What are Indonesian Women Really Like?
Indonesian women are some of the most beautiful I have ever seen.
This article is a guest post written by G Freedom.
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Unlike other nations in South East Asia, there is great genetic diversity in Indonesia. The people are a mix of Malay, Chinese, Indian, Arabic, Dutch, Japanese and Polynesian. Evey shape, size, skin tone and type of sexy you can think of is to be found here.
You’ll also find every kind of personality type here from good little church girls to sex mad women with an obsession with Western men and money.
It’s pretty hard to generalise when talking about this many people, but there are still some things that most Indonesian girls have in common. That’s what I plan to talk about in this article.
Who am I to teach you about Indonesia women?
I moved here when I was 22 and have been here now for close to eight years. During that time I have been with lots of Indonesian women and dated two long term.
I also know many more on a non romantic level. The same traits can be found throughout.
Common Traits Indonesian Women Share
The Desire For Manly Men
Indonesian women are very different from Western women. They will not play bull-shit power games with you or try to take over the power in the relationship. They look for stronger, more dominant men who are going to take charge. Make decisions and lead them. Feminism and other mental brain orders have not come down into the culture, and women very much still go for the beefy muscle guy.
I once wrote a poem for an Indonesian woman and she called me a pussy and broke thing off with me. That’s a perfect example of what I’m talking about. Indonesian women will not be comfortable in a position of leader ship or control over a man. You need to be firm and in charge if you want her to stick around. She’ll respect you for it.
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hahaa I do agree, but some Indonesian women are not like that.
Totally agree with all points mentioned above!!
What an observation!
I am new in Jakarta and I have no other words to say then ” ABSOLUTELY AGREE”
They have no values at all.!
I’m agree with that!!! hahahaha the part fun is most agree!! yeah maybe if u meet them for the first time, they will look not interest about fun, party, sex but if u know them already they really WILD!!! hahahaha lol..
Married one. Worst decision of my life and my one regret. I was even warned by Indonesians themselves. Im sure there are good women out there but most of the ones I encountered before and since are narcissistic psychopaths. Suck out your soul, spend your money and basically fuck up your life. So gents be careful. Malay women are a much better bet.
Watch out for red flags, if your gut feeling says no, then get out quick.
I married a Chinese woman it started bad but hope was she gets better and she did in one way but bad even later, killed my life and now have a big problem getting rid of her. Not that easy as think as you don’t why. Anyway I am looking now for a new women and this time I will more make sure if somebody is even willing to try to change, willing to learn your language, learning to cook your food etc is all about if somebody wants to learn something new or who find always excuses for anything. This is your part where you should part or your life will become a disaster just like married a western women more or less catastrophic. Money is all they love to talk about always want to go shopping and want to buy brand names and want to eat the best only but home they eat only cheap rice, and cheap garbage dirty greens with nothing else in their food. I know it all and have to agree with you sexually it could have a lot better as well but at least she and other Chinese women have been better when it comes to open end sex for her but don’t use it a lot more rarely so no matter what you self-getting nothing nearly.
Very true. They understand us better than we shall ever understand them. Like Thai they can make you feel very low, and that gives them the opportunity to “raise you up.” That’s known as manipulation. Don’t let them do it. Make them rise to your standards.
Indicators you have a good Indonesian woman (non-Muslim) in your life that you should hold onto and advice for keeping her:
1) She tells you about and asks your permission before engaging in mixed-company social activities (i.e. clubbing with her friends without you—yes, she certainly has many close, male friends that have been in her life long before your ass ever came along)
2) Apologizes for and seeks your acceptance for having opposite sex friends (annoyingly so)
3) She guards her heart close and does not give or declare her affections quickly (be patient and persevere; it will be worth it)
4) She appreciates any tastefully-done, public act of devotion demonstrating her special place in your life (i.e. Facebook status is very important to her and you better include pictures of her)
• caveat: do not do this until 3) above has occurred or you will unleash a shrieking banshee from the nether regions.
5) Do not expect her to have pre-marital sex and always treat her respectfully and sweetly (makes getting it that much more fulfilling sexually)
6) You have to let unpredictability and drama roll off you; otherwise, you’re done—permanently.
7) You must be able to read between the lines or you’ll never understand her feelings towards you
8) You have to demonstrate yourself as being witty, humorous, and able to read between the lines
9) She is not laughing at what you said, but the way it makes her feel—she’ll often laugh when embarrassed or happy
10) Follow her lead in any conversation and do not dwell too long on “serious” topics—she can only handle your uptight, emotionally-dependent personality in small doses
11) She wants you to compliment her and be fawning in your attentions towards her (this doesn’t make her high maintenance, just insecure—most women are after all)
12) Think before you react to any situation—your assumptions and conclusions regarding it are probably incorrect (unless, of course, she’s shagging your best friend and you walk in on them)
Good Luck!
