated two long term.

I also know many more on a non romantic level. The same traits can be found throughout.

Common Traits Indonesian Women Share

The Desire For Manly Men

Indonesian women are very different from Western women. They will not play bull-shit power games with you or try to take over the power in the relationship. They look for stronger, more dominant men who are going to take charge. Make decisions and lead them. Feminism and other mental brain orders have not come down into the culture, and women very much still go for the beefy muscle guy.

I once wrote a poem for an Indonesian woman and she called me a pussy and broke thing off with me. That’s a perfect example of what I’m talking about. Indonesian women will not be comfortable in a position of leader ship or control over a man. You need to be firm and in charge if you want her to stick around. She’ll respect you for it.

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Do be aware that this means you will pay for everything, all the time. It’s just the way things are done here and I have no problem with it.

Keep a close eye on appearance

Beauty and looks play a huge role in Indonesian culture. You could argue they do anywhere, but it is much more intense here.

As a result Indonesian women pay a lot of attention to how they look. Salons are everywhere. Skin treatments, fake nails, makeup, designer clothes and all manner of cosmetics are booming industries here. The result is a population of women who are very feminine, pretty and know how to take care of themselves.

Indonesian women, What are Indonesian Women Really Like?

This also means Indonesian women will place their entire value as human beings on how they look.

This is great for a piece of arm candy in the mall, but can get frustrating when you want to do outdoor stuff like diving and surfing. Most girls I have met will take a pass if it ends up running their make up.

Note that this is not always true outside of big cities where a more traditional breed of woman can be found. I can only speak from my experience which is dealing with women from Jakarta, Bandung and Bali.


If you plan to get serious and commit to her (believe me, you only think you’re immune to this idea). You need to understand that religion plays a massive role in an Indonesian woman’s life.

She may not actually be a that religious, but traditions and her parents approval of you is a big part to the success of your relationship. Indonesia is the largest Muslim nation on earth, so most of the women you meet here will be of that faith.

If you aren’t willing to convert in order to lock it down you can forget about it. Not only will she leave you, it is against the law for her to marry you unless you are also a Muslim.

Don’t worry though, you won’t have to learn Arabic or anything like that. $50 and a quick visit to the temple they will convert you to good Muslim anywhere in Java. You’ll just have to take one for the team, an it will likely be worth it in the long run!

The Love of Fun

I have never met an Indonesian woman who does not love to have fun. Despite being seen as somewhat more traditional and perhaps even religious, this is all a lie.

Underneath you will find the majority love to party, travel, have wild and passionate sex. For many of the women who are dating a Western man for the first time, she will be enthralled by the devil-may-care.

Fuck it let’s see what happens attitude you bring to the table.

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Indonesian women are a lot of fun to date. They combine a traditional, wifely, motherly role with a wild side I have never encountered anywhere else to date.A great balance!

You’ll also rarely hear them complain or say negative shit. They just kind of shrug and accept that sometimes life deals you a bum card. Indonesian women just smile and get on with it.

Bule Mania

No, that’s not a typo. I said “Bule” which is the Indonesian word for Western man.

If you are from the West, and particularly if you are milky white (not being racist, just telling you the facts). You are going to have an endless parade of interested, sexy Indonesian women sitting on your knee during your time here.

Unlike Thailand and other tourist destinations, Indonesia is still somewhat off the map and the ratio of tourists per local. WAY lower than any other place in South East Asia.

You can find plenty of girls in clubs or on dating sites. If you are coming here in a few weeks, setting up a few online dates before you come is easy and almost certain to get you laid.

That means as a Westerner you are going to get a lot of attention from Indonesian women. It’s the good old law of supply and demand at work as always, this time working in your favour!

I’ve had women in bars walk up and put their number in my pocket. This was while I was clearly standing there having a chat with my girlfriend. This is a good example of the dating scene in Jakarta.

Update: this article was updated in Jan 2019 for below.

30,000 or 70,000 depending who you ask. Nice tropical islands with hot volcanoes, unspoiled tropical reef and staggered rice paddies climbing into the clouds.

And some of the hottest Indonesian girls on the planet.

I first arrived in Indonesia in 2007 planning to spend a year here teaching English and writing a novel. Here I am 7 years later, the book still isn’t done but there have been many epic adventures since with plenty of Indonesian girls along the way.

Oh and lots and lots of fun hookups with stunningly beautiful Indonesian women.

Indonesian girls have it all – looks, charm and a fun-loving attitude. They have the unrivaled ability to make you fall for them, dreaming of spending your life savings to build a house in a rice paddy in central Java.

Just so you can keep receiving all the benefits that come from having an Indonesian woman in your life.

Indonesian women, What are Indonesian Women Really Like?

So after 7 years of this I’ve decided to write a guide to Indonesian girls. How to meet them, how to charm them and if/when to make them your girl or girlfriend.

Welcome to 150 million Indonesian women. 50 million of whom are gorgeous and 49.99 million of whom will be keen to meet up, chat, and maybe even hook up with an expat.

A Word of Caution

Before you come to Indonesia with pockets full of dollars and a suitcase of condoms. You should be aware that sex before marriage is technically illegal in this country.

It happens A LOT. But you should make an effort to keep things under wraps if you do meet a special little Indonesian lady you want to shack up with. Which also happens A LOT. You should know the law and have the appropriate papers.

Indonesia is a Muslim nation. While it is 100% safe and very liberal there are always kill joys on a power trip who what to make the Western infidel pay. You definitely do not want to be doing any form of public shagging, beach groping or french kissing. Just show respect and you will be fine.

Enough of the boring legal stuff. Indonesia is arguably one of the most under rated destinations on the planet. Living here for seven years I’ve never had so much fun. It is, under the surface, a very, very naughty place.