Indonesiens womens are manly good womens , friendly , open minded and fun to get along with i have a lot of good indonesiens womens friends ,but when it comes to relationship i would state that it is a different thing … First of all they are really too much about physical appearances especially when it comes to ” bule ”
For them a man must be tall muscle and have the face of brad pitt if it possible ,, and i barely exxagerate by saying it . They often won’t give a shit about the man’s personnality if it doesn’t fit their physical standard even though the guy is interesting .. as written above by the author they would rather go toward the beefle muscly guy . Second they are in my sense too submisive
For them the man must lead everything , take all the decisions take care of her and her family during this time they would take care to manage the house , manage the budget and bring careness to their mens .. ok right but it lacks of something to make blossom the relation ..
We also need to have some debate sometimes withing the realation , express some kind of different ideas ,, we cannot to be agree about everything .. well most of Indonesiens Womens won’t dare contredict you or say to u anything because you are the MAN ,and if you say that it must be true then they woud follow your opinions even though they are totally disagree . I would add that a “nice ” guy won’t be successfull here
As the author said a man must not to be romantic she would think he is a “pussy ” and not a manly guy but he has to know how to lead his wife and provide security for her and her family .. i think this mentality do not really fit the western mentality, except if the man want to have the total control ,but if you want a balanced relationship better to look away .
@Feb44 most girls are like that
Maybee in USA they are pushy a lot more
But most girls WHILE IN REALTIONSHIP will agree and be submissive, and would stay in a bullying relationship where a man calls her “U are worth nothing” – she starts to believe that, and cant break up with him.
She can have 1000 guys DMing her on instagram but her brain is stuck like that – her BoyFriend is HER, without him shez nothing.
Its actually an article written by american woman (while im also in europe). Me living in Europe is actually hearing from friends/female friends or female friends of my sisters = all the girls in relationship just say as the guy says.
They do as the guy pleases.
They wont argue.
They wont have opinion.
Until, it may or may not happen, usually 99% of time happens: SHE shows her REAL FACE after of 1/3/5/10 years of Realtionships/or even Marriage, she will force u to HATE HER and want to LEAVE HER
U perhaps had short-term few-weeks-2-3months relationships so u only THINK THEY WILL BE SUBMISSIVE FOR LIFE:
Maybe if she dont work anything if her LIFE depends on u, Her Food, Food for her children, but if u go there as a stranger/ u most likely work online/remotely/freelancing if she looks it up and u help her work = she earns money and becomes independent she will throw u like as if u a piece of shit to her.
you are absolutely right mr. Michael D.
if you wanna get good indonesian woman you must be hold on some good rule especially for traditionally educated women.
if you wanna meet some traditional women , you must go out from big city like jakarta, bandung or bali. try to visit this city : yogyakarta, solo. or if you wanna find something interesting women, you can go to SUMATRA, they are have different etnic from javanese or bali. cause most of them are like malay
regards
indonesian womens.
Michael D. what u just said is exactly what 100% of the women around the WORLD GLOBALLY are.
ANd anyways 10-20% of things u say, if guys keep it, again ANYWHERE in the world, will stay virgins.
U live once, one day u die, and u keep her UNTIL MARRIAGE? Ok.
Like she doesnt want sex, she never masturbated? She never thinks about sex with me? THEN LEAVE. If u are not that smart and are stupid enough to follow ur rules/cultures of no-sex then U LIVE IN THE WRONG WORLD, or have TOO LOW IQ which turns me OFF anyways, about any woman.
I mean falling in love is to be HURT,so she better enjoy it while it lasts.
This is deeper and rarely who understands it…
…If she falls in love MORE THAN ME, she has higher chances of getting hurt and me leaving, while if she left – i wouldn’t be hurt -but she wont leave if shes LOVING ME
So if i LOVE HER MORE, if she leaves = i WIll be hurt.
So waiting until marriage is like u never lived on planet Earth.
This fake life is meant to chase good emotions and feel them.
What a thought, Mr. Michael!
Very well-said and wise words.
I am Indonesian woman. And i’m proud to say that my man (which is white one-bule) is respect me at all.
He never ask for sex (yes, we’re not marry yet) because he knows that in Indonesia, it would be illegal.
He respects me and my family also.
He go to church with me every week.
He calls for my Mom and Dad, and sometimes had a deep conversation with my sister & brother.
He brings his family from Europe just to met my parents.
He sometimes spent some money to buy me a flower, a flight ticket, a ring, even a car before we’re marry simply just to say that i am worth to lived with-in the future..
There are a few things we keep in our life (me & my Man) :
1. You’ll get what you deserve. Your spouse/girlfriend/boyfriend/ are simply a reflection of your life.
2. Respect people, and you’ll respected by them.
3. Karma is real. Life is just like a boomerang; what you give, you get.
Thank you and have a bless day!
I meet an Indonesian Woman from Bandung. For like 2.5 years things went good at first but things got little sketchy. All those ” family problems” turn out that she was seeing other guys. Later found out she was giving B.J to some guy from Albania. And saw her say ” love you” in her language. I know she was divorced by her husband few years back due to cheating to him. Even though she was pretty but so stupid at the same time I found out all her shadiness. Just because She profess to be Muslim doesn’t mean she is holier then thou. Behind scenes She’s a undercover slut. All keep it low profile. Not all Indonesian woman are like this but be very careful Men.
Its crazy. I think you talk about my gf!!!
She is a Whore……I knew few of her friends but I find out one of her friends did the same she is also Sundanese who married a Chinese guy but now She cheated her Ex-Husband for a Bule ( you know*). Her Rich friends go for Bule and married them. At least they are happy ( unless they also see other dudes). I saw her some time ago boy she is showing off her gold jewelry and her very expensive car, of course, she still drives her mortal bike. I told her close friends about her only one had compassion. She seems to be from some type of band. I remember always hear how much they hate the Dutch mistreatment on the natives and Chinese. Back when Indonesia was called ” Dutch East Indies” but at least the Dutch people were more disciplined with their Catholic/Calvinist type tradition marriages. And hold it with honor compare to even back then this Indonesian woman was known to have affairs with their husbands back. No wonder the Dutch despised them reputations count a long way, of course, the Dutchmen fuck Indonesian woman and creating Indo-People ( mutts). Indonesian woman weakness is lust and money with None-Indonesian Men. I remember her hating* Indonesian men for some odd reason, in fact, she beat up a few of them for flirting her and yet she will suck a cucumber to a Bule such hypocrisy. sorry, you reply you late but I learn an available lesson once again silly of me for loving a slut from Bandung, Indonesia. Besides her pussy smells like hot tuna fish with cottage cream.
I’m just going there, first time already have a date set with great looking and a lot younger lady, she’s giving a hint that she’s in for serious relations but all the “red flags” are up already as she seem to have a lot of activities ongoing… Anyway I’m in for experience or and fun anything else is bonus. Any hints what to do and what are the things to do or don’t…
Nice, keep us updated on what happens!
I had an well-educated Indonesian girlfriend living/working in Macao.
We knew each other from a dating site. She pretended that she was single living alone. After a few months talking every day I got really feelings for here. After 1 year we made a roundtrip trough Java. From Jakarta to Bali. Everything was awesome and I was totally in love.
After being back in Europe and she back to Macao a guy added me on FB. I though hmmm okay I don’t know him but hey a new friend from Macao.
After a while he send me a message on FB and found out that this guys was the boyfriend of my girlfriend who was still living with her together for 8 years……….
Damnnnn my dream world collapse on that moment. I was devastated by knowing this. Never thought the she could do this to a honest person who was loving her so much and wanted to give her a good live here.
That was here first big lie. After a while I gave her a second chance but was always afraid what next.
A year was passing by with more small lies where she denied all even having proved.
It’s really scary to have a relationship with someone who is really believing in their lie.
Still I know there are a lot of good decent Indonesian woman’s out there.
Thanks for sharing Jack. It’s better to have love and lost than never loved at all.
Excellent article! Bali here I come!
Just a small quibble. Don’t ever believe that these girls are only interested in white guys. It is delusional. How do I know? I am brown and have not managed to find any guy (foreigner) with a hotter gf than mine. in 10 years and counting. I also live in Asia and when am out an about, no shortages of girls. Prior to my current gf, I have had some seriously hot asian gfs and I always have the Asian boys joke in mind when I dated them…no way would I be seen dead with a broke, lower class asian girl. Asian boys like to joke that foreigners can have those.Bet you know this?
Another thing. When you are always paying, it is not manly. You are being made to pay as you go. Heed Jack’s warning.
I know many Indonesian women for ages, all are either married or engaged or with Boy friends and then having secret affairs with other guys too. They are so characterless that they even have no shame to trap a married guy and ruin the lives of other women. I heard stories from their mouths and they fight like bitches for husbands and boy friends of other women. Its not only about good looks they are easily accessible if you are white and have lots of money. They show themselves submissive but the reality comes after marriage and you will see how indirectly they will become your master. Very cunning and clever women to make people dumb in all relationships. Religion does not play any role in Indonesia, its about race and whether she is a Muslim with hijab or Christian in skirt all are same. I know Christian lady who became Muslim to divorce her husband to get a white guy as quickly as possible and I know a Muslim in hijab granny having affair with one guy while her children and husband see her most modest character in family. One thing what I hate about these superficial women are they play a victim and knows well how to pretend to be most vulnerable and innocent. They will burn you, bully you and if you say they were wrong they will immediately apologize and wont argue BUT wait after sometimes they will stab you bigger than before and again will immediately say sorry. Never trust when they say sorry as they never meant it, its just to make you fool and shut you up. If you want to ruin your sincere love and trust or a friendship then go for these women otherwise world is big take any women of any part you will have best companion or friend out there but never trust Indonesian woman, that’s my sincere advice.
SK tells the most truth here:.. “They are so characterless that they even have no shame to trap …… and ruin the lives of others…. They show themselves submissive but the reality comes after marriage and you will see how indirectly they will become your master. Very cunning and clever women to make people dumb in all relationships…. these superficial women play victim and they know well how to pretend to be most vulnerable and innocent.”. (it is like you come under a spell)
“They will burn you, bully you and if you say they were wrong they will immediately apologize and wont argue BUT wait after sometimes they will stab you bigger than before and again will immediately say sorry. Never trust when they say sorry as they never meant it, its just to make you fool and shut you up. If you want to ruin your sincere love and trust or a friendship then go for these women…” (you can also be corrupted by them)
Heed the warning about Indonesian women… you can be very much like prey getting caught in a spiders web.
Totally agree with S.K
I’m Indonesian woman and I can’t even deny your outburst. It’s sad that any of you might get the bad treatments from my fellow folks, I’ll apologize for their wrongdoings. They are just being a human, and a women. Don’t be too hard on them.
Hehe, don’t worry I bet some of us deserve the bad treatment because guys aren’t always so great either :).
I really feel sorry to those heart-broken Bule men who involved with wrong Indonesian Women. I know those kind of women, met them, and as Indonesian woman I do feel ashamed by their behaviours. But come on, not all Indonesian women are that bad. Please don’t generalised. And dont be too confident, not all of Indonesian women fond of white-men. Many of us think that these Bule only want to have fun, sex, party, and that stereotype attracts mostly the gold-digger or the bad women whom some of Bule here met. And many of Indonesian women think that culture and religion differences are matters! Thats why many of us also think that It will be easier to have relationship with a man who has same culture and religion background. And love-affair, well, it exists in all society! You just need to be aware what kind of woman you are involving with.
I agree with that!
This stereotype not only applied for Indonesian women. Same goes for Bule that goes to a night club, bars, etc. As an Indonesian woman, I go to a bar to have fun with my girl friends. Dancing and all. And apparently some of those Bule bars or clubs are a good place to chill with friends; doesn’t mean I go there to hook up with Bule. But almost all Bules over there already have this stereotype about Indonesian women and go trying their chances, thinking am that stereotype of Indonesian women, it’s disgusting for me.
Knowing that Bules think that way about Indonesian women, to objectify them, it makes me sick. And knowing many Indonesian women have no value, objectify themselves, it’s also a very screwed fact. I see them and laugh inside thinking of what a circus show being shown. This is ofc a piece of thought in context of looking at life in general.
This becomes a very classic pattern and now I dont visit those places as much, knowing that people over there mostly have an issue with moral hazard. But aside from my opinion here, I believe there are still many good Bules and Indonesian women that could share the same value, although the chances are not that high. So please read my opinion as one of those Indonesian women, as their thought about Bule and other Indonesian women as well.
Sorry about those Bules’ coming over there running amuck makes me sick seeing that. Fat slobs,losers, it’s cringe seeing them drunk, their bad behaviour. No respect for the culture or people living there. Most Bules are fairly decent from what i can see, it seems the drop kicks head to places like Bali and such.
I agree with your point of views
My ex boyfriend cheated on my with a Jakarta girl who has a son already . The girl is so young like 21yrs old. She slept with my ex the second days asked him for a baby
Yet she hasn’t divorced with her husband. And she is Muslim
I feel ashamed of her.
And she messaged and their lovely photos towards me telling me how much my ex boyfriend loves her and doesn’t want to lose her with their photos
Childish girl i dont give a shit to reply her
Now they are in a relationship
My Australian ex boyfriend is planning to buy house in Indonisia to have a happy ever after with her
God blessed them for a bright future
Wah it seems you truly had a bad experience with indonesian woman
Probably what’s happening is the bule falls in love after sex, not realising the women who are likely to have sex soon are gold