Where to Meet Indonesian Girls

The first place I would suggest meeting Indonesian girls is on dating sites. Indonesian Cupid seems to be the most popular with tons of hot Indonesian girls who will be more than happy to meet. You would be best off pipe lining dates a few weeks before you arrive so you can get going as soon as you land.

There are very few ladyboys on these sites so don’t worry about that.

Be warned that like all Asian dating sites, there are a small percentage of hookers.

They will be easy to spot usually. You can block them and focus your time on normal Indonesian girls.

You can read my guide on Bali hookers and hookers in Jakarta for more info.

Outside of online

What you will notice as soon as you set foot in Indonesia is that there are young, attractive Indonesian women absolutely everywhere.

Indonesia has a very young population with 300 million people. If you are coming from a nation that isn’t so populated you can feel like you have been handed the key to another realm. Where pretty Indonesian girls in droves are walking around and lots of them are paying attention to you openly and overtly.

Unlike Thailand, Cambodia and other destinations in Asia. outside of Bali Westerners are still a rarity here. Indonesia is a huge country and doesn’t get anywhere near the amount of travelers as other more popular places do. Since most backpackers are too broke to buy a flight and the visa is limited to 30 days.

If you do plan to visit Bali then read my nightlife guide on Bali and the best red light district areas.

This of course works to the magical advantage of those who do have the money. If you are willing to spend and are willing to come to this great country – you enjoy its delights.

Indonesian women, What are Indonesian Women Really Like?

Meeting Indonesian women isn’t hard at all because they are everywhere. At all times and I can personally guarantee you they are some of the friendliest, most approachable women in the world.

Nobody will blow you off or make you feel bad for starting a conversation. Often they will attempt to start the conversation with you. Even if it goes no further than that there will never be any rudeness or ice-queen blow offs. Unless you are a lecherous drunk and come on too strong.

In Jakarta and Bali there are endless bars, nightclubs and coffee shops where you could easily offer to buy an Indonesian girl a drink. (The universal signal for “I want to have sex with you, are you interested?”).

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Malls with truck loads of single Indonesian ladies dressed to the nines. Some are hoping you have the actual balls to walk up and ask them on a date.

Good night clubs in Jakarta are X2, Red Square or Blowfish. For good expat friendly bars and live music check out Eastern Promise or Star Deli.

If you want to meet freelancers then Blok M is your first choice.

So now you know where to meet the ladies, what should you be expecting?

Cultural Dating Norms

There are plenty of young, free women in Indonesia who are into casually hooking up and expect no boy friend what so ever. They’re what’s known locally as “ayam” (chickens). You’ll find them in every club, bar and 5 star hotel known to be frequented by expats.

They aren’t hookers looking for a payday, but more likely are just out to have no strings attached fun. Keep in mind they will want you to pay for drinks and a taxi home.

If f you do start seeing a woman often there are two things you need to be aware of. It is said that if an Indonesian woman goes on a third date with you, she has already decided you are fit to be a husband in the future.

It’s possibly exaggerated but you need to be aware that things move a lot faster here than in Western countries.By date 4 or 5 you are in solid relationship territory.

Meeting the parents and family is an absolutely clear signal that you intend to get married. Do not do this unless you are serious with her. Indonesian families do not approve of nor want their daughters bringing back multiple boyfriends to the house. If your Indonesian girl invites you over, think twice before accepting.

There is a cultural game going on here that most do not know about.

If you do happen to find a “nice girl” who has never met a Western man before and is from rural Indonesia, play nice. If you deflower her and aren’t interested in anything long-term you are literally ending her chances of ever finding a husband at home.

I’ve witnessed this go badly wrong more times than I want to think about. These hot little sex kittens are also real human beings with hopes and dreams. Remember that.

If you want to go on an absolute endless fucking spree, stick with the liberal Indonesian girls in Jakarta, Bali and tourist areas. Find out where to get the best sex massage in Bali and how to meet local Bali women.

They know what they’re getting into and it’s all above-board. Half of them have a list of dozens of expats on their phones anyhow. That way it’s all fair play.

How to Pull Indonesian women

Indonesian women are no different from women the world over when it comes to the how-to. Be funny, tease them, push-pull them, buy them a few drinks, be a gentleman but don’t be weak. It’s the same everywhere in the world and if you don’t know that, you should read up about it.

One thing that is absolutely massive here is text game. You need to be using BBM or an Android or you are missing out on potentially thousands of Indonesian girls. People are glued to their phones here 24/7 to the extent it is like a part of their bodies. To be effective in the dating game you need to be connected.

Apart from that just follow all the normal rules – dress well, be cleaned, brush your molars and make her laugh. The rest is as easy as pie to find yourself a nice Indonesian girl.

Enjoy Yourself But Don’t Be a Sucker

Indonesia is one of the best yet most under rated countries on earth. I was unsure I even wanted to write this. I don’t want people to know about it so I can keep it for myself and the few others who are here.

However here it is.You’ll have more fun here than you can imagine. Just don’t go in like a blind idiot and fall in love with the first hooker you meet at a bar or you’re asking for a world of pain.

Have fun, but as with everywhere in Asia, keep your eyes wide open and I hope you meet hundreds of sexy Indonesian girls. If you think I missed something out please leave a comment below.

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Summary of Dating Indonesian Women

You will find whatever you are looking for in a woman here.

It is impossible to generalize this many people, and this is just a rough guide to some common traits I have seen. Indonesian women are all different and every one has their own little trait.

You can find everything from wild party girls who stay up for days taking pills and dancing to traditional Javanese housewives who just want to have children and read the Koran.

They are women like, charming, fun-loving and mostly submissive and care for you.

If you’re thinking of dating an Indonesian woman, keep the above points in mind and give it a go. Life is for the living and generally if you treat them well, they will treat you like a king.

